Anyone fearing the Best Man speech?

No, I really like my Fh's best man.

No. It's Matthew's twin. Matthew gave a really heart warming speech for his wedding. I think it'll be equally as nice

We did toasts and speeches at the RD, so if things went off the rails at least it would be in front of a smaller audience.

Probably the worst best man speech I saw was a rambling, incoherent mess about "creativity," something something about guitars. He was clearly unprepared, it made absolutely no sense and I just about died of the secondhand awkward. He didn't even mention the bride, which I thought was peculiar and fairly rude.

I think it's important for the groom to talk to the best man about expectations - don't be crass, do be funny, and that an ideal speech is like a skirt. It should be long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to stay interesting.

Personally, I think every speech should be limited to three minutes, and people should get yanked off the stage like it's Showtime at the Apollo.

Love it Shannon S.! I work at a golf course and when there are outdoor weddings I can hear all the speeches. I once heard a maid of honor go on and on about this one night in college when the bride was, "so drunk, I mean I've never seen her that drunk, she was so drunk it was crazy..." I mean hello her parents, grandparents, etc. are there. Have some respect! Get some new material.

Omg yes. FH's best friend is like my brother...and he is the most wildly inappropriate person I know on this earth. He will go out of his way to get dagger eyes from me, and our wedding will be noooo different.

Nope. The BM is FH's younger brother and he's awesome. I think it'll be a more heartfelt speech rather than trying to be funny.

To me, awkward is okay if it's brief. Too many people go on for WAY too long. Like the maid of honor speech that started with a cute story about middle school...and turned into a dramatic reading of some paper they had cowritten in eighth grade. Then a bunch of inside jokes. ENOUGH ALREADY. If you didn't know them then, it's not all that entertaining. Siddown and shaddup so I can go refresh my drink.

I'm a little scared. The best man is my FH BFF and I came along and broke up their bromance LOL. Not my doing, FH just liked spending as much time with me as possible. I do like the best man and when we are together, we always pretend there is a rivalry going on between us but it's all in fun. When I first met the best man, he drilled me with questions about my intentions with FH lol like a father drilling his daughter's new boyfriend. He does tell me just wait until the speech but I'm sure he will have something funny but really nice to say. In the meantime he will just try to scare me and make me wonder lol. Can't wait to hear it... Usually he texts me when he can't get ahold of FH or asks me if FH can come out to play haha but I can talk to him if I need his opinion on something about FH. We have a good relationship

I'm terrified. The BM is my FH twin, I'm hoping he keeps it to a nice toast and doesn't start rambling - he's a rambler and has a very different sense of humor.

That reminds me of another awkward best man speech. The BM was the groom's identical twin, and he started making comments about how they probably don't seem all that different in the dark so maybe there would be a switchup on the wedding night...really. I mean, REALLY.

Then again, this was a wedding with a four-hour gap, which the wedding party spent cruising around in a limo and drinking heavily. So by the time they got to the reception they were all roaring drunk.

At a wedding this summer the BM rambled and we were all like, what the hell is he talking about. Some long story about a road race with no apparent punch line/ending. Was almost 15 minutes long. Keep the inside jokes to a minimum. Melissa you are probably right that the BM will be sweet and respectful. Sounds like you get along.

My cousin's husband's best man (got all that) gave a really funny, relevant, well-thought out speech.

I thought our best man would be a bit colorful, but he kept it really tame. I was sort of disappointed because he's a fun guy, quirky sense of humor, and I just felt like he played it safe, too safe.

Ya I'm nervous. FH's best man is very inappropriate and crass. I love him...but I think in going to hate his speech. I'm nervous about my MOH's speech too though. She has a history of telling embarrassing stories about me to make herself look better.

I had a little bit of anxiousness about it, but figured that our BM (DH's BIL) knew that the inappropriate comments we all enjoy on a regular day weren't so good for our wedding reception. He ended up giving a funny and heartfelt speech where he got to pick on us a bit, but still be sweet and appropriate.

Worrying isn't going to change it, so try not to stress about it!

Our best man is my future stepson who is sixteen. He is not even sure he wants to give a speech, so I am certain that if he decides to do one it will be very short.

I'm not fearing the best man but I have one of my FH's friends I want to not invite so bad. He's fine when he's sober but he's NEVER sober and then he is just obnoxious. The texted my FH a bunch of congrats and I'm so happy for you texts after we got engaged and then got drunk and posted on our facebook post about how he was selling his sole to the devil by getting married and he'll get him a hooker if he gets bored of **** one woman. I was so mad. I don't want him there. I DON'T!

My FH asked my brothers to both be groomsmen so I'm not even quite sure who gives the speech... My one brother is fairly good at speeches but my other brother when he was a BM last time choked up and the somewhat senile grandmother yelled, "Bock, bock! Chicken!" It was over 10 years ago and I still laugh when I think about it. Soooo kind of hoping they just decide to have the other brother do it??

But no, I'm not really fearing it.

My only fear is he will be too nervous. I love our best man but he is a very introverted individual. I've even told him if he doesn't want to give it, one of the other groomsmen will, but he said no, he wanted to so that ball is in his court.

He was kidding me last weekend that his speech was going to start out with "Well we all just love Ian, but god that CeCe... too bad you guys are married now."

I would just about die of happiness if I heard a speech that started with "Bock bock chicken!"

FH's "best man" is his sister.

I am terribly afraid of anyone in his family speaking. They think they are funny but just end up sounding incredibly rude.

:/