My wedding is set for 1/16/21. We just heard that our state is going to social gatherings of no more than 25 and bars/restaurants no more than 25% capacity. I’m still waiting to hear back from the venue on exactly how many guests we can have. My fiancé and I are so conflicted as to what to do! I...
My wedding is set for 1/16/21. We just heard that our state is going to social gatherings of no more than 25 and bars/restaurants no more than 25% capacity. I’m still waiting to hear back from the venue on exactly how many guests we can have. My fiancé and I are so conflicted as to what to do! I think if it’s possible we want to power through and get married even if most of our guests can’t come, but my fiancé’s brothers are in the military and probably won’t be able to make it because of travel restrictions. I don’t want to postpone our actual ceremony, but I feel like having the reception later wouldn’t be as special if we were already married a year earlier. Thoughts??? I’m defeated and sad.
As of right now, we are scheduled to get married on 1/9/21 in Virginia. The new restrictions somehow limit our venue/any gathering to 25 people no matter how big the gathering space is (but restaurants can operate as they have been -- so all of my guests could come to a restaurant together but could not go to our reception venue that holds 400 people. So bizarre).
We are getting married in a church and so far the churches have no restrictions other than what has been in place for months -- maintaining 6 ft. social distance and wearing a mask while attending. So as of now, we are hoping to get married with everyone that is willing to come in the church and just figure out the reception later? A lot of states around us/similar in size and COVID positivity rates have said that they will enforce the gathering restrictions only for a few weeks so I am hopeful that they may be lifted in mid December/in time for our wedding. Both the church and reception venue have pretty strict safety measures in place.
I’m sorry your state is putting such sever restrictions on y’all. It’s such a shame. When Zach and I first started planning our wedding for January; we knew it was very likely there would still be restrictions in place. What we decided was we were getting married and celebrating that marriage no matter what on the day we set because life and love must go on! We will just have as many people as we can at our wedding and hopefully there won’t be too many inconveniences. I say get married now and celebrate it now as best you can!
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We are having a microwedding on our original date with our parents and bridal party. Then, at a later, safer date we will be having our 3-day celebration as originally planned!
I feel the exact same about ours on 1/30/2021. Our state is also going to the 25 limit for our area and I am so stressed. My biggest worry is what to do about the invites I ordered and what to say in them and who to actually send them to. I think in everyone but close family's invite I may include a little note about the restrictions and that if they can come I'll let people know. Other than that Im at a loss. This is a crazy stressful time. I completely understand what you're going through. Good luck!
January 23rd Ohio wedding here! Currently still going strong - 9 weeks out now and just having our conversation about postponing. Our governor has placed us on a 21 day curfew which lines up to end Dec 10th. We are waiting until then to make our final call. As of now we have to have our reception with everyone having masks on at all times, and all our guests must stay seated at their tables (household seating only) and we can no longer have our Buffet it has to be served, and all drinks have to be served as well. On top of that!!!! We CANT DANCE. So it’s slightly turning into a crap show but we’re taking it one step at a time. Looking at the dates our venue and photographer has given us so far nothing seems to be placing where we would like it to be. But we’ll figure it out! Best of luck!!
Oh yeah - we’re at a 300 person limit for our wedding as well. That hasn’t been said other wise yet but theres still time for that to come. We are also thinking of doing intimate family only ceremony and celebrating in either December 21’ or January 22’ with our 200 guest count.
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I’m getting married 1-2-21 too! I need your mindset! We are getting married regardless but hope to have our “normal” plan take place. We have restrictions currently but are hoping for the best. Some people are telling me I’m selfish but I’m trying to ignore that. I should add the people saying that are already married and never had to plan a wedding in a pandemic! 🙄 congrats on your day!
Hi! It's nice to meet people with similar concerns as me We are getting married January 29th, 2021 in Washington State but we live in Oregon. After watching many friends have a wild 2020 trying to plan weddings just to have them be canceled we decided to have a very intimate "covid friendly" wedding and make it safe for everyone. We are renting a cabin in the mountains where we will have a dreamy winter wedding followed by a horse drawn sleigh ride to dinner. We are only having 4 guest but we hired an amazing photographer to capture every moment and will maybe have family facetime in. I am still getting my makeup/hair done and having lots of gorgeous flowers so everything will be beautiful. I feel like cutting down our guest list has made this experience even more romantic and special for me and my fiance. It's not everything I always had dreamed about but in the end I get the man of my dreams and have a beautiful wedding I will always remember. Every bride has her own vision of what she wants her wedding to look like for me the guest count was the least important part, I am sure up here in Washington & Oregon we are due for even stricter restrictions in the weeks to come. I am trying to stay positive and roll with it, we are getting married as long as they don't shut down rentals (they did close all hotels/campgrounds/airbnbs here before) so fingers crossed that doesn't happen again. I hope all my fellow brides get to have the wedding of their dreams and remember it's about you and your partner and the love that you share, don't be afraid to let go of those "must haves" for your wedding day because truly the only must have is your relationship and if you want to get married now don't wait, who knows what 2021 has in store for us!
Love this! I know some people say "it wont be as special later" but heck yes it will!!! It will be as special as you make it. A 3 day celebration sounds amazing and something for everyone to look forward to after all this craziness.
Our wedding is in PA so the restrictions change all the time and we didn’t know what would be going on in January so we decided to postpone our reception to April. We are still getting married on 1/23/21 because I love the date and that it’s a palindrome. We rented a house in the Poconos and only our immediate family is allowed to stay with us. We invited our aunts and uncles for the ceremony only and everyone else will be staying for the weekend. It ends up being under 20 people regardless but even that might not be allowed by January. I’m not wearing my dress until the April date and we are going to basically renew our vows on that day.
It’s such a difficult place to be in but I think there’s a real beauty to very small, intimate ceremonies, especially in this time. Our date is 1/23/21 and while we haven’t heard our state’s restrictions or heard from the venue specifically, we have a contingency plan to have only immediate family and local wedding party present for the ceremony then having a big “vow renewal” of sorts and reception for the one year anniversary.
Don’t be defeated & sad. I feel you. I had the same feelings over the weekend when the state reduced indoor gatherings to 25 people only. You can still have your wedding, just be creative. Talk to the venue. Use it an an opportunity to infuse something new & unique into your day. You still get to marry the man of your dreams and start Your life together, Everything will fall into place. You’ll still have a gorgeous celebration with whoever can attend.
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I am also getting married in Virginia on 1/2/21 and I’m hopeful as well that the 25 pple restriction will be lifted by then. The ceremony is not impacted which is a relief. Any creative ways to accommodate all your guests at different times during the reception?? Looking for suggestions.