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Kimberly
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April 27 wedding

Kimberly, on March 16, 2020 at 11:07 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 67
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My local wedding is April 27th. No one flying in, 4 people over age 60 invited and I'm being chastised by people for saying I want to take a wait and see approach. I'm in AZ and am an ER nurse. My vendors are all personal friends as my fiance is in the hospitality industry and I feel this could help them with revenue and help bolster all of our spirits. Of course I would ask those sick to not come and will take extra precautions for cleanliness for our guests. Am I being selfish and inrealistic?

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Latest activity by Courtney, on March 17, 2020 at 6:20 PM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I wouldn't say you're being selfish, but maybe a little careless. Symptoms for COVID-19 can take 2-14 days to show. So someone may not think that they're sick and attend your wedding and ultimately infect a large number of people.

  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Thank you Amber for your feedback. I'd hope the nurses who are coming and the friends that we have educated would not be careless and cause harm to anyone. Good luck with your special day!
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    How many people are expected to come?
  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Hi Melle, we figure between 98 and 116, depends on plus ones. I have asked our elderly guests to watch from a live stream. As I stated I am a healthcare professional and safety is always first for me and for my friends. In Arizona we have 12 confirmed cases, and I realize the number is much much higher those who are experiencing minimal symptoms are not tested. If anyone is sick, they would be asked to forgo coming and I truly believe those on my guest list whom are also medical professionals and industry workers completely understand and would participate via live stream as well.
  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
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    I wouldn't postpone if people are local. With you working in the medical field and I assume a good number of your guest do too they will be smart enough to make the decision on their own if they are healthy enough to come. Hand out hand sanitizer as wedding favors! I hope everything works out!

  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Thank you Molly! Yeah we were thinking hand sanitizer as favors too!
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I'm not saying that anyone would intentionally "be careless and cause harm to anyone". I'm just stressing the fact that as you just mentioned, there's a very real possibility that someone can be carrying/spreading the virus without showing any symptoms. Therefore they would be completely unaware that they're sick and shouldn't attend group events. It's in everyone's best interest to follow the precautions set in place by the CDC, especially given the amount of people you're expecting. I don't mean to be harsh, but to deliberately ignore those precautions and proceed anyways is what's careless/selfish in my opinion.

  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Thank you so much for your response Amber. I do appreciate and can understand this very valid point. Good luck with your special day!
  • Sharon
    Dedicated April 2021
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    I'm trying to figure things out as well. My wedding is April 18th and for now we are just cutting down our guest list and asking those with small kids, elderly, pregnant women and family with healthy issues to Please stay home. Good luck

  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    I agree with Molly, take precautions and talk with your venue. If everything is a go then go.
  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    I have to second Amber. You seem to understand the risk, but the CDC is recommending for a reason. A group of a hundred and one carrier can easily become a hundred carriers despite your best attempts. I do not mean to be harsh or rude, but you need to evaluate what is in the best interest of everyone. It's your call at the end of the day, but it is a tough turn for everyone to be navigating these kinds of decisions. Also the cdc is recommending because the government will not command unless they have to, but its telling you politely to reconsider.
  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Hi Sharon! I will keep you in my thoughts. The news. Changes daily as do the recommendations, so it is hard to navigate all this at once. We had zero children and only 4 elderly and no immunocompromised on our list. Good luck to you!!!!!
  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Thank you so much Kathryn. We will definitely continue to watch all recommendations that are being given as they change daily. In 4 weeks if we are asked to postpone 2 more we shall, if the climate changes and recommendations change, that will be wonderful as well. Good luck to you on your special day!
  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Thank you Jasmine, we will be watching the ever changing dialogue daily in order to make the most informed decision. Good luck on your special day!
  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
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    You're welcome!

  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    We had to postpone our 4/4 wedding, so I feel all of your pain. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It's heartbreaking to be so close and then have to wait some more.
  • Sharon
    Dedicated April 2021
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    Thanks Kimberly, so far we only have 4 kids left in the wedding. The other 3 are in Maryland and South Carolina, so they want be here. It maybe like 3 other kids coming with their mother but they are 10-12 years old. Still sorting things out right now.

  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
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    April 18 here, we were taking a similar approach, but now I've changed my mind and we are postponing. Our guests' safety and comfort is our top priority and we don't want anyone feeling unsafe at our wedding.

    Plus, from an economic approach, we don't want to spend the money for 140 people and only have say, 80 show. While we would have fun with the 80, the money that we would have spent for nothing would be a very hard pill to swallow.

  • Kimberly
    Savvy June 2020
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    Good luck Jennifer, my thoughts are with you!!
  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    Once again you are an ER nurse. You know what to do in your area. You know how bad it is or isn’t in your area.

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