Anyone else skip the bridesmaid proposal thing?

I did that. I feel kinda bad I didn't propose though just because it would have been cute aha

I got a TINY gift for my girls. My FH didn't get his guys anything.

It was nothing fancy or over the top.

I did. I never knew it was a thing until I started visiting these forums. I feel kinda bad that I didn't do anything for my girls, but none of them knew it was a thing either, so they didn't feel left out. I just talked to each one in person, or on the phone (my sister lives out of state), and asked them, and they were thrilled!! So, I guess no harm, no foul!

I literally asked all my bridesmaids over text.

And my MOH I just told her that she was going to be that, but she's also my best friend since we were 16 and we've always talked about being each others MOH's.

What I might do is just give them each something special to wear at the wedding that they can wear again after, like a piece of jewelry or a hair clip.

I sent them cards, no big proposal or gift.

We didn't do it. And I don't think they are a good idea. People who are approached to be bridesmaids with an elaborate "proposal" may find it hard to say no. And then you get lots of drama later on, as they really didn't want to be there (and in some cases, couldn't afford to be there) anyway.

Ok thanks guys! Feeling better now. I honestly was just SO excited to ask my crew (same with fiancée) that I didn't even think of taking the time to propose in any way. I'm definitely going to get them a gift at wedding time though. My maid of honour was hiding in the bushes taking photos when fiancée proposed... I asked her as soon as I saw her. haha

I just asked i never did a birdesmaid proposal

It's totally fine. I did formal proposal boxes AFTER I texted each girl individually, so they knew it was coming. I've been in two weddings, one just asked over the phone and one sent a card.

I just asked them in person/on the phone(those OOT), and it was perfectly fine!

Hi Anna! I didn't do the bridesmaid proposal. FH and I just asked everyone that we wanted to be apart of our special day. I will be providing my girls with makeup on the day of, getting ready outfits, and bridesmaid beach bags filled with gifts.

I originally went crazy and started getting the proposal boxes ready when I first got engaged, nothing too expensive, I think I spent about $10-$15 per box (5 boxes)... well first of all I’m glad I listened to the advice here and waited to asking my girls... my friendship with one of them is non existent at this point... and the other 4 I’m still very close with.. anyways I’m upset because we live in separate states so I’d have to mail them out... which now that I’m ready to do I realized how expensive is going to be.... so I’m canceling that and just sending them one of those proposal cards on the mail...

We didn't do it. I just asked on the phone or in person when I saw them. I personally think it's way over the top and a little silly. But everyone is different. Nothing wrong with not doing it!

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100% this.

I did not do a proposal box or gift. I asked verbally and that is it.

I just asked those I could in person and the rest over the phone via text or phone call.

I didn't give a gift but I sent a scratch off card in the mail that revealed the "Will you be my bridesmaid?" question. My ladies are spread all over the world and in different time zones so trying to do it in person would have been way too difficult to plan.

You could always do the boxes as a thank you gift. I would steer clear of items that say bridesmaid as I have found out they are a one time use only deal.

I actually don't like the bridesmaid proposal things! I think they're weird!
I honestly got over excited and just looked at my maid of honor and said "you know you're the maid of honor right?" She just laughed and said yes she knows. I wish I had a more polite conversation with her about it, but we've known each other for so long we had discussed it before I was engaged.

Honestly, the whole "bridesmaid proposal" thing is a social media/pinterest fueled new(er) trend. I've been in 7 weddings, and never received a bridesmaid proposal for any of them. I made my girls a silly little card, but that was it. Not knocking the people who do it, no denying it's a cute idea, but I definitely didn't have room in my budget for proposals AND nice thank-you gifts.