Anyone else fighting with their fiancé more than usual?

You are NOT alone.

It’s all the stress surrounding your big day.

Yes, it’s a phase.

You two will be back to normal after the craziness that is a wedding is over.

Congratulations on your big day.

Oh we went through that for like 4-6 weeks but now we're 49 days out and it's much better. We're paying for the wedding ourselves, have some fun blended family dynamics, and it's been stressful but it's good practice at having conflict and resolving it!

You definitely aren't alone! The stress is real. I'm trying to be more aware of where my feelings are coming from and FH knows not to take it personally. I'll be so glad when this planning is over.

We are 2 weeks out and there has been a lot of stress! And to add to wedding stress we are shopping for a new car because we hit a deer and totaled my car! So you are not alone!

View Quoted Comment Boy are we getting practice at resolving conflict! This is so disheartening and stressful!

View Quoted Comment I'm extra snappy and short and have no patience with my FH because he feels like he can wait until the last minute for certain things. Then he gets upset and reacts and then I react. It's a vicious circle. It's so hard to control!

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh I understand you! Our wedding is January 4th, and we are in the process of moving into my FH house at the end of October and have to buy furniture for the whole house because our apt came furnished. Arrghhhh!!!!

Totally normal. I had this same stress when we first got engaged. We always got along so well then soon after we got engaged we begin arguing over little pointless stuff and being frustrated with each other alot more than normal. Which was soo weird bc we've never been like this in our 8 year relationship. But after starting premarital counseling we were informed that this is the NORM. It's the pressures of taking such a big step. So breathe and ride thru this short storm, it will pass.

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My situation is EXACTLY the same. I'm at the point where I feel like if his stuff is janky, it'll be on him. All he has to do right now is get a suit, pick out outfits for my sons and make sure the caterer is paid. We are getting married in 49 days...still not suit and no outfits for my sons. I bought his daughters dresses. I've done the majority of the planning, budgeting and execution. We are way too close for procrastination. If his suit is a mess....he'll be upset with himself but, I simply cannot keep worrying about it with all the other things that need to be done.

That's us right now

Definitely. We fought over licking envelopes, shades of pink, money, my parents, everything under the sun. It’s a stressful time, but now that it’s down to the wire and most things are out of our hands, we’re so much better. I like him again, lol

I think if your arguments are for the most part wedding related then you're fine. Those will be non existent after. Plus stress, so smaller things are probably bothering you more than usual. Same for him. I hope it gets better!

I am starting to understand the wedding stress too! We are constantly improving how we communicate and resolve conflict as a result. It will only make our relationship stronger. I am glad to hear we aren’t alone in dealing with the challenges of planning a wedding! We got this ladies!

View Quoted Comment Lol, I can't wait to get to that point!

Totally understand! My FH and I were getting snippy about something wedding related the other day. We paused..looked at each other and were like "wait what? Why are we arguing about this?" and we laughed because it was VERY dramatic over something incredibly minute.

This is very normal! We were stressed about money, time, details, etc. It took about a month after the wedding before everything felt normal again. You are not alone!

You are not alone at all. We had a discussion about budget last night and my FH got overwhelmed very quickly, and instead of telling me that, got grumpy and argumentative with me. I get it, there's so many details and things that have to be discussed, and I'm quickly learning that I need to address things in small chunks instead of a lot at once. Just because I'm thinking about, researching, planning 100 things in a day; he's not.

Stay strong and calm, and try to get to the root of what the issue is because it's likely not what it seems.

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View Quoted Comment I am right there with you! At this point I'm only really worrying about things I can control and he can deal with his stuff

It will. I hope. But to have a smooth and successfull wedding planning, you both need to be on the same page. Pick and choose ur argyments. Some stuff will be small enough to say, ok, lets do ot this way. You dont want this to set the tone for what you may think is heading your way after you get married. Good luck.