Anyone have jealous siblings?

*raises hands and jumps up and down* Me!! My younger sister, just turned 22, is like this, always has been since she was old enough to talk. She can't stand anyone, especially me, having something she preceives as better than what she does. FH and I were talking about getting married a few years ago. When she found this out and rushed to get married to her baby daddy. It was a small, but nice ceremony in a fire hall. She left the next day for her HONEYMOON with her friends and left him home with their two kids. The separated like a month later. She only got married because she thought I was going to get a chance to have our dad walk me down the aisle first and she couldn't stand that. I am having a wedding in a nice hotel, not huge, but bigger than hers and now she complains that I am getting a ,"real" wedding. First off, we are paying for most of our wedding. She contributed nothing to hers, our parents paid for it because they were 19 and had no money. 2nd , her wedding was real, she just didn't take it seriously. So with all that said ,I feel your pain and her jealousy is a big reason she's not in my wedding party.

She went on her honeymoon without him? WTF.

I am not going through the exact same thing but it's similar. Fh's brother is extremely jealous. He is mad FH moved out first, has done a bunch of cool stuff, is getting married first etc. He's super rude about it. He's 4 years younger than FH but doesn't seem to understand that.

@Britt That is not a honeymoon... that is called a "Girlfriends Getaway" or something. Lol wtf.

@OP, I have not had to deal with this, but it sounds awful. Are you close enough that you could pull him aside and talk to him?

Yep, told him she was driving her friends home and just kept going. Stayed gone for like a week. She never really wanted to get married she just wanted to be able to say she did it before me. She's a hot mess.

Luckily, my sister is happy for me. When she got married, it was at town hall and then my mother and I had a small, informal cookout for them later. That was the wedding she wanted (I offered to help her do more if that was what she wanted). I am getting the wedding I wanted. But one of my best friends (who is also a bridesmaid) is always making comments such as "I wouldn't wear white because I have a kid" (um, I have 2 kids, is that judgement your passing on my choice of color) or "I would never spend that kind of money on a wedding, I would just go to Vegas and save the rest". Mind you she doesn't have a boyfriend and hasn't had a steady BF in years. She is so jealous, I think her skin will be changing to green any day now!

We haven't talked in so long because of his wife..long story. He keeps saying that "we're getting everything and anything we want because we're engaged and nothing was ever done for them when they were getting married." My family paid for their entire wedding, made all of the food for the reception AND bought her a wedding dress.

Ahhh Theresa, you also know the Queen of Passive Aggressive Land?! What a coincidence, I thought the Queen lived in my city! Hahaha

(Im being super bratty today... )

My sister had been engaged 3 years(On my bday) and only started mentioning her wedding the day I got engaged. Now my other sister just randomly got engaged to I dont even know who bc they just started dating, and they now all of the sudden are getting married before me(In 2 months)..Oh well mine will at least last

The best part is "they have been thinking for a while and want to do a vow renewal and have it be the wedding they've always wanted to have"

I have an interesting alternative perspective on this…

My younger brother got engaged last year after being with his partner for about 6 or 7 years. I got engaged shortly afterwards, although me and FH had only been together 8 months. Our wedding is a few weeks before my younger brother's.

To some this could look like the brattish behaviour that some of you are talking about.

However, our decision to get married had nothing whatsoever to do with my younger brother's engagement - it is just that we both knew that is what we want and we want to start a family. We would like to be married first, and don't want to wait too long (especially as we are in our 30's). We were quite restricted in terms of dates as I don't get to choose when I take holiday - the company closes for two weeks in August and two at Christmas. We couldn't have the wedding in August because of my brother's date (which is the 15th) so had to move it sooner so that we could have a honeymoon not too long after the wedding - we didn't want to do it in the winter and didn't want to wait until next year before trying to start a family.

Sometimes people are brats. And other times they are just doing what is right for them which might coincidentally look brattish!

My FH has 2 older sisters. The oldest is 29, the other 26 (like me). FH is 24. The 29 year old is fine with everything. She and her bf have been together for a little more than a year and while they want to get married, they want to wait another year or two before they get engaged. However, the 26 yr old is a super brat and hates for anyone to have anything she doesn't have. When FH and I started telling people the date, she called family a week or so later and said (depending on who she was talking to) that the wedding had been either a) pushed back to 2015 or b) called off completely. When we confronted her about it, she yelled at me that I hadn't asked her permission to marry her baby brother, that I was forcing him to get married too young, and that because she is older she is supposed to get married first. Drama Llama.

