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Just Said Yes January 2021

Any December or January weddings out there? How are you handling the new restrictions?

Rachel, on November 14, 2020 at 6:51 AM

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My wedding is set for 1/16/21. We just heard that our state is going to social gatherings of no more than 25 and bars/restaurants no more than 25% capacity. I’m still waiting to hear back from the venue on exactly how many guests we can have. My fiancé and I are so conflicted as to what to do! I...
My wedding is set for 1/16/21. We just heard that our state is going to social gatherings of no more than 25 and bars/restaurants no more than 25% capacity. I’m still waiting to hear back from the venue on exactly how many guests we can have. My fiancé and I are so conflicted as to what to do! I think if it’s possible we want to power through and get married even if most of our guests can’t come, but my fiancé’s brothers are in the military and probably won’t be able to make it because of travel restrictions. I don’t want to postpone our actual ceremony, but I feel like having the reception later wouldn’t be as special if we were already married a year earlier. Thoughts??? I’m defeated and sad.

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  • J
    Savvy April 2021
    Jaquelyn ·
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    Me too!! Same date. We decided we are getting married so matter what and we’re going to have a beautiful day. I hasn’t considered temp checks but might do that. You have a great attitude about all of this. Congratulations & enjoy your day!!
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    Rebecca ·
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    Hey! I am getting married Jan 9. Where I am getting married doesn't have that many restrictions for weddings, so my guest count is still about 200. Some people I know got married in one state and drove to another for their reception because of the rule differences. I personally wouldn't want another reception, but I know so many people who have done it and loved it! So don't be afraid!

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  • Crystal
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    Crystal ·
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    My Wedding is January 3, 2021. Our venue is running at 25% of what the room holes. So its only allowed 125 people including staff. We also put a back up plan in place to rent a tent for outside just incase the inside gets shutdown. We are not changing our date as suggested. So of the vendors are allowing me to get a refund deposit due to COVID-19. You have to adapt to what going on in the world and not let it upset you. Remember it's about you and your spouse to be not the venue, decorations, lighting etc.
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  • Arianne
    Savvy January 2021
    Arianne ·
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    Date Twins!!! I’m so excited! Enjoy your day as well!
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  • M
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Megan ·
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    My fiancé and I feel very similar. There’s a chance our venue might not be able to be open at all. And if the venue is going to restrict our guest number and charge us the same amount of money as if we had our planned 100 people, we are going to postpone the ceremony and reception. We don’t want to have all that money go to the wayside. We have planned and saved for this, and want everyone there to celebrate. We are still planning on getting legally married on 1/23/21 at the courthouse if the wedding can’t happen. I’m trying to stay positive and helpful, but California is very unpredictable haha 😂
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  • Desiray
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    Desiray ·
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    I live in az too & our venue said we can have 50% of our original number . We cut it down to 100 & will stream it for all who can’t come .
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  • Audrey
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    Audrey ·
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    I think we are postponing. I have been fighting with my heart about it all day following the conversation my Fiancé and I had last night. Although, we are under our venues limits a lot of his family is very spooked by Covid.

    His mom, dad and brother have all passed and we aren't on the best terms with his sisters. So it is very important to us that his extended family be there. Even trying to reduce number they will not feel comfortable attending, my bridal shower was about 55 people and no one form his side attended, final count came to about 25 people. We don't know see the point in doing something small and then doing a blow out later, just kind of pointless. I'm beyond heartbroken, but at the end of the day everyone else's health and safety is our biggest concern.

