Sydney
Expert May 2019

Anyone else dealing with visible.. scars?

Sydney, on May 12, 2018 at 11:32 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 25
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Content warning, self harm. Please no judgemental comments.

In my wedding dress, I have some very visible self-harm scars on the upper part of my arms from a very bad point in my life lots and lots of years ago. It's so embarrassing, because I found a dress I LOVE and wouldn't trade for the world, but it makes some of the scars very apparent and visible. Is anyone else dealing with this? I feel like I'm going to be so humiliated if someone points them out.

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Latest activity by Hilary, on May 13, 2018 at 11:36 PM
  • K
    Devoted May 2018
    Kaitlin ·
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    Use a heavy concealer. I have scars on my shoulder from surgery a few months ago and that’s what I’ll be doing. I also have some really noticeable burn marks on my forearms from your same reasoning and no one ever points them out if that’s any consolation.
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    Just Said Yes June 2018
    Kate ·
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    I have said when ppl have asked about scars that they are my past and let it go. They are part of my past and therefore who I am
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  • C
    Just Said Yes July 2018
    Cal ·
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    Dermablend is awesome for covering anything up. It even covers tattoos!!! Don’t let that stop you from your dream dress, girl. Just make sure if you buy the dermablend you let it dry before putting on your dress and set it with a little translucent powder. Good luck and best wishes!!
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  • Grace
    Super May 2019
    Grace ·
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    Get the dress you have always dreamed of. Don't be ashamed of your past, think of it as where you were and how far you have come! Let it be inspirational to yourself because you are capable of overcoming the worst point in your life. You are beautiful and so are your scars, they tell a story even if you are the only one who understands 😊
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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
    Miaaa ·
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    If you love your dress, I would just talk to your MUA about ways to cover them up!

    Not the same obviously- but my MUA covered up some back acne for me and it didn't rub off anywhere.

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    Dedicated July 2020
    Tywana ·
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    I just wanted to say that I love the manner in which everyone responded in love to her question... 😍😍😍 I love WW 😩😭😢🤗
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  • Corrie
    Savvy August 2021
    Corrie ·
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    Don't be ashamed of your past your you bc of it. But other people said concealer if your not comfortable. It's all about How you feel about it. A friend of mine got an amazing tattoo over hers you can't see it at all and her tattoo is amazing she always says she took a bad time in her life and turned it into something beautiful. And when she looks at it she sees how far she's come and where she was. Just an option.
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    As a pp suggested, find a retailer who sells Dermablend. It is a concealer used by trauma and burn victims and it will not rub off on to your dress.

    https://www.dermablend.com/#

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    Expert September 2019
    Anna ·
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    I know I don’t know you and I don’t know what you went through, but I’m proud of you. We all have a past and no ones perfect. But you kept going and are an inspiration! Concealer should work if you want to cover it up. You can also ask a makeup artist if there’s one by you. They may have some good suggestions, especially with wearing a beautiful wedding dress and not wanting to risk make up rubbing off on it
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  • Molly
    Savvy September 2018
    Molly ·
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    I have 2 huge scars on my arm from nerve repair surgery and I'm not touching them, just letting them be. I think you should let your scars be visible. Own it, be proud that you survived that part of your life! If someone asks just smile politely and say it's in the past. My aunt had a professional makeup artist cover up her arm tattoo and everyone ended up with cover up all over their clothes. Totally not worth it to her!
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  • ISaidHallYes
    VIP November 2018
    ISaidHallYes ·
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    Besides the derma blend talk to your make up artist. They may be able to help and work with you too. I can’t ever imagine noticing or let alone pointing something like that out!!! No one is perfect!
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  • ISaidHallYes
    VIP November 2018
    ISaidHallYes ·
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    Also I’d like to comment how awesome it is you overcame whatever you dealt with in you life!! Those are truly the special people in life and that is what life is about! ♥️♥️♥️
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    You could use heave concealer or a Shaw or sleeves to cover up. Also they show how much you have grown and what a strong and capable person you are that you have overcome that. It’s up to ypu.
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  • Caitlin
    Savvy August 2018
    Caitlin ·
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    I have some pretty noticeable scars on my right arm- I've been using some moisturizer with vitamin E daily for a few months and it's helped them become less visible.
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    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    I have the same types of scars a few different places on my body. I have grown to accept them as proof of struggles I have gone through and came out of. I’m not ashamed anymore like I used to be. I urge you to try to think of it like that. It’s not shameful, it may be what kept you going or kept you alive. If someone asks, first of all that’s super rude. You are definitely within your right to give them a look about it. Then I just say oh they’re really old. Even when they were newer, that’s still what I’d say if someone asked. Because scars are really none of anyone’s business.
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    Expert September 2018
    Tia_Fred ·
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    Use make up to conceal them
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    Expert September 2018
    Tia_Fred ·
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    Or leave it and dont worry what ppl say. I know its tough but thata part of u
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    Dedicated June 2019
    intheforest ·
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    I agree with the others. But if you really want to conceal them - I would use special effects makeup. The same stuff you can create fake scars and burns with, you can also use to hide scars with. There are many online shops that offer this. I would use silicone for use on skin. You can dye it so it looks like your skin and then you cover it up with waterproof foundation. This way the scars are not noticeable because they are not elevated or deeper than your skin. Good luck.

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  • Jaycie
    Expert March 2019
    Jaycie ·
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    I would say if you'd prefer to cover up with makeup then do so. But also don't worry about what others think, what's in the past is in the past and clearly you've come along well and found happiness as you are planning your bug day! Congratulations on finding your dream dress and hope all goes well with planning!
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  • Susan
    Super November 2018
    Susan ·
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    I am in the same position, unfortunately. Thank you for starting this discussion- I didn’t know about Dermablend and will look into it!
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