My sister thought I was crazy for remarrying. I think she was jealous that I got away from my first husband. LOL

Oh gosh, yes :/ My twin (we are 24) and I stopped talking almost a year ago because she keeps telling me that my fiancé and I are going to get divorced. I'm not mad at her for that, that's just the type of person she is. But I just won't respond to her because there is no reason to bring in that drama. But long story short, she was dating the guy less than a year and I had been dating mine for over 2 years. She kept pressuring us to get married because she's in everyone's business. We picked out rings already but I didn't tell her that because I like privacy. She kept telling us "Well, you guys expect to get divorced" and "You guys won't work through things, you would just get divorced" because I told her that her boyfriend's friend was wrong and the wife should have divorced him (they are mad at his friend's wife because his friend started a child prostitution ring at their daughter's school and she divorced him. They are mad at the mother because now she is ruining her daughter's life by divorcing her husband without working through it and will have to find a new church and everything since she isn't allowed back to that one.). She kept saying that “We would never get divorced because it’s against his religion” (mind you, her boyfriend has already been married and had a kid and got divorced within 3 years of all that. When I bring this up, my sister responds “Yeah, but he didn’t want to get divorced, she made him!”)

So my boyfriend and I got engaged after being together for 3.5 years and after living together. My sister got engaged 2 weeks later after we got engaged. She kept telling me she was pressuring him to propose because she wanted people to be able to shop for their bridal shower on Black Friday so they could get twice as many gifts. They got married less than 3 months after being engaged. Her reason: “Well, you know, we haven’t slept together yet…” Which she later told me that they did sleep together once, while the divorce was still not finalized from the previous marriage. So after her constantly dropping subtle “you’re getting divorced” bombs to me every time we talk and me just responding with one word answers (and not responding at all when she swears at me after giving one word answers), I was uninvited to the wedding, but ended up going after being scolded by her for saying I would respect her wish and not go because I didn’t want to upset her on her day. Where she sat me at the very back corner at the table with the relatives she doesn’t speak to. She now sends me random swear-filled texts and scolds me for not speaking to her and she hasn’t done anything wrong and I’m *insert any non-creative insult here*.

This whole time my mom has been on my sister’s side. While it was her wedding, she told me to shut up and do whatever my twin says. Now I’m starting to plan my wedding, my mom is mad at me for not doing what my twin says. And now my mom is telling everyone we are intentionally excluding her from our plans, even though we are literally going out of our way to include her and she keeps turning us down when we invite her to things. So it’s just been fantastic. I’ve always been the responsible child and took care of myself. My twin, still lived at home two months ago and my mom still pays her bills. I’ve already owned a townhouse condo on my own, and now just purchased a home with my fiancé. I’m stuck driving 50 minutes south to take care of my mom’s dogs and pay some of their bills because they are too busy paying two of my sisters’ bills for them.

So yeah…. it’s been great. At least my fiancé and I are on the same page that my family are the monster in-laws and we need to limit ties with them when we are done.

Jemma you and I are in similar situations. My FSIL and her FH got engaged in October getting married on the anniversary of their engagement. FH proposed to me in January, and we are marrying the June 28. FSIL is 100% ecstatic though. The day she announced her engagement the next thing out of her mouth was that my FH needed to get the ball rolling.

We had to chose a date around when FH son was with us, we wanted to stay within the same year as his sister because FFIL is in bad health, and we really wanted to start TTC.

I think it's hitting my older sister now. She had been looking for a house for a while, and then a week or two before the wedding, she'll be closing on one. The house is "okay" but I really don't think it's what she would want if she waited a little longer. So, it's like she wants people to pay more attention to her now that she's buying house, and then she even was trying to finagle our wedding gifts away from us so she could fill up her house with new things (and calling our used stuff "crap," and that she doesn't want anything but new things), so she may never admit it, but she's jealous about the attention we're getting/I've gotten over the last 6 months or so since people really started get excited about the wedding.

I just don't understand it. These are our siblings, they should be over the moon happy that we've found love and want to get married. Not acting (for the most part) like jealous brats.

My siblings and I are really spread out. My older brothers are 37 and 35, I'm 25 and our little sister is 15. My 35 year old brother got engaged last July and we got engaged in October and we're getting married 5 weeks apart but honest to god there is no jealously there at all.

My little sister is a 15 year old through and through. She's moody, difficult and sometimes a flat out bitch. Our fights usually end in me telling her I can't wait until she's 19 and I actually like her!

My sister is happy for us, but I have a very jealous friend. She ended up quitting the bridal party and refusing to come to my bridal shower because I didn't throw her a "house warming party". She didn't buy a house... -__-

She rented an apartment by herself, when before she was renting an apartment with roommates. She wanted us to throw her a big party and she wanted to make a registry and everything. I tried to explain to her that house warming parties aren't showers, and that they are usually thrown by the person who bought the house and people bring small gifts like plants or bottles of wine, etc, if they want to. She got really pissy about it.

She also met this guy online and started talking about marriage within weeks. Lol

He's still seeing other people, but she swears he's "The One".

@PattyCakes oh dear. I have a friend kind of like that. I get engaged and now all of a sudden, she wants to be engaged, too. I can't talk to her about wedding stuff because she starts talking about the things she wants for her non existent wedding.