It almost makes me want to back out of the whole wedding thing. Its not a trust issue, I just see it as disrespectful and trashy. why would i want to marry someone who would like to disrespect me by having contact with another woman or women? he is not "single" we are together married or not. As is every other man who is engaged!
He says its tradition... and yes he has went to a few with his buddies who gotten married when we first started dating and I really had no say in what he did as we were just starting out....even then i had an issue..... Now its his turn and i dont like it one bit, i hate this tradition, I always hated it to start with.
I dont see the point of him going to be rubbed up , being motor-boated skin to skin contact by a strange naked woman rubbing on his parts through his pants and then coming home to me smelling like a W**** house....and thats what he says.... ill be coming home to you.... like i want a man turned on by another woman , being touched by another woman trying to bed me afterward... no thank you
He would really love for me to go to a strip club and see men but I honestly dont want to or feel the need too. I have everything i want in him. im not sure if its just because he knows im not that kind of person why he seems so cool with me going to enjoy myself.
so i compared it to our neighbor who is a stranger- flashing his junk and rubbing himself on me how he would feel..he said he'd be pissed and he said its not the same... to me its the same.. stranger.. body parts... advancements, motions.....someones trying to get some kind of gratification.....he says its still not the same.
I just cant stomach him going out for a night doing those things men like to do, it makes me sick literally thinking about it.
Im not sure how to deal with this.... my feelings are very strong
talking him out of it is no good, just hoping i make him feel bad and he backs out.. not likely
i know i cant be the only woman in this world who feels this way.. anyone else????