Sydney
Expert May 2019

Anyone else dealing with visible.. scars?

Sydney, on May 12, 2018 at 11:32 PM

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Content warning, self harm. Please no judgemental comments. In my wedding dress, I have some very visible self-harm scars on the upper part of my arms from a very bad point in my life lots and lots of years ago. It's so embarrassing, because I found a dress I LOVE and wouldn't trade for the world,...
Content warning, self harm. Please no judgemental comments.

In my wedding dress, I have some very visible self-harm scars on the upper part of my arms from a very bad point in my life lots and lots of years ago. It's so embarrassing, because I found a dress I LOVE and wouldn't trade for the world, but it makes some of the scars very apparent and visible. Is anyone else dealing with this? I feel like I'm going to be so humiliated if someone points them out.

25 Comments

  • C
    Dedicated July 2019
    Cierra ·
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    I too have scars all along my arms. Since I started self harming I always thought I would wear a long sleeve wedding dress. Well at least I thought this until I tried one on. I absolutely hated the way they looked on me. So I was stressed for a while about what I was going to do. I decided that the scars, although from rough points in my life, are apart of me. While I’m not going to highlight them ( my dress will have a scallop sleeve to cover or I will look into makeup) , I refuse to buy a dress I don’t like just to cover them. Don’t be humiliated if someone does notice, they are from your past
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  • T
    Dedicated September 2018
    Turnicia ·
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    Girl, get your dress, wear your dress, and rock the h-e-double hockey sticks out of your dress. You are a survivor and you are strong and deserve every bit of happiness you have and more. Don't let your scars wear you ( I have quite a few from surgeries) you wear them and you wear them proud. I am sending some girl power your way and some love. I say don't cover it up and celebrate your life. Smooches!!!!
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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
    Amanda ·
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    I too have scars .. 100s on my arm .. spanning wtist to elbow on my left arm .. from when i was a teenager .. i live with it its part of what made me who i am .. cant erase them
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  • Lex
    VIP September 2019
    Lex ·
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    I have very thin ones on my wrists and thighs, they aren’t very noticeable but people have asked about them. The ones on my legs will be covered (obviously) and the ones on my arms I’m just leaving.
    I have other scars on my legs from mosquito bites (I’m very allergic and have no self control when it comes to scratching them) so that’s why I got a long dress. I’m so self conscious about my legs.
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  • Hilary
    Dedicated February 2019
    Hilary ·
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    I just searched for this post for so long after reading it slightly today. I have the same thing- I am going with a long sleeve dress but for the reason that we are getting married in February and I convinced myself lace will keep me warm- don’t ask.

    HOWEVER- summer, or any other time for that matter I just own it at this point. Most people know and don’t ask or if they do I just own it- which was super hard at first but I’ve had a lot of people open up to me because of my honesty or be shocked and proud of me for being so honest- teach people what it really is to be depressed and teach them the light to getting better and your road to recovery. On a note of not wanting to show.. my make up artist offered air brush for scar cover ups. That’s a possibility

    but overall don’t be embarrassed it shaped you to a strong individual... lots of love!
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