Any One Else or am i just a Sociopath?

No. We didn’t invite random guests or people who we really didn’t want attending. Since this is our wedding, we only want to be surrounded by our closest circle of family and friends who know and support us. In our case, we hope everyone can attend.

I think I was relieved of The idea of declines because yea it was less to entertain aha

Why are random guests on your list? If you don't want them in attendance, don't invite them. That applies to relatives too.

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My soon to be MIL paid for our invitations so she could extend an invite to all of her co-workers and family that FH hasn't seen since he was a child. FH is too afraid of his mother to tell her no and I didn't realize how many of these guests were on the list until we got the final proofs from our stationary professional. Quite literally FMIL would have needed to introduce people to us the day of the wedding. Luckily, we are now basically down to close family and friends.

Yes. Theres some ppl DH had invited that arent close to us & ppl my dad invited. Feels relieving because less ppl to have to worry about for the guest list.

Honestly yes lol especially with COVID. There are only about 50 or so people that I actually want there. The rest are my moms billion friends and theres a LOT of toxicity there. I would love to celebrate with my friends and family who are there to actually support ME and my FH not to please my mom or be there for her support (as she doesn't approve of our relationship and they sympathise with her.)

I feel like this is definitely going to be me when the time comes lol

I was the same way mostly due to Covid!

We only invited those we REALLY wanted there this time (was a covid bride that had to cancel) so far everyone we want has said yes! So we're thankful!!

Several of the people left who haven’t responded are ones I could care less if they don’t come, which I guess is rude but I literally have never met six of them because they don’t live close by. I consented to inviting them pre-Covid because it was really important to FH, and they remained on the list because we’re still under the venue max of fifty, but I won’t be heartbroken if they can’t make it... If we had random guests on our list that our parents wanted, I would totally feel the same way you do!

No, we only invited people that we were close to and not randoms. I get that it is normal to have parents friends and co workers come , but it's still nice if the couple was asked.

Not at all! I like the idea of only invite those closest to you but, I wouldn't be heartbroken if one of my dad's sisters wasn't at the wedding. Plus if FH's grandmother wasn't able to come I might jump for joy. Obviously a different event but, when I graduated high school and sent invites I received a card from a great aunt saying she couldn't come and I danced. She's a person who just doesn't understand social cues and I just didn't want to do damage control all day. I'm worried that this will be an issue when our wedding comes but, they are family. I doubt they'll RSVP no but, one can hope. (that sounds just awful lol)

Lol! I’ve been with my FH for 7 years. There are still family members that I haven’t met. We still invited them, but I’m kinda secretly hoping they decline. Obviously they aren’t a huge part of our lives anyway.... so I feel you

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! Yeah, I’d be doing a happy dance with all of those No’s returned as well.

We cut our wedding on 7.18 down to 1/3. Everyone we were close with. It was amazing. We did have two people we didn’t know, plus 1 that guests asked to bring, they didn’t have a plus 1 but we knew they be lonely if they didn’t bring someone. Big wedding tend to have that. I also know someone who invited someone that they didn’t know well and offended them! They invited them hoping they wouldn’t show up and they did!

I’m sure I’ll feel this way with a couple of select family members on both sides if they decline! We’re actually both hoping they do, so it’s not just me. It’s unfortunate that there are some relatives that we just can’t avoid inviting.

Yes! Our "randoms" are cousins and family we haven't interacted with (we've been together 10 years - so at this point, neither us nor them have made the effort for a decade). Sadly, those randoms got spots in our covid cut list - even over some of our friends. It was a bit disheartening.
So yes, when we got No's from a few of those I was pretty stoked. The ones that are Yes are going at far tables - they wouldn't recognize us anyway. 🤦🏻‍♀️

We have had a small guest list from the start just close family (50 ppl max). I've met all of my FH family that he wants to invite and we only see a few times a year (cousins aunts ans uncle's). I love his family and there's not shortage of laughter and fun around them. His is local and mine are all from out of town since we moved here (NC) when I was 7. So we don't really get to see my family much. I want all of our guests to come but I know that may not be possible. There is one of my dad's brother's who has a wife that my mom REALLY doesn't like and she can be up in your business a lot so that would be awkward.


I'm sorry you've had to deal with that but honestly I'd probably feel the same way because I'd want people at my weddinf who actually want to be there and that I know.

Lol I think that would be me financially lol.


I don’t care either way lol. I feel that regardless of what’s going on in the world ... family wise... would come in a Hazmat suit if they had to lol.
But I just look forward to responses anyways lol. I feel like if you declined for whatever reason you should still have some type of support... REGISTRY 😂... not at all materialistic I just know I’m going to confirm before I send $7 invitation&postage to people that will for sure decline.
But I think you’re hilarious. Made my morning! Lol congratulations btw

I get where you are coming from, there are maybe one or two guests my fiance invited that if they decline I'd be happy about it. And I'm sure I have people on my side that if they declined my fiance would be happy. It's not that we hate the person our significant other is inviting its just that when it comes to our special day there are going to be one or two people you kind of hope decline. Maybe it's your significant others friend, family member, or a coworker. You're not going to absolutely love everyone in your fiances life and thats ok.