Apple cider donuts or more?

View Quoted Comment Ive heard of cronuts but have never had one! I so badly want one haha. It sounds amazing! I have no idea where to get one though?

I agree, it seems like alot of weddings are having the small cake to cut and then other desserts for the guests!

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Can you imagine inviting friends for a dinner party in your home and eating an expensive dessert in front of them but only offering them something cheaper? This is really no different. You asked for advice in a discussion forum, so here's my (and many others') advice: serve your guests whatever dessert you want, but don't eat something in front of them that they aren't allowed to have.

How about you and your spouse cut and share a donut? Save the Nothing cake for another occasion (maybe your rehearsal dinner, if you're having one).

I understand (because you've said it repeatedly) that you have seen this tiered dessert plan before and it didn't bother you. OK, that's fine, you are allowed not to be bothered. But listen to all the voices here who are saying it's not polite. At least some of your guests will feel the same.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the input...but again we are having the bundt cake for ourself at the wedding due to it being our favorite-nothing will be changing that
I asked what I should have with the donuts or if the donuts are fine alone...like cookies/cupcakes/etc.
Also, the guests are invited to be there to celebrate our wedding with us...if guests are upset(which why would any one be) then thats the guests issue. Sorry to vent but what ever happened about the day being about the bride and groom?? All these forums and alot of people say we ALWAYS need to please the guests.that is just not always realistic.

Thanks for the input

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I don't think I mentioned in my other comment on this that we are doing a cake just for ourselves and no one else is eating it. Also its your wedding I've been to plenty of wedding where I did not like the food or dessert and just went to a fast food place afterwords so I could eat. Nobody changed their menu or dessert to accommodate me so you shouldn't have to either. It's your wedding and I think you should do what you want. Have your special cake and just get a bunch of donuts for everyone else. If they don't like it, tough, they don't have to eat it. I know the place we are getting our apple cider donuts from makes a bunch of different ones with different frostings and what not so we are getting like 10 different kinds so people can choose what they want from what we bought.

But hey, my wedding is all over the place lmao and some people on here would have a fit. Barn wedding in June with a buffet style dinner and donuts but its formal attire. Also I bought my dress 2 years before my wedding date. The horror!!

What about getting other flavors of doughnuts too besides just apple cider?

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The ceremony is about the bride and groom, the reception is about the guests. It is considered rude to host a party for other people and not consider their needs. I agree with the other PPs that say it is impolite to have something just for yourself that you are not sharing with your guests.

View Quoted Comment Yesssss!!! This!lol im glad im not the only one thinking this! I agree, ive been to wedding where i hated the food and i went somewhere to eat after..i have dietary issues and i would never expect a wedding to cater to me dietary issues.
Honestly etique is so outdated to me, do what you wanna do!
Oh man barn wedding with a buffet and formal attire!!?? You should he shunned.lol you are breaking so many rules. Honestly your wedding sounds like so much fun!!

View Quoted Comment Eh. Ive considered my guests needs on plently other aspects of the wedding.

According to the forums on here, alot of things are apparently "impolite". My fh and I are doing what makes us happy. Its one day, i personally see nothing impolite about it.
Thanks for your comment though.

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But, I'm guessing at the weddings where you didn't LIKE the food, the B&G didn't serve themselves something different from what they served the guests? That's the issue the OP posted about and some of us are responding to.

View Quoted Comment Omgggg seriously? Actually yes.! At my own brothers wedding he served vegan, all non meat food. It was horrible and they actually ran out of food so some tables didnt get to eat after. And guess what? I went to mcdonalds after?
And guess what?? My brother and his wife had a seperate cake that they love for themselves and omg they had apple cider donuts and cookies and all the guests lived.

View Quoted Comment I think thats what were going to end up doing. Were probably going to have cookies as we

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Then, fine! Have whatever you want to have. Do whatever you want. But, in the future? I probably wouldn't ask people on a public forum for their opinions. Have a fabulous apple cider donut wedding. Yay!

PS -- I wasn't even responding to you, but another pp.

View Quoted Comment In the future may be actually read my post. I asked if the donuts were enough or if I should have something else like cookies? I never asked anyone's opinion if I should have the same thing for my guests that me and my future husband are having. Thanks so much, can't wait for my wedding it's going to be amazing!

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You wrote, "But now im thinking is apple cider donuts enough for our guests? Thoughts?

What are you doing for desserts." So, many of the responses you've received, including mine, actually do respond to that question. My original thought was, personally, donuts aren't enough and I would offer all guests the same dessert you and FH will be eating. Clearly, you don't have to agree with my thoughts, but I can still offer them. Your wedding will be amazing.

View Quoted Comment Hahaha I don't even care if I'm breaking the rules. Its our day so we will have what we want. Most of the people that are coming are aware of our decisions and they are super excited. We are trying to make it us.

View Quoted Comment For dinner no but dessert yes. Ive been to weddings where cake was served to everyone and the bride and groom have had like pastries or vise versa. I’m sure not many people really notice it either. I get what people are saying but Ive never been to a wedding and been like “man that bride and groom ate cake and we didn't get any just we had donuts. Thats not cool.” Its their wedding if they don't want to serve everyone cake, then they shouldn't have to. My FH and I are having a cake to cut and all that jazz but we are doing donuts for everyone and your crazy if I'm not eating a donut or two lol so technically I will be eating what the guests are.

We are going to have a small cutting cake for ourselves (I don't really like cake either, especially icing) and then assorted donuts and ice cream and a coffee bar for the guests. I don't think there is anything weird about having a small cake to cut just for the purpose of cutting a cake and taking a picture and then guests eat a different dessert.

Personally, I'd do more than 1 flavor of donut. But if you just really like those apple cider ones, then whoever doesn't like them doesn't need to eat them.