Anyone??? Wedding stress affecting your relationship?

We definitely fought more about the wedding when we were planning it-- mostly about his mom and maintaining our "vision"

We planned it all in 8 months, any longer and we would have killed each other. I hated it.

Well... I did throw a pencil across the room the other day...

@Itsgoodtobeking... thank goodness I am not the only one LOL! Its like really.... I know we love each other and my FH is normally a calm person... but what is happening to us?

@Lacey LOL thats not bad... how about having your FH threaten to walk home after having some wine and being really upset about me bringing up an ex. OOPS on my part. LOL. Blame it on the a aaaahhhh... alcohol.

Mine has been relatively low stress so far but my two cents for what it's worth is just don't be afraid to delegate. My bridesmaids picked their own dresses online without me even there. Someone else far more crafty than I offered to do all my centerpieces and escort cards. My brothers are in charge of set up and take down. My mother and FMIL are getting together to taste and pick wines. We're planning ours all in 9 months, don't be afraid to ask for help

@Sarah... yeah I am doing everything I can to delegate and keep my stress under control. There is also financial stress because we are trying to come up with everything last minute. I know it will get done it just isn't easy. Plus I know how FH is when he drinks... bringing up the past is def a no no lol.

I would freak out in the car. I did everything myself so little things like passenger seat driving would send me over the edge. We may have had to pull over once or twice because I was too psycho to drive any further.

but we haven't fought like that since, it's been nice and calm

Ironically not as much as I thought it would.

back when I was looking to have it across the country it was, but that was no fault of my groom. that was more because the minister I grew up with couldn't seem to get his head on straight.

yeah, I'm still mad at him. long story short, would tell me one thing then get irritated when it was made clear that he was going to be held to his word.

so anyway, that point was very stressful, but it was my groom that helped me hold it together big time.

we aren't seeing eye to eye on the guest list, but nothing that can't be worked out.

considering the invites just showed up in the mail about 15 minutes ago, think it's about time to make my decision on a few things.

here goes nothing!

We haven't fought at all....I guess we are lucky. Maybe a little annoyance has creeped in occasionally - but it crept right back out

Have the same time frame for planning. We got engaged on Christmas eve, getting married August 2nd. He works long days, and I have questions about the wedding, and he just doesn't want to deal with it RIGHT THEN, when I'm asking. It happens. lol. Don't worry! If I never have to plan a wedding again, it'll still be too soon! Once it's over and done with, I'm sure we'll be much less stressed.

Itsgoodtobeking- FH and i have the same kind of fights! The wedding stress is definitely getting to us! Can it be september yet?!

I am sorry ladies. I guess its good to know I am not the only one. It will soon be here and we can have that "ITS DONE" relief that we need. Planning is so stressful.

We may have had a tiff or two haha. But now that's its all said and done it's been smooth sailing.

You're not the only one. There have been a few things that have gotten us heated up. We usually catch ourselves and simmer down.

Oh what a relief to know we're not the only ones.. just had a big fight with FH few mins ago

Yes.. Well kind of, he has to deal with his mom who won't take no for an answer. He tells her something, and she doesn't like the answer and she keeps asking over and over again. Thankfully he is standing strong. But it stresses me out and it has made me very testy whenever his mom comes up in the conversation. I asked to work Easter just so I dont have to see her before the shower

Yikes. We have had a few arguments and there was some crying, but that was a while ago. Things are calmer now. I think I have learned to pick my battles and approach him at certain times of the week. He has learned to suck it up a little bit and talk wedding every now and then. It's been good

Fingers crosssed, we haven't had any arguments or fights over wedding things. FH is pretty easy going with the wedding planning....he is actually pretty easy going in general and doesn't stress over too much. The only things he has been extremely adamant on are having a videographer, and not doing a first look....so I've let him have those two things, since he is letting me do basically everything else.

Good luck though! You only have 11 days left and then you can call him your Husband and all of the wedding planning stress will be over!

See in completely happy with our 15 month engagement I've been tackling projects every month. I'm ahead of the game now. My FH and I bicker but no blow out fighting it's been good. I'm also excited to say with 4 months left I can't wait for it to get here and be over with!

We had some fighting over small tiny details which really are not worth fighting for the week before the big day. But I think the most important part is making up to each other and acknowledging the wedding is adding this kind of stress especially when you are that close. Just remind each other how great it will be after the wedding is done and you won't have to fight about the details. Just remember that neither with you are experts, there are things you may want to incorporate which he thinks won't work and is stupid but at the end the only way you know it does not work for you two is the day of.

I for example wished I just never made the head table. The FH and I argued on it, I wanted a spot for family and the bridal party to sit and he thought we will never use it. In the end, we never really used it as we had a standup cocktail style reception so we mingled and walked around. Then there was my angry mother who expected she should be sitting on it the whole time with me beside her because she wanted to be in the spotlight.