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June2020
Dedicated June 2020

Anyone else not anticipating your Groom going to a strip club for his Bachelor party?

June2020, on May 28, 2019 at 11:28 AM

Posted in Parties and Events 68

It almost makes me want to back out of the whole wedding thing. Its not a trust issue, I just see it as disrespectful and trashy. why would i want to marry someone who would like to disrespect me by having contact with another woman or women? he is not "single" we are together married or not. As is...

It almost makes me want to back out of the whole wedding thing. Its not a trust issue, I just see it as disrespectful and trashy. why would i want to marry someone who would like to disrespect me by having contact with another woman or women? he is not "single" we are together married or not. As is every other man who is engaged!

He says its tradition... and yes he has went to a few with his buddies who gotten married when we first started dating and I really had no say in what he did as we were just starting out....even then i had an issue..... Now its his turn and i dont like it one bit, i hate this tradition, I always hated it to start with.

I dont see the point of him going to be rubbed up , being motor-boated skin to skin contact by a strange naked woman rubbing on his parts through his pants and then coming home to me smelling like a W**** house....and thats what he says.... ill be coming home to you.... like i want a man turned on by another woman , being touched by another woman trying to bed me afterward... no thank you

He would really love for me to go to a strip club and see men but I honestly dont want to or feel the need too. I have everything i want in him. im not sure if its just because he knows im not that kind of person why he seems so cool with me going to enjoy myself.

so i compared it to our neighbor who is a stranger- flashing his junk and rubbing himself on me how he would feel..he said he'd be pissed and he said its not the same... to me its the same.. stranger.. body parts... advancements, motions.....someones trying to get some kind of gratification.....he says its still not the same.

I just cant stomach him going out for a night doing those things men like to do, it makes me sick literally thinking about it.

Im not sure how to deal with this.... my feelings are very strong

talking him out of it is no good, just hoping i make him feel bad and he backs out.. not likely


i know i cant be the only woman in this world who feels this way.. anyone else????





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  • Summervibes
    Dedicated August 2017
    Summervibes ·
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    I feel 100 percent the same way! I loved how you used the comparison of neighbor. Why men who HAVE women at home feel they need to watch/touch/fantize about other women makes me sick to my stomach.

    I told my FH how if he felt the need to do this for his bachelor party then he was not ready to get married.

    Luckily, my FH went to a baseball game and steakhouse dinner.

    But I did spend a year making myself sick over it. I wish there was more advice to give you, but there is no making sense of this awful tradition.

    Maybe just say what is wrong with going to a sporting event and a nice dinner after? Ask him why he feels he needs other women when he has you.

    If he still does not respect your wishes, then I personally would not be home when he comes home from Bachelor party. I would need a night to clear my head.

    When is his bachelor party?
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  • Monique
    Devoted August 2020
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    I would try to point out that the creepy neighbor flashing you is exactly like the strippers, the only reason that the creepy neighbor isn’t ok is because he’s not an attractive man. Perspective. Lol maybe you can tell your FH that you’re okay with strippers but you want to hire old lady strippers and see what he says

    A few days ago my FH’s dad asked him if I was going to ‘let him’ have a bachelor party with strippers and I was confused because 1, my fiancé doesn’t need my permission and 2, why does my fiancé’s dad want to throw him a bachelor with strippers? Confusing.

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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
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    If it bothers you that much, he should have more respect for you than that. Maybe see a counselor? Personally, I would go to a strip club with my fh and I dont care if he goes without me. But that's me. If I told him "hey, I really don't want you to go to a strip club, that would upset me" he wouldn't go. No problem. He should respect you more than that. I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope things work out for you.
    Maybe invite a male,stripper to your house for you and your friends and have him watch to see how it makes him feel. Some guys are like that-they don't understand how you're feeling until they feel it
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  • Laurie
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I totally agree with you, it's disgusting! I didn't mind my FH going out to dinner and maybe a sporting event or similar. Strip club or stripper at the house, DO NOT DO IT. As far as I'm concerned, that's cheating. I would not go either FTR.
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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
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    Nope, my FH is not into going to the clubs and his best man isn't either.
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    Just Said Yes October 2023
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    Oh girl you aren’t alone. I’ve threatened to hire a private investigator bc I just couldn’t marry him.
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  • Glam,
    Just Said Yes June 2023
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    Then do not marry him. My man said he ll not have it and he does not like them. He said ut to his friends too. What tradition? In modern world weddings are 100x ways so are bachelor partied too. So the fact he does not respect you and do not plan chill bachelor party with friends (as he has the say), it only means he only finds excuse to have strippers and most likely you ll have respect issues with him in the future. Please consider this before wedding.
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    Just Said Yes June 2022
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    Yeah, I mean he's about to become your husband! That's not okay under any excuses. ZILCH. Like, he doesn't need any other girls he has YOU! Dude, your fiance sounds like he ain't worth it. I mean like, no one wants their future husband drunk with a bunch of women who don't have any respect for their bodies. That's stupid. It's not about "trust" because what's the point of bieng there anyway? To watch a dumb 'strip" show?? How pathetic does that sound to you? I would just sit him down and tell YOU (his future wife) that you are not okay with it. If he loves you(he should understand no matter what). Either move on or set him straight. He doesn't get to bully you like that.

    What you should say:

    (Honey) I'm not okay with you going to a strip club with a bunch of random undressed women who are looking for some fun. It's exactly the same thing so don't tell me otherwise.. don't you dare. If you aren't okay with the nieghbor who's like one man.. but you a-okay with you going to a club with TONS of women then your insane.. wedding's off dude. If you really love me we shouldn't be fighting over you going to a strip club

    Girls rule boys drool.

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