Anyone have any Monster In-laws?

Depends on the week lol. Overall they have added a ton of stress but now being only 5 weeks out, things seem to have finally settled.

My FH's parents won't even acknowledge me so I guess I can count myself lucky that i don't have to deal with the stress of Monster-in-Laws

My FH mother was super close to his wife that passed away. She believes that you only have one true love and that if something happens you should never remarry. So from the moment she found out about me she has hated me. I have only been around her twice and it was horrible. When she did talk to me it was to insult me or she talks about me as if I am not there. She is not even sure she is coming to the wedding. Lucky my FH sticks up for me with her.

My FMIL and FSIL only made me stressed because they wanted mariachis at the ceremony and reception. When I told them that is very nice but, we already have a choir for the ceremony but, they could go to the reception for an hour... They still got mad and said "well we want them for 2 hours" I was like "2 hours is wayyyyyy to long to hear mariachis and it will take up too much of the reception time." That was the only time they were difficult. But, I feel like they will be difficult when it comes to what they wear.

View Quoted Comment Oh no. I think that counts as stressful monster-in-laws. I'm so sorry.

Sadly my ffil passed away in January after a traumatic head injury. My fmil and I get along well. There are things we don't necessarily agree that is wedding related but it's my wedding and we are paying for it. I do ask her advice and consider her suggestions but for the most part we have everything already figured out.

Oh yes. Fiance has a... Strained relationship with his parents. Long story short they've never said the exact words that regret adopting him but they've made it pretty clear.
Sister in law #1 has said she hates me and I am not part of her family 🙄
Mother in law has become much more tolerable and I think it's because she knows I do not spare feelings and will absolutely cuss them all out.
Sister in law #2 has been pretty good.
I could write a book on my complaints about father in law.

No, I get along with my future parents in law. I dislike my FH’s brother, but fortunately, he doesn’t add stress.

Wow. I absolutely feel bad for those of you who aren’t acknowledged by their in-laws. That DEFINITELY counts as being a monster. It’s just so childish. For those of you stand up for yourselves, keep doing it! To the person who has crappy adoptive parents, they shouldn’t be allowed to come. Those of you who do get along with your in-laws, count yourself blessed.

View Quoted Comment Sheesh. That sounds like my fiancé. He’s getting the good end of the stick. My parents are so chill. His parents divorced a few years back after decades of marriage. It was a horrendous divorce.

Fortunately, I don’t play with them. They haven’t seen my full personality because my fiancé protects them to an extent. He will try to be form with them, but they treat him like a child.

View Quoted Comment At least you have that. I haven’t asked her for anything. I never want to. She is the type that will do things for you and brag for ages about it.

View Quoted Comment That’s great! That seems like a easy family transition.

S/n: it’s not that I don’t get along with them because I’m cordial, but I’m not a fan of their juvenile behavior.

View Quoted Comment That’s awful. She wouldn’t be allowed to attend if it was my wedding. How dare she! If she can’t see me, then she can see her way out of the wedding.

My inlaws are wonderful no complaints here. I ask if they have any concerns and they give inputs but ntn other than that

Honestly, my MIL is not too bad. I mean considering some of the other stories out there. She had a crazy dependency on her son and my now husband. She is also married and has a daughter but she automatically didn't like me because I refused to go over every weekend. One day hubby (then boyfriend) told her she needed to chill and back off because she was causing a strain in our relationship. Plain and simple I just did not want to add that family dynamic until I knew we'd be serious. So she backed off, but let me tell you that if hubby would not have taken that step we may not be the happy married couple we are today. She always needed hubby to go with her when she went shopping because you know he was strong and blah blah blah, half of the time she would give him some sort of sob story about how she didn't have any money so he'd end up paying. Now don't get me wrong if she really needed help for the simple necessities yes I get it but I also saw that when we'd go over they always made sure to have a case or 2 of beers and some premium liquor, usually tequila. Or step dad would need to buy tires for his car yet again for the 2nd time this year, what are you serious? I mentioned a few times to hubby that it was not cool for them to prioritize alcohol or other crazy expenses and then be without food, or money or gas. I do their taxes so I know how much they make and because of that I also know their expenses and the amount of items they need to pay compared to their income totally gives them more than enough because they don't have car payments. They should not be struggling but then again they shop like they make millions, lol. its crazy. I am just glad that hubby has noticed this because its hard to deal with this knowing he's being taken advantage of.

Wow. It's worse than I thought out there! Omg I feel so bad for those of you going through this! I am the luckiest woman alive! Not only do I have an awesome fiance, whom I love more than anything, but my FMIL and FFIL are a dream!! They couldn't be sweeter, and they welcomed me into their hearts from the first moment I met them. They have also welcomed my daughter and granddaughter, and made them part of the family too. I couldn't ask for better future in-laws, really. I almost feel guilty sharing about them, because so many of you have horror stories. I am grateful everyday for the family I am marrying in to.

Now, before you all roll your eyes at me, there is one not so bright spot. FH and his brother have had a bit of a falling out, and haven't spoken in about 11 months. Some of you may remember my post about it, where I wondered what I could do to help mend their relationship, and if I should invite them to the wedding, even though FH said he didn't want them there. So, there is that. However, I just go on with my life anyway, so FBIL/FSIL aren't causing me any stress at all.

I actually feel so blessed to have my MIL! She has been so supportive and loving to me ( I realize this is one in millions lol). When FH and I moved in together it was quick and rushed because we had a lot of bad family situations going on on both sides so we just left and his relationship with his parents was strained until about a year ago. I asked her to go dress shopping with me and my bridal party and she was just over the moon that I wanted to include her. Compared to my sister's relationship with her MIL I feel so lucky lol! However, her daughter is getting married in less than a week, and she has been so distracted with it that I'm hoping once it's over she doesn't shift her attention to mine and turn into a zilla!

Mine have been great! They offer their opinions when asked but haven't been overbearing at all!

No, and I am so thankful! about 8 years ago I was engaged this other guy, his mother was mean, manipulative and controlling (not to mention a bit racist). glad me and that guy didn't work out because I couldn't imagine that woman being my MIL.

I'm so glad my current MIL adores me

Mine are fine. They weren't exactly excited when we told them we were engaged, but they've come around and I think his mom is starting to like me more. His sister is the one that's hard to deal with, it changes day-to-day whether we are friends or not and I just try to roll with the tides. If there's one thing I won't let anyone do, it is have the satisfaction of feeling like they affected me in any negative way on our wedding day.