Erin
Savvy September 2021

Anyone else avoiding wedding showers?

Erin, on January 6, 2021 at 12:28 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 31
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So, I’ve decided to skip the bridal shower and bachelorette party. I don’t like all of the fanfare and what I see as extra stuff that gets tacked onto the whole wedding process.


I’m not one for overly complex, long drawn out affairs. I just want to marry my FH. 😂
Anyone else of a similar mind?

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Latest activity by Maddie, on April 30, 2021 at 2:17 PM
  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    Yes! We are skipping a lot of the “extra parties”. We didn’t do an engagement party, and I’ve requested not to have a bridal shower or wedding shower. I also requested no bachelorette party (although my MOH did convince me to do a trip to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter in lieu of a traditional bachelorette party, but it ended up being cancelled because of Covid). I’m not a fan of all the extra stuff that gets tacked on either. And I’ve always hated showers as a guest, so there was no way I wanted one as a bride! I can’t think of many things more awkward than sitting in front of people while they watch me open their gifts, and then having to put on some fake, over-the-top reaction that everyone wants. Nightmare.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    Partly due to COVID and partly due to a quick engagement we won't be doing all these extra things. No engagement party (covid) possibly a small group of friends over for drinks one night. We already live together so we don't need a bridal shower. I asked about bachelor and Bachelorette parties and my fh wants to do ours together because he doesn't want to party without me 🥺🥺
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I was going to avoid it at first but my mom insisted on throwing me a virtual one.
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  • Jessica
    Beginner October 2022
    Jessica ·
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    I love them personally but to each their own. My FH and I are doing a co-ed party in Vegas with our friends. We are renting a penthouse and it's going to be a blast.

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  • Squeezy Bean
    Devoted June 2023
    Squeezy Bean ·
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    Being a European, I don't understand what the other events are even about. 😂

    I would like to have a nice meal out with some of FH's family to celebrate our engagement though. But I'm not having a hen night (bacherlorette), or bridal shower.

    I don't understand being given gifts for getting married under any pretense, especially nowadays. Women have their own money and have usually lived with their partners beforehand. Back when an unmarried woman didn't have much in the way of rights or property, it would have made sense to gift her with things that might aid her in her marriage and new identity.
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2021
    Erin ·
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    I agree with christa! I dreaded these extra parties as a guest, i do not want one now, either! I just want my wedding/honeymoon!! Thats it!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    We haven't had any either, we originally planned a co ed bachelor/bachelorette party for my husbands 30th birthday in Atlantic City but Covid made us cancel it. My sister has been in talk of wanting to throw me a bridal shower before our big wedding in March (even though we're already married) but that probably won't happen.
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    We didn’t do an engagement party as they’re not common where were from. And no planned me a bachelorette which I was kind of sad about.
    But I was super excited for a shower! I loved that it was a party for me 😊 it was fun having the people I cared about all together to do some celebrating. But, everyone is different. My friend opted for a bridal luncheon. So no games and only a few people (me 🤦‍♀️) brought gifts. It was nice and she still got to celebrate
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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    We skipped the engagement party.


    I’m doing a bridal shower but don’t want to spend time opening gifts in front of everyone. I find that SUPER AWKWARD and boring.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    No showers or anything like that for us. But...we are old ;-) we need to get rid of stuff, not more!
    Now, I am not opposed to going for a mimosa laden brunch with my friends. And my oldest daughter who is my MOH is having to be talked down from various Bachelorette Extravaganza she wants to plan.
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    We skipped our engagement party because of COVID cases rising. We didn't want one in the first place, but my FBIL and his wife offered to throw us one. Since we canceled, they'll throw us a couple's shower.

    We like them a lot! Our family and friend group love to get together for whatever reason, so we never would have dreamed to skip them. We probably won't do the crazy games that everyone else does just because it's too much of a show. We just want to get our different friend groups together to mingle and have fun!

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  • Connie
    Dedicated December 2021
    Connie ·
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    We moved 12 hrs away from our immediate families about 6 months ago and haven't made very many new friends in our new town yet (thanks, Covid), so traveling back home would be our only chance for any parties. Luckily, we already have a house full of stuff, so we don't really care about any wedding shower stuff. We nixed the idea of any sort of formal engagement party either. It's just too far to travel for a party especially when the pandemic is still going on and we shouldn't be getting together anyway.


    We still wanna do the bachelor/bachelorette parties, but much closer to the actual wedding, maybe even just the night before.
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  • Erin
    Savvy September 2021
    Erin ·
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    I love the fact that I am not the only who feels this way. I already find the planning for a rehearsal and a 70-ish person wedding overwhelming. I don't need more stuff to plan. Smiley xd

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    We selected not have to have a bridal party and not burden our friends. But I told all of my friends that I do not want to shower or bachelorette because (for us) it’s totally unnecessary. I just want everyone to enjoy themselves at the actual wedding. Plus we’re having a destination wedding in Vegas so there will be enough fun occurring throughout the weekend .
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  • Amanduh
    Devoted January 2019
    Amanduh ·
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    I didn't skip them but I honestly wish I did. Probably would have saved a lot of money.

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  • Julie
    Savvy October 2021
    Julie ·
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    We're not doing the extra parties either, don't see the point really. Our family is spread out and we don't have a lot of friends. We just want to have a great wedding we don't need or even want the extra time away from our busy lives for boring parties that are just another expense for everyone. We'd rather put all that money and effort into our wedding day. To each their own though!
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    *raises hand* Me!

    I have never enjoyed showers as a guest and knew I didn't want any for myself. I also don't care at all about bachelorette or engagement parties. I deliberately planned a very short engagement period for several reasons, but a nice benefit was that no one had any time to even think about throwing me a party I didn't want.

    Our ceremony, reception, and honeymoon were absolutely sufficient celebration for us. Smiley love

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  • Leonardia
    Dedicated June 2021
    Leonardia ·
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    Skipping the bridal shower but we are doing the bachelor/bachelorette parties...hopefully lol in my mind it'll be nice to get the bridal party together before the date so they can get to know each other before hand...and it if happens it'll just be nice to see everyone!

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  • Ashley
    Just Said Yes February 2022
    Ashley ·
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    We are doing our best to skip all the extra wedding gatherings because we are trying to have a small intimate wedding. My mother is pressing to have a bridal shower but I don't really get the point. We are hoping to have a fun bachelorette party but that is only if COVID can go away. I think the money spent on all those extra parties is better spent on the wedding or, better yet, the honeymoon.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I have friends who skipped having pre wedding events too

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