Anxiety

I struggle with anxiety too. I was starting to let all those little what-ifs and details (for me it was all about, what will other people think of X, Y, or Z?) trip me up and stopped enjoying the planning process - but it was making me miserable so I figured, what's even the point of all this then?! So I just made myself think ok, what's the WORST that could happen if this is the case?

(ok if HMUA doesn't show up, have a backup plan like a trusted friend who is good with hair and some photo-ready makeup, OR pick a salon close to you so worst comes to worst you can pop over there and get yourself ready, you'll look gorgeous don't worry!; if DJ is late, you'll have a few minutes of cocktails without music and just the buzz of your friends and family mingling and laughing - not the end of the world!; I've been to so many weddings and I know some had good food and some had dry, but I cannot even remember whose was whose! Nobody will think less of you and everyone will get fed - if they don't want to finish their dinners it'll leave more room for cake!; wear comfortable shoes you can walk in, and tell whoever is walking you down about your worries, and they'll be ready to catch you if you should start to trip, that should save you at least from falling on your face but if not, just laugh it off, nobody will care and it'll be a good story; if people don't like their seating plan, it's not their wedding they can deal with it! They're there to support you, not to pick apart your decisions, and if they don't realize that they don't deserve to be there or have you stress about their seating).

Tell yourself that none of this will matter in a year or two years no matter HOW bad it is, because it's just one day and I know it's important but pales in comparison to being married to the love of your life! Good luck

There's so much pressure for brides to manage the perfect day (let's be honest, men do not usually have the same pressure). BUT literally nothing matters except the person at the other end of the aisle. Have a list with backup plans for everything that you can. If your makeup and hair artist doesn't come the day of (they will) have some makeup and hair styling accessories ready to go. If the DJ is late (they won't be), you can still have a beautiful ceremony without music. If the food is dry (it might be, because it's wedding food, but that's ok!) have a drink and laugh it off. If you trip walking down the aisle (you won't), you're the bride so you get to call do-over. You just have to keep telling yourself that the details don't really matter, the marriage is the only important thing, and that's going to be wonderful no matter what happens at the reception. Good luck!

The best suggestion that I can give is to focus on your end goal. What is your goal? To marry your FH.

Will it still happen if the HMUA doesn't show up, if the DJ is late, if the food is dry? Will your FH still marry you if you trip and fall down the aisle? See where I'm going with this?

My FH has SAD and during his panic attacks, I tell him that I'll be there for him no matter what. Keep his eyes focused on me, know that I'll be there no matter what, just focus on me.

My biggest worry isn't for anything that I've planned to go wrong. I'm most worried about him and him getting through the day with at least some food in his stomach and not being nervous. So I'm hoping that our focus on each other will get us through the day, no matter what goes wrong. Hope this somewhat helps.

My wedding is in almost 2 weeks and I am struggling so hard with my anxiety. It’s becoming a struggle to live my life normally, I can barely make it through a day at work and my job is also incredibly stressful. How did you get through it? I have taken medication previously for my anxiety and depression, but feel like I NEED something now to get me through the next couple weeks. I just don’t know how else I will make it without my hair falling out... how did you make it through? I’d love to hear some ways you handled your anxiety, and how your wedding was and how you felt after! Thank you in advance. 😊

View Quoted Comment Hi I’m getting married in 4 weeks and suffer SAD. I’m wondering how you dealt with your anxiety. I’m actually not worried about the things that could go wrong. I’m worried about having an attack right before I walk down the aisle. I’m worried about all eyes on me. I do have some medication for as needed. And plan on using that for day of.