Annoyed! Over the whole wedding.

My mom left right after pictures on my wedding. You can't make people care if they don't want to. Just apart of life.

How much money have you spent on this wedding? Can you get anything back? That would be my deciding factors to cancel or not.

Date twin here too, and im 100% over wedding planning.. And Im having a smaller wedding under 50ppl

I'm in the same boat with you about the mom thing. I love my mother and we are really close...but she's not really one of those "wedding" people. She thinks weddings are dumb and she wishes I'd just elope and save money...she has no idea how much it hurts my feelings when she says this.

I get it. My bridal shower was last weekend. 45 people were invited. Only 8 rsvp'ed as no to a regrets only request, so they planned on 35. Only 15 showed up, outside of the 5 hostesses.

That was heartbreaking for me, not because I wanted gifts, but because it made me feel like the people I care about didn't even have two seconds to rsvp.

I had a wonderful time with those who did attend though, and I'm focusing on big picture - marrying FH. (TBH, I wanted to elope on a beach; FH wanted the wedding...so being excited about the planning is tough for me, but I'm doing it for him.)

Just enjoy the day with those who are there because those people are the ones who will be there on down the road, too, I'm sure! And, you're getting to marry your FH...that's what it's really all about!

Aww, I'm sorry you're going through this. Wedding planning can be hard to do alone. Do you have a bridal party/bridesmaids which can help you out?

For RSVP's, try nudging people gently in a week. If you have everyone's email address you can also send a reminder email. Some people easily forget (especially younger folks) or don't know how to RSVP online (especially older folks).

For engagement party, throw your own! We certainly are just for friends. It might be a little late in the timeline though...

I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. A lot of people don't have engagement parties or bridal showers. They are optional parties. I've had a similar experience with some people I thought would at least slightly care not caring at all. Do you think people are having a difficult time RSVPing online?

I was feeling this way a few weeks ago. I also have a website RSVP.I only recieved a handful of rsvps and ended up calling and texting for responses the day before the due date. But just about everyone ended up saying they were coming.

Do NOT listen to akshali2000.

Don't start pestering people about their RSVPs. They have three full weeks remaining! It's completely rude to bug them about it when the due date hasn't even come yet. Then when the date passes, give it a few days for stragglers and *then* start calling people for their replies.

And don't throw parties in your own honor! Also very rude.

Isn't a wedding throwing a party in your own honor StPaulGal?

Not at all. A wedding is a ceremony that legally joins two people in marriage. A wedding reception is a party thrown to thank your guests for witnessing your ceremony.

Hi date twin!! Hang in there it's a stressful time. My rsvp date is also 08/01. I had about 20 rsvps from STDs (I had the website already set up with rsvps and listed the website in STDs) but I've only gotten like 20 more with invites. Most of those are immediate family/close friends. I've decided I'm not going to worry about it. Those who come come and those who don't don't. It won't make or break my day. In the end I'm marrying my real life Prince Charming and that's what counts.

Just relax! You'll have plenty other things to be annoyed by!