Anyone have a fiance that is too involved in your wedding planning?

We make all of the decisions together. Sometimes he’ll just give me the “whatever you want” and other times he has strong opinions. We have divided tasks (like I’m in charge of contact with the photographer and florist, while he deals with the cake and musicians.) I love that FH is involved and that he never minds when I want to talk about wedding things. It’s his day too, and it’s something I’m constantly aware of!

But it is his wedding too? Why does he need to back off? FH and I have met with every vendor together. Any time send emails we CC eachother in. As far as paying ahead, maybe see if you can comptamise and put the money into a money order for each vendor so it isnt spendable but you havent prepaid risking loosing more money.

My FH is too involved with things I don’t want him to be lol! he’s pretty carefree until it comes like our first dance song. We have tow completely different styles of music, so that is fun. Or like colored napkins?! I was okay with plain because people just use them and don’t really remember those, but he wanted navy lol.

He’s cute though, so it’s okay.

We put aside cash to pay vendors on the day of and let our DOC take care of it. Worked out great, and no debt due to this system! That might be a good compromise?

Divide and conquer your to do list! Do you need to talk to the DJ? Probably not, so let him do it. You both dont need to do each thing together. And why not pay for everything in advance if you can? There is no drawback to this.

I don't understand why you mentioned doing a conference call with the DJ as a bad thing. My ex was a DJ and we always met the couple before their wedding to get a sense of their personalities and go over the music they like. I think it's a great thing and would recommend meeting your DJ to do this or at the very least have a conference call like your FH wants. Your FH should be as involved in the planning as you are because it's his wedding too. However, I would not recommend paying vendors in full before your deadlines with them. There are drawbacks to doing so such as them taking your money and disappearing. Yes it has happened. Conversely, it has also happened that the couple either cancel or postpone the wedding and then can't get their money back.

My fiancé is not involved enough.

View Quoted Comment Yes I plan to have my DOC handle the vendor payments as well. I have finally convinced him it was not a good idea to pay them in advance so we have the money in an interest bearing account for now. 59 days to go!

View Quoted Comment I guess I am used to most brides saying their finances left them to do the planning so it shocks me that he wants to be so involved. As a project manager I plan for a living so I felt that I have everything under control.

So, he's "too involved " but you're not? Would you be upset if he asked you to back off a little in the planning? I'm guessing yes so why is it ok for you to ask him to be a little less involved? Why is it more your wedding than his?

Um...nothing? It’s his wedding just as much as it is yours. There’s no such thing as being too involved with planning your own wedding. Not to mention, wanting to speak to your DJ before the day of is pretty typical.

I have to say that you are lucky.
My FH is also OCD , so first he was saying that he doesn't care and when i had already made lots of decisions the he interrupted and changed everything
At the beginning I was really mad that most of the decisions were made by him not me, but, well this is the guy who i will spend my life with ...so it is better to learn from this experience.
So, dont worry, enjoy the ride and use your womanly magic when needed.

My FH is handling a lot of our decisions and paying for them. I picked what I wanted to handle and gave him the rest to share duties.