Anyone else not having dancing??

We are having dancing. I couldnt have a wedding without it! we are putting the dj equipment by the big tree by the grass- theres an electrical outlet there. and then if you look at the patio it lines in it... well one kinda curves.. and thats where we are cutting of "the dance floor" tables will be spread along the rest of the patio (we are setting up to seat 100). We put our cake and food inside to allow enough room to seat everyone.

if you arent having dancing- what else are you doing? there should be something to fill that time.

We didnt have a dj in our budget so we are paying a friend in beer (FH makes his own) and he is using our computer. We downloaded a free dj program, and all the songs. We will be renting a PA system and that is costing us $105.

I used to be a planner and I planned a wedding last november with NO DANCING, no garter or bouquet toss. It was spectacular! The Theme was "theater". So we there was a comedian for entertainment and we had a playwright who wrote several 10 minute skits that were based on experiences the couple have had since they have known one another. For the guests, they entered the reception and enjoyed a night at the theater. There was lighting and a live band that only played during intermission or when a song was needed for the skit and the playwright wrote the comedian into the skit. It was basically the bride 50 yrs later telling her granddaughter what "real love" is all about via her memories of the years before they got married. The ushers wore white gloves and used flashlights to seat the guests, their was a custom made "playbill" with the "cast" (wedding party) etc. The escort cards were custom made theater tickets with a perforated end so the ushers could give the guest the other

Part of the ticket. It was excellent!

You can definitely make it an interesting event. You just have to get creative. Try and find a theme that will allow you work in some things you really love to do that will make it fun for your guests.

Anjuli -- That makes total sense, I have not seen the place since the day I looked at it. That was only for like 5 min. I was tryin to remeber what it looked like. Sounds bigger than I remember lol.

I might do dancing!! Ill have to think bout it!

My husband HATES dancing, guess what he was doing ALL night of our wedding? Dancing. In short, yes it'll be boring with no dancing, and a little on the rude side that you are cutting the dancing off for the guests, but are doing it yourself. If you can't afford a dj, have cds, an Ipod, anything.

Yeah- i feel kind of weird when im there looking at it, but ive been several times to plan things out! both with and without the guy. Its a public park so we can go any time we want! Im sure ill have a ton of pics of the site. Ill have my family take one of the layout for ya.

having stuff inside helps a lot.

As you walk in the dinning room will be used for gifts- dont have to waste a table there because theres already one!

then the room to the left will have the guest table right there, and then that room will also have the tv table ( we are playing a slideshow) and then by the window/ door in that room there will be the cake table. Outside that door theres a little room off to the side of the walkway- and we are putting the drink table there.

in the room with all the windows will be our buffet.

so people will come in the door by the drink table, form the line and go through the room with all the windows for the buffet.

We aren't big dancers, but we have a dance floor and there is already surround sound speakers set up so we are plugging in the ipod and the guests can dance if they wanna. There will also be an open bar and A LOT of food, candy, and desserts. So even though we aren't having a DJ or anything, its a small wedding, I still want my guests to be happy, even though the dancing isn't my preference. I think you should still offer something for them to do, even if its only an ipod.

FH and I don't dance. Especially FH. He's like, personally against it or something. Anyway, although we don't really dance, we will be having dancing and a DJ. We will dance some, and I'm sure I'll manage to convince FH to dance a few more. I don't think it's impossible to have a fun wedding without dancing, but I do think it will be difficult. It will take extra thought and creativity of what to do to fill up the time so that guests don't leave early because of boredom.

I'm having a really small Sunday afternoon wedding. Knowing my guests and myself, I think trying to have hours of dancing would just not work out well. I decided to shorten the reception to basically just the meal, basic wedding traditions, and a little time for socializing with guests.

I think if it's early in the day and the reception is short enough, no dancing would not be a dealbreaker. But it also depends on your guests, if they come expecting hours of dancing, they may leave disappointed

Anjuli--Are you bringing more tables or just theirs?? Are you using the white chairs?

We are doing dacing. My FH's sister just got married a month ago and didn't have ANY music or dancing...it was horrible...

Anessa- what time is your ceremony and reception at again? if i remember correct- you had the place till 10 and has 7 hours? so its probably around the same time as mine. our reception will hopefully start at 6 (ceremony is at 530) and we are wanting all guests gone by 9 (to leave the hour to clean up) so that leaves 3 hours to fit in everything as well as the dancing! I dont see everyone dancing for that long, but i do see it being done throughout the night while people talk/eat/ pay attention to the things we are doing- cake cutting, blah blah.

Once you make a timeline you will start to see that its not much time to do everything! dancing will just be something that happens in the background and you and FH join people on the dance floor to chat.

Im using the gold chairs and will have to rent some white. I love the white but just didnt want to pay $2 a piece. BUT I didnt like how they didnt match. So my mom is making chair covers ( the kind that just slip over the back)

We aren't doing dancing. We are doing a simple ceremony, then some pictures (which most of our guests will be involved in), then a luncheon. No dances at all.

We'll get together later that night for dinner and

'bar-hopping' where there will be plenty of dancing...

However, if you aren't doing dancing for your guests, don't danceing for you either! No first dance, etc. It's kind of highlighting that you aren't doing entertainment.

I think it can still be okay- as long as it's short! If there is no time for dancing, that's one thing. But if you're doing a 4-5 hour long reception, you need some good entertainment.

Cont- and we will be using those to make them look uniform in the pictures. Everyones butts will be covering the rest.

We will be using all their tables as well as maybe bringing 2 other ones. I have my mother deciding the layout and use of all the tables at the moment. Ill let ya know when shes done with the plan. We are doing a candy buffet so needed an extra table for that- that will be going along the side of the patio closest to the river. and then the sand ceremony is going to need a table by the gazebo as well.

Anjuli-- it will 530(ceremony) 630 to 830or9(reception). Thats a good idea for the gold chairs. Thanks for the help on the location....I just felt so strange going and looking. I kinda forgot how everything was.

Mehan--I wasnt going to do any dancing, BUT my dad was sad when I told him no father daughter dance, so I decided to do the main three. I prob will just end up having dancing.

Yeah- pretty close. i think you will find that you 2 will be so busy doing your things that there wont be the aquward moments of feeling like you HAVE to dance, but im sure your guests would appreciate it. Also- those who dont want to dance can take walks down to the river! its a beautiful walk this time of year.

Reading the your question, it seems strange that you'll have all of the traditional dances, first dance mother/son, father/daughter but no dancing for the guests. Even if you have no intention of dancing after the planned dances I'd still burn cds, hook up an ipod, whatever, to provide background noise and the option of dancing for the guests that feel inclined to do so. Ultimately you know your guests best, but I know I'd appreciate at least background noise.

Actually I lied I did go to a wedding with no dancing, it was at a park and they had games, but it seemed like only the wedding party were the ones playing the games. We really missed the dancing, there was music playing but no where to dance. I love dancing so I really missed it, and found myself dancing on my seat most of the night lol

Samantha-- We are having background noise, Its just not realy "dancing" music, mainly slow songs. And im only doing the main dances because his mom and my parents really wanted them.

I agree with Meghan- if your guests don't get to dance, neither do you. I would hate to be at a wedding with my FH and watch another couple dance but not get a chance to dance myself. There aren't a lot of times in your adult life that you get to slow dance.