Anyone Doing Any Kind Of Alternatives??

The garter toss was the first thing we knew we wanted to cut out, due to our opinion that the tradition is rather misogynistic and sexist. We also didn't do the bouquet toss, since we didn't have many single female friends in attendance and didn't want to embarrass our few single friends. We didn't replace these with anything else and nobody batted an eye.

View Quoted Comment Yea, never cared for the garter toss and thinking about losing the bouquet toss as well for the same reason.

Most traditions kind of went out the window for us once we had to start incorporating covid into our plans.
I don't know exactly what our postponed reception will look like, but assuming we stay close to what we originally planned:
*We won't do a bouquet toss because I hate having to go up for those and I don't want to impose that on my friends/cousins, but we're not replacing it with anything. *My bridesmaid and both of the mothers will be getting floral hoops instead of a bouquet/corsages. *We decided to have passed desserts instead of a cake, and donuts for people to take on the way out. Now that there will be two separate wedding events, we may get a cake next year, but we're having an ice cream truck come for dessert this year, which I'm pretty excited about.*Two of my three bridesmaids are my brothers, so I've just been referring to the entire bridal party as, "bridespeople."*We're writing our own vows.*Since we're only having our immediate families at the ceremony this year and there won't be much of an aisle, we've decided that for the recessional we're going just going to keep walking and take a lap around the house.I'll stop because that's probably as much as anyone else wants to read about my weird changes. I hadn't realized how many traditions we were bucking!

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LOL no it's ok. I think it's great. Whatever works for you. I love the idea of an ice cream truck, I'd be excited about that as well. We're also writing our own vows so I'm anxious to see what FH will say. What kind of desserts will you be having passed around??

View Quoted Comment Thanks! We've each been adding things you our list of vows for months, but we're going to choose the ones we actually say together. Otherwise, I'd probably be more anxious than I am about that. I'm not sure exactly what desserts we'll have because the menu will probably be a little bit different next year, but we decided on one kind of cookies, a mini lemon-blueberry tart thing, and something that sounded very chocolatey. The donuts will probably be apple cider.

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I've been working on my vows for so long and then stopped. I've got so much editing to do but I figured I'd give it a break since we still got time lol. Our date was supposed to be next month but got pushed to February.

As far as your desserts, that sounds good! We will have a dessert table as well. There will be brownies, assorted cookies, lemon bars and macarons. There was going to be more but we had to chill out because we almost forgot there will be real food lol.

No bouquet toss, no garter toss, no MOH speech, no cake smashing, no favors. I did present my sample bouquet to some engaged friends, but it was a little thing, but the photographer did catch it.

...I am the swordfight bride, though. We did a whole skit where my bridesman was possessed by Voldemort and he cursed various friends into fighting us. (...obviously choreographed and rehearsed extensively). We did that at the top of the reception - faked everyone out into thinking we were doing the first dance, and then BOOM, swordfight. (Dancing happened after dinner.)

My fiance and I are removing the garter toss also. He also doesn't want to do the mother/son dance but I am definitely doing the father/daughter dance. We've thought about the shoe game but haven't made a decision on it yet!

View Quoted Comment Lol that's awesome!! They must have been n so confused at first 😂

View Quoted Comment I think the shoe game would pretty fun. Especially if you can find a way to make it interactive.

View Quoted Comment Well, most of our guests knew, since we aren't particularly good at keeping a secret... and we kept having random rehearsals.

View Quoted Comment Oh ok lol.

We have quite a few things planned that are non-traditional. While my father will be at the wedding and maybe my stepfather (he may or may not come...IDK), I will be escorted down the aisle by my son -- who is also a groomsman. We will be writing our own vows to be incorporated along with some of the traditional vows. We are also planning to incorporate our children (my son/31 and his daughter/25 and son/18) into our vows somehow, we just haven't decided exactly how yet. Our first dance will be performed by his daughter and my son. She will sing and my son will play the guitar. We originally, were't going to do the garter/bouquet toss, but we saw an opportunity to insert our own brand of humor. We're going to have a chair for me to sit in and have stashed underneath, a box with various props in it to look as though he's pulling them from under my dress. Sure it's silly, but hey...a wedding should reflect the couple, right? So, why not? It's a party and people should have a good time.

View Quoted Comment Well thats quite a mix up. I love it. That's awesome that your kids will perform the song for your first dance. That box is pretty funny for the garter toss. Just pull random things and have everyone confused 😂

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LOL...yep. It's a little sweet, a little sentimental and a little silly, but those are all things that embody us as a couple. As I said, we are very silly people and we laugh a lot -- I mean, you're talking about two grown people who are known to have pillow fights in stores. LOL. Our friends and family are very aware of who we are and are totally expecting some shananigans. Hell...even our wedding favors are funny. They're black and white cookies. LOL. It's funny because we're in interracial couple.

View Quoted Comment Lol perfect! As are we and our wedding theme is marble 😂 but I wasn't even thinking of an interracial connection lol

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For the most part, we don't even really think about the fact that we are an interracial couple. But sometimes we have fun with that fact -- hence the black and white cookies. LOL.

View Quoted Comment I totally get it.