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2ndTime
Super October 2017

Appropriate Cash Gift Amount?

2ndTime, on October 4, 2016 at 6:25 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 57

Help! FH and I are headed to a wedding this weekend and I am wondering what an appropriate cash gift amount would be. The bride is a good friend of ours. I had always thought (heard?) that the cash gift should at least be enough to cover the meal being served. Is that right, or antiquated advice? If...

Help! FH and I are headed to a wedding this weekend and I am wondering what an appropriate cash gift amount would be. The bride is a good friend of ours.

I had always thought (heard?) that the cash gift should at least be enough to cover the meal being served. Is that right, or antiquated advice? If so, how the heck do I figure out what that figure would be?

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
    OGJessieJV ·
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    If it was just me, I would give $100 - $150. If it's FH and I, we give $200 - $250 as a couple. If you ask for cash or have a honeyfund, you get a cheesy card with your lowest priced gift on your registry.

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  • Chip
    Master March 2018
    Chip ·
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    I give what I can afford, usually $100. If FH and I go in as a couple we give $200 together (we've only been to one together). For my cousin we're giving 300 together this weekend.

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  • Mrs.Wife
    Super October 2017
    Mrs.Wife ·
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    It depends on how well I know them. We have been giving around $100 for close friends and family. $50 for those not so close or if we have multiple weddings to attend that month. We have been to 5 this year, so giving more isn't realistic considering we have to save for our own.

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  • Honeybee
    Super December 2017
    Honeybee ·
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    I give $100 minimum for weddings.

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  • WolfWedding2016
    Master May 2016
    WolfWedding2016 ·
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    I give what we can afford - which can vary at different times of the year too. We had friends get married at the beginning of the year (and we were paying more of our vendors at the time), so I believe we gave $75. The next wedding in July, I had been promoted and we were better off - so we did $100. The wedding after that was a couple we aren't as close to - and we weren't invited to the ceremony, just the reception. I couldn't get off work but DH still went, and he gave $50. At our wedding, I got a card from a really great card from friends - one of whom nannies and was in between jobs, and her partner is still in grad school so he doesn't make much. The card was more than enough and I was just thankful they were able to come since they had to get a ride out to the wedding!

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  • L
    Devoted October 2016
    Leigh ·
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    I give at least $200 ($100 for FH and $100 for me). Especially now that I know how expensive dinners and weddings are. Lol

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  • NewMrsWesely
    Master September 2016
    NewMrsWesely ·
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    Most of our guests gave $20, a few over $40 and only a very few over $100.

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  • Jessica
    Expert September 2017
    Jessica ·
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    Always depends on what you can afford and work from there.

    We gift 150 to 200 for most weddings. But for FH's best friends wedding in May where he is the best man, we plan to gift like 500.

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  • Kris
    Super September 2017
    Kris ·
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    I usually give $100-$200 depending on whether I gave a shower gift or have to travel for the wedding

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
    Kaylie ·
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    It's definitely what you can afford. We've give only $50 as a couple before because it's what we could afford at the time. I had gifts between $40-$500 at our wedding and I appreciated every last one. No one will judge you for the amount you give, it's the thought that counts. Unless they are a crappy person. Also take into consideration if you got an engagement and/or shower gift, and if you're in the bridal party, how much you spend on all that.

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  • JRA12216
    Expert December 2016
    JRA12216 ·
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    We always gift $100-$150...$200 if it is someone we are super close to. I always factor in how much I can afford based on if I need to pay for a hotel, the shower gift, etc. A long time ago I would only give $50, but at the time I was a college student and that was I could afford. I say do what you feel you can Smiley smile

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  • Gracie
    VIP June 2017
    Gracie ·
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    $150-$250 depending on how formal/extravagant the wedding is.

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  • BoozyBaker
    Master January 2017
    BoozyBaker ·
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    $100 per person minimum. So if FH and I are going, $200 in the envelope. Add an extra $100 or more if they're good friends/you can afford it.

    I don't think anyone turns their nose down at a benjamin.

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    I live in NYC. I typically give an organ. I won't be able to go to many more weddings since I only have one lung and one kidney left.

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  • 2ndTime
    Super October 2017
    2ndTime ·
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    Lol, GymRat. I live outside of NYC and the wedding in question is in Brooklyn. I may up the amount based on what I am reading here.

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  • QueenDavis
    Super October 2018
    QueenDavis ·
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    I'm with Gymrat...lol. Give what you can afford, me and FH gave 100 as a couple at the last wedding we went to.

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  • Sarah
    Dedicated January 2017
    Sarah ·
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    I gave $300 for my sister and $100 for all the other ones I've been to.

    I will be giving a bit more for my close friend, probably $150.

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