any advice or just some reassurance!! dad not attending wedding...

I can sympathize. I was raised by my mother and didn't meet my father until I was 21, we speak and have *somewhat* of a relationship but it is very fragile and unreliable at times, we pretty much aren't close. He is coming to the wedding but my mother is walking me down the aisle and giving me away because in all honesty she is the one who raised me, so she has the most right to that honor. We haven't decided on whether or not we will be including the father-daughter dance because like I mentioned before, my father and I aren't that close. So let your dad walk you down the aisle if it is important to you, but as for the reception you could always do a MOTHER-daughter dance. At my cousin's wedding she was walked down the aisle by her father but had a special dance with her mother because they had a closer and stronger relationship. I say, do away with traditional and do what makes you happy. Include the people who mean something to you and don't worry about the people who are being selfish. Remember what the day is all about. Celebrating love, not past grudges.

My parents are divorced and my dad really hasn't tried to be a part of my life for awhile now so I am having my god father (my uncle) walk me down the aisle and I am doing a mother-daughter dance. I mailed my father an invitation beginning of March and haven't heard from him, tried calling several times, no response. I've tried to be close to him etc. but always broken promises. Mailed an invitation early March, haven't heard back from him. Tried calling him several times w/ voicemails, no response. My parents have been divorced for over 20 years and my mom has been the only one who really has played the "parent" role. You do what you gotta do...

Hey sweet heart I know how you feel. due to me and my father having an argument 3 years ago and some other stuff I don't speak with my father. all I can say is drugs ruined the sweet man he used to be anyway, I was left with the decision of who to ask to give me away so I decided my uncle on my fathers side shall do it. as for the father daughter dance and mother son dance they are gone. nobody will miss it just say you wanted to break tradition

you never know he may come round and stop being unreasonable but have a plan A B and C... hell go to plan Z if you have to. but DO NOT LET ANYONE RUIN YOU and your FH's BIG DAY!!! please let us know how it all works out.

He's being a child, and needs to grow the hell up.

My parents have been divorced since I was a kid. I haven't seen my father in a decade - I'm sure as hell not inviting him. I'll be walking down the aisle myself.

Girl I think with the time that you have left to go I wouldn't make any decisions and I would just let it ride for a while and not bother you. Divorces and weddings are tough. I have two kids getting married next year and I WILL NOT be attending either of them. I have reasons which my kids know and I will not explain here but it is what it is. I'm sure my children will not be happy about it but that I cannot help.

Your dad might change his mind and as for the father/daughter dance.. Have one with your mother if your dad decides he's not going to the reception. I do think that I would still want him to walk me down the aisle though even if attending the reception doesn't happen

What about having a mother-daughter dance? instead of a father-daughter dance.