Anyone have trouble parting with YOUR last name?

I wasn't sure what to do about that either. I am very attached to my last name. I only have on middle name so I could always make my last name another middle name but I decided on hyphenating it. Yes my last name is 7 letters and his is 9 but it flows good all together. It also makes me feel like I'm keeping my past, present and adding our future. He is cool either way but I do know it will hurt a little if I decided I didn't want his name. I want them all LOL. As far as for when we have kids they will just have his last name. No hyphen for the kids.

I will be changing my name, but there are a few reasons that it would be nice to keep it. My last name is unique (at least the spelling is...) and I have honestly never met someone that wasn't related to me with the same last name. Also, my siblings are all girls and when we're all married, out last name will be kind of gone . Plus, just the inconvenience of changing EVERYTHING is a pain. But, I will still be changing it.

I am also really torn by this- I have 12 years invested into a career and I feel like I could hyphen it but my last name is 10 letters while FH is only 5...

Both of my co-workers that had developed careers b4 marriage are hyphened...

We can all have a moment of silence for the loss of our names together...

I am having a hard time too, I do love my name and my fiancée has a crazy franco-german name no one can pronounce. LOL!

He even said that I didn’t have to change my name because he would never give up his.

All that said, I plan to use my maiden name as my middle name and take his last name. With our names it works WAY better than hyphenating.

I am taking my FHs last name and I CANT wait. My last name is hyphenated and Ive always hated it in school growing up and even in the real world. Its like people dont know what to do when they see a hyphenated last name. Anytime I go somewhere and I have to give my full name I tell them "Courtney ______-_______, its hyphenated" they only usually listen to the 2nd name ... etc, its terrible. But this is actually kind of funny because yesterday one of the women in HR asked me if when I get married will I have 3 last names. I said NO!! Ive been waiting my whole life to get rid of the hyphen! Haha.

I really love my last name. It's easy to pronounce, at the beginning of the alphabet, & it's 'me'. I have one brother & he'll carry on our name, but it's still hard. I am contemplating hyphenating it, but I'm not entirely sure. I want to talk to FH about this at some point to see how he feels. I go back & forth haha.

Yep!!! I don't have a middle name, so I wanted to keep my last name as my middle, was talking to FH and he's not to keen on me keeping it. I'm not worried though, he'll come around. It's not like i don't want his last name at all, just want to keep mine for a middle name.

Hi Everyone,

I'm new here and just wanted to respond to this post. I am keeping my name for many of the reasons already listed (nobody to carry on my family name, professional reasons, I actually like my name better and I feel it is a large part of my identity, etc.). Another reason I don't think I've seen anyone else have is my FH was previously married, and because he had a child with his ex, she chose to keep his name. I don't want to have the same name she does. I don't like that she has my FH's name, but I can't do anything about it. My FH would like it if I changed my name but totally understands my reasons for not doing it.

I didn't change my last name

I love my maiden name. I am thinking of Hyphen? But then I have been hearing of the drama with the Hyphen ie. people not being consistent as to how the list you? sometimes they'll use the first or they'll use the last name only.

My last name stands out. It is easy to remember me by my last name.

Nope, not having any troubles parting with my last name!

Ok ladies here is a laugh for you and it already has been for most of my family and friends, My last name is Dangerfield, and FH is Cowart, so yes it is weird giving up my last name and replacing it with that lol.

I had the same issue a couple of months ago! There are way more girls in my family and not many boys that will carry on the last name, plus, I have been "me" for so long, BUT- on the other hand, I am so excited to change my name because we already have two children together and my youngest has my (maiden) name as his first name, so i will be happy to not have to explain that no my son's first and last name are not the same, AND that yes, their father and i had children before marriage *ugh*

None whatsoever. I don't have relationship with my dad or his side of the family so I have no reservations about giving up my last name. The only complaint I have is that FH's last name is SUPER common and boring. But hell, at least I'll never again have to say "Hi, I'm calling regarding blahbity blah. My name is S. LastName. Let me spell that for you..."

NOP, I am the last real full blood with my last name, I mean real bc I have a couple adopted cousins who also have my last name (if this makes any sense). Though they are adopted, the name has already carried on anyways, my 2 male cousins each have two boys w/ our last names.

I had a hard time with the idea of parting with my last name. Not because of ending the name with me (I have 2 brothers with 4 kids each).

I've spent years with my last name. I've built a reputation with it. My military records/medals/awards are in my maiden name. My college diploma is in my maiden name. I've accomplished alot with that name, and I'm very proud of it.

So, I hyphenated. My DH knows he married a very independent woman who has accomplished things with her name. It's a part of who I am, and part of the reasons he married me. So, I just added his to mine.

My mother dropped her middle name and made her maiden name her middle name when she and my dad got married.

I was excited about changing it until the day came. I felt a little sad about it. I would have procrastinated but he was so excited that I knew I would never get away with waiting lol.

I am going to take FH last name. I am sad though because my current initials are AAA. I dont have any brothers to carry on the name either. My dad is Henry the fourth, my grandpa the third and so on, so if i had a son and kept my name he could be Henry the fifth. FH didnt like that idea though. But I do have a lot of 2nd cousins and other relatives with my last name, so it will never die out. But we are both pretty traditional and taking his name is in the best interest of having a family. its just that AAA and AAP dont flow as nicely. Im just glad i don't have an R name in there so its AARP. lol.

I had a really hard time with this. I am the only girl of 3 boys and I have a male cousin so the name wasn't dying with me. But I've had that name for 31 years, it's who I am. I also love my middle name and the way it was spelled so I didn't want to drop it. I considered just adding my DH name onto mine but he wasn't happy. He wanted to go the traditional route. It wasn't until our wedding day did I change my mind. I was more at peace with it then. But I did shed a tear in the SS office! And all the paper work to change your name is such a headache!!!

YES!!! I've always felt like it's crazy to hyphen you name. But I think i'm going to. I'm very big on family and family history. My fiance doesn't know his dad's side of the family so pretty much he is walking around with a last name that he knows nothing about. Also I'm the only child for both my mom and dad and my mom and dad were never married.