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Super April 2021

Another Tip Question...

Tiger Bride, on April 22, 2021 at 2:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 6

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So we didn't tip anyone day-of because that $$ would have gotten misplaced in a heartbeat. Now that the dust is starting to settle, I'm wondering about where to proceed from here.

HMU - my mom paid the balance and the stylist mentioned my could tip then, or she could leave her venmo for people to tip afterwards. My mom didn't know what to do about this so she took the venmo. My girls paid for their own HMU. I don't think anyone tipped day-of. Personally, I was not really happy with how my HMU turned out, and the stylist chastised me for not having pictures of the makeup I wanted (I don't wear a lot, and wasn't sure what to look for). My hair ended up looking very different than the pictures I showed her. All in all I wasn't especially happy with the service, so I wasn't planning to tip. Do I do anything about the other girls...?

Catering - there was a 10% gratuity included in the bill, but I was thinking of venmo-ing the caterer another $20 or so per server since they all did a great job. Would this be appropriate, or is it covered by the 10%?

Delivery people - we had cake and apps delivered almost an hour from a grocery store. We were not there when they delivered them, though. Should I call my contact at the store...?

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Latest activity by Hanna, on April 23, 2021 at 11:31 AM

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Michelle · on April 22, 2021 at 2:38 PM
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As long as vendors are being paid for their services, tips should only be given when they go above and beyond with stellar service. They are not to be given for bad service or doing their job with nothing special to show for it.
You mentioned you don’t like the service you got from the beauty team. As long they were paid for services, don’t tip. This a prime example why not to tip the day of. If you give a tip to a vendor who provided a service you were not happy with, it tells them ‘thank you for treating me in a way I didn’t like, please go do it to someone else’. List your honest review on all platforms to advise future brides.
For the catering, the gratuity is an automatic tip whether it was earned or not. I would send them a thank you card and list great reviews on all platforms (Yelp, Google Maps, WW, etc).
For the delivery people, I wouldn’t because they’re doing their job without anything special and if you weren’t there to assess them, then there’s nothing to judge.
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Grace · on April 22, 2021 at 6:29 PM
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I agree that regardless of tips, you should leave good reviews for the vendors you felt gave good service and bad reviews for those that did not live up to expectations. You can reach out to the caterer and see if you sent extra money would it go to the staff who worked your event or to the business as a whole. That might effect your choice to add extra tip or not. Definitely not expected or required since you paid the added 10% but you might just be feeling generous.

Also, don't tip the HMU artist if she talked down to you and gave you a look you didn't like. Even if she did a good job on the other girls, that is not ok and she deserves nothing extra for bad attitude and service.
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Meghan · on April 23, 2021 at 10:48 AM
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I believe anyone offering you a service deserves a tip!
The 10% that was included, was that gratuity or a service fee? They are very different. Plus, 10% is not near enough. 20% is standard when tipping.
Did you tip your photographer/videographer?
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Super April 2021
Tiger Bride · on April 23, 2021 at 11:27 AM
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The 10% was a gratuity based off the food cost, not including the labor cost. It was about $350.
We did not tip the photographer as he is a sole proprietor...something about that feels a little off to me. He gave me a quote for his services and we contracted him for that rate so the expectation of a tip seems a little strange.
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Super April 2021
Tiger Bride · on April 23, 2021 at 11:29 AM
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I read your comments on some other threads and was hoping you'd see mine! I think this is good advice. I've already started writing reviews for the vendors I really liked. The ones I didn't like as much will be a little more challenging...
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