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  • Desiray
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    Desiray ·
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    Hey were wedding date buddies ! We’re still going in with our date .
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  • R
    Savvy January 2021
    Rachel ·
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    I am getting married in January 16 - Florida here and no special requirements .... yet .... My family is from out of state which I heard is about to go into a 6 week lockdown, I think I will keep powering through. My fiancé’s side is mostly all In state. I’m having an outdoor ceremony and a large barn on property for reception and about probably 40 people so fingers crossed
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    Where are you having your wedding?
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  • Anna
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    Anna ·
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    Great question, I am not sure. I'm just hoping the ceremony/church won't be impacted by that point. Is your ceremony in the same space that your reception would be in? One of my vendors told me that a couple they are working with plans to have their ceremony officiant present after the ceremony while the guests are milling around and are calling the entire thing a "religious service." I'm also struggling with that. I have no idea how to structure it to only have 25 people in one space at a time. I wonder if you could have the guests split in half into two separate spaces at your reception venue?

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  • Desiray
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    Desiray ·
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    Moon Valley Country Club
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  • knittingeyedoc
    Beginner January 2021
    knittingeyedoc ·
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    Same boat. Our wedding is also January 16, 2021. We just made the decision to glcut our 75 person guest list to 20. Then our state imposed new restrictions of no social gatherings. It could be different in two months, but I just don't know. I've started researching living room zoom weddings. I can't even imagine trying to plan a reception down the road. I just want it to be done at this point.
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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    Hi! My fiancé and I are January Brides... ours is a different situation as we are eloping in Cancun! We are only going to have 9 people (including us) at our wedding; but our biggest worry is if anyone gets exposed and can’t travel to the wedding!
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    Beautiful! We’re getting married on Regency Gardens in Mesa.
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  • Desiray
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    Desiray ·
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    Ooooo is the the one with the stair case ? Lol I wanted that one but it was way to expensive for our budget.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    No. It has an all inclusive package that we opted for. We live in northern AZ & so we needed that. Some venues we looked at wanted to charge us extra if we had the ceremony outside. It has that small intimate feeling we wanted. Exposed beams & brick, water fountains indoor & outdoor, vines growing on the walls inside. Any December or January weddings out there? How are you handling the new restrictions? 1
    Any December or January weddings out there? How are you handling the new restrictions? 2


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  • Sarah
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    Sarah ·
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    I am in the UK and getting married on 9th January. It's been a bit all over the place for us, first it was no weddings allowed at all, then 6 guests inside (but only from 2 households) and 30 outside, then it was 30 inside but including vendors and staff, and then 15 including the bride and groom, now no weddings at all again. The government have said when this lockdown ends in December they will go back to allowing 15 people, so that's what we have planned for. We've postponed our reception until Jan 2022 and will do a vow renewal on that day as well. We currently aren't allowed readings, speeches, dancing, or even long vows so I want to make sure we get a bigger day at some point.

    The problem we have now is, there have been a few surprise overnight rule changes and I'm very nervous they will let us have a few days at Christmas and then bring in a new lockdown in January. They have brought in new wedding restrictions with less than a day's notice before so we won't know if we can actually go ahead until the day itself. If there is a sudden rule change to fewer people or another ban we'll have to cancel with our venue and wait another month to get married since we'll need to register intent to marry for a different location. At that point we'll just go to a registry office as soon as we're allowed. It's not worth the stress to plan a 3rd day!

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  • Jody
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    Jody ·
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    We are scheduled to get married on January 1 in Kansas City, MO. We had finally found the venue we loved. I mailed out invitations Sunday and on Monday they announced restrictions of no more than 10 people, no dancing, must sit at a table unless getting drinks or food or restroom. I'm not spending 4K for 10 people. The venue director is trying to get approval to run at 50% capacity which would work for us. I have been scrambling looking for some alternative where these type of restrictions are not in place. Of course, most places are already booked or super expensive. My other thought is to move my furniture into my garage, get married in our house on our day, then have the big celebration on our one year anniversary. The good thing about that is I would get to wear my dress twice. Neither of us have ever been married so I want it to be special and everything we both want. He says as long as we are together that's all that matters which is super sweet. It is definitely stressful, frustrating, and all around upsetting. I'm trying to plow forward the best I can and plan something we both want and will enjoy. Good luck to you all and congratulations!!!!

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  • Desiray
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    Desiray ·
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    Oooh ok . I know right . Always trying to get you for the extras .
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