Anyone Doing Any Kind Of Alternatives??

Rather than the garter or bouquet toss, we played a trivia game with all of our guests. Also, rather than having a reading from the Bible, my grandmother wrote a poem and read it at the ceremony. She has written poems for numerous events throughput my life so she was honored to write and read the poem for our ceremony.

We arent doing the bouquet or garter toss either. I think we are going to do the show game instead. It's funnier and not as awkward as having the garter removed in front of my entire family!

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Oh that sounds fun! How did the trivia game take with your guests??

That's super special that she did that. We'll be writing our own vows but I didn't even think about having anyone up at the alter. I might have to steal that idea if my dad is up for it. Did you still have an officiant??

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LOL YES!! What's the show game??

View Quoted Comment The trivia game was a lot of fun, but unfortunately not all of the guests chose to play. The ones that did seemed to really enjoy it and we even gave out small prizes to the top 10 people. I liked getting to see just how well our friends and family know my husband and I. Yes, we had an officiant. We also wrote our own vows as well.

View Quoted Comment Lol I meant shoe* game

I love the idea of reciting a poem together in place of a father-daughter dance!
My FH is atheist and didn’t want anything religious in the ceremony, which I’m fine with, so we choose poems and readings from literature that our wedding party and my mother will read. Our officiant is also a close friends of FH’s.
We aren’t doing a bouquet or garter toss either, and we are only allowed to do a first dance (technically all dancing and mingling is forbidden, but the event coordinator thinks if it’s just us two it’ll be fine.) I hadn’t even thought about planning an alternative. I’ll have to give out some thought! Thanks!

I didn’t do parent dances. And I walked by myself down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment That's cool. At least some played and it got them interested. Glad everything worked out.

View Quoted Comment Ah lol! Ok. That game I know lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I think it would a personal touch to incorporate to keep him included and no problem. I hope you come up with a fun alternative to something. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Did you do anything in place of the parent dances??

We bypassed the garter/bouquet toss to make room for more dancing. My husband also opted out of the mother-son dance as it would've been with his step-mom and he wasn't comfortable. (He barely wanted to do the first dance lol).

View Quoted Comment Totally understandable. FH already admitted that he'll be taking a few shots for the ceremony to recite his vows AND at the reception for our first dance. He hates attention lol

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Oh, we both did some light day drinking beforehand haha. We both can be a little shy, but it usually takes one of us to man up and be energetic.

View Quoted Comment Lol as long as it worked out.

For me, my dad has been very distant for more than 15 years. We aren't tossing the father daughter dance, but since there is a very strong possibility he won't show up for the wedding, my FH will be dancing with our daughters and my FiL will dance with me at the same time. I'm also being "given away" by our young daughters and FH is being escorted to the alter by our grown kids.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness. That is so precious! I love it.

We had to scrap the garter and bouquet toss due to COVID.
We are doing a secular wedding, as well as rings with no raised diamonds. Stardust Rings from Patrick Adair Designs. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Understandable. Those rings are so cute!