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Beginner September 2017

Annoyed! Over the whole wedding.

Ashley, on July 10, 2017 at 8:32 PM Posted in Planning 0 32

Yall I'm completely over this whole wedding thing. My wedding is September 9 and the people that I thought would care do not! My mom for example. I know no one will care about the wedding as much as me but geez. No engagement party, no bridal shower. 6/75 RSVPs. Am i being dramatic? No one asks if I need help. Is it too late just to elope and cancel the entire thing?

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Latest activity by Shana, on July 11, 2017 at 2:50 PM
  • Allie
    Dedicated May 2018
    Allie ·
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    Lord that would be aggervatin as hell ! Take a deep breath , you'll be glad you had the " full wedding" experience once y'all are married Smiley smile

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  • Heather
    VIP September 2017
    Heather ·
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    At OP I've thought the same thing! It gets frustrating with everything almost here. So don't think your alone!

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Since you've sent out the invitations, yes, it is too late to cancel and elope.

    I also didn't have an engagement party. Both those and showers are completely optional. Try not to focus so much on what you're not getting and focus on how happy you are to be marrying FS. Those things don't make you any more or any less married.

    How long have your invitations been out and how much longer until your RSVP deadline? Based on your date, I'd think your invitations haven't been out very long and there's still a long time left for guests to RSVP. There's no need to worry about a low RSVP count, yet!

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    Beginner September 2017
    Ashley ·
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    My RSVP date is August 1. I sent the invitations out two weeks ago and everyone can RSVP online.

    I guess I just envisioned the whole process to be different.

    I'll update my avatar once I get to a PC, but here's one our our engagement pics.


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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    August 1st is still plenty of time and it might be that some guests are requesting time off, trying to find a babysitter, or even trying to move existing plans, so they wouldn't have known right away whether they could RSVP yes or no. And plenty of people just like to wait until the deadline to RSVP. It's not personal, it's just how they prefer to do it.

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  • A
    Beginner September 2017
    Ashley ·
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    Yall are right. I was looking at it from what I would do as a guest and I like to plan ahead. I always try to RSVP asap and tell people verbally.

    Guess I just needed to vent and get other brides perspectives.

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  • FutureMrsBoo
    Devoted September 2018
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    I'm sorry it's not what you were envisioning. I don't know if this makes you feel better or not, but I'm forgoing an engagement party and shower.

    If your guests are anything like me, you'll get a flood of RSVPs toward the very end!

    I hope things look up soon!

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  • Meet_The_Clarks
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    Op, just relax and all will be ok. You still have the rest of July- not everyone plans ahead unfortunately

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    Venting is okay!

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  • Heather
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    At Ashley I thought this was supposed to be fun also but with alot of things happening all at once I finally hit my point 3 weeks ago that this is NOT fun for me.

    I'm not sure what I was expecting but this wedding planning thing just sucks!

    With my DRESS still in alterations I just feel bummed. I guess I've lost my spirit of the whole thing.

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    Beginner September 2017
    Ashley ·
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    @heather I'm right there with you. It's not fun at all. I knew it wouldn't be all rainbows and butterflies but i did not expect this. I wish I would have just eloped like I originally wanted to and not care about everyone else's feelings. Hopefully my opinion will change once the actual wedding happens.

    Im sure your dress will be ready for the big day!

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  • Ariel
    Devoted August 2017
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    Just a little but I understand how you feel. I am not getting a shower or engagement party so I understand your feelings on that. But don't dwell on it because it won't make the getting married experience any better. Woo-Sa, calm down. Chill out for a day or two and everything should level out.

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  • Alicia
    Expert August 2017
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    I get how you feel! I only had like 34/80 rsvp by the deadline. I had to call and message everyone and I'm still missing 9! So frustrating. I didn't have any parties either, but mostly because I'm really over wedding talk/planning and didn't want them.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
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    You have tons of time for rsvps to come in... relax.

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  • Courtney
    Super September 2017
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    I am right there with you. Here on WW we all know the horror of rsvps, and the etiquette, how can people not even bother to think that time and money goes into hosting these people and literally just shrug it off. Stick it out! Those that want to be there,will be. Muchhhh easier said than done.

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  • Natalie
    Super September 2017
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    It's ok OP!! It definitely gets overwhelming but you're day will be here before you know it and you'll be so happy you did it all! There's still time for them to RSVP so no worries there. Just try to relax and take some time for you. You definitely deserve it with all the planning I'm sure!

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  • Steph
    Devoted May 2018
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    I thought it was just me. I just moved here in the states. My family and friends aren't here to help me plan, support or even just talk about wedding planning. They seem not interested too. Even cake and food tasting I am doing it alone. It is no fun at all Smiley sad

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  • HolyMoly63
    Super September 2017
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    Sorry you're going through this. We just mailed out invites out today. Don't cancel it, it'll all work out! Sorry you're frustrated. I don't really have advice, I just saw that we're date twins.

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    Just Said Yes September 2017
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    Hey, we have the same wedding date!

    I'm right there with you....

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  • Monica
    Dedicated August 2017
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    You are not being dramatic and I'm not sure if it is too late to cancel and elope. It depends on your circumstances. How much money would you lose in deposits? I am feeling the same way. I was just reviewing my guest list and thinking "this is so not worth it." I wish I had spent this time and money planning a nice, quite, intimate cruise or destination wedding for us and our immediate family. This is my 2nd wedding and his first wedding as well as my son's baptism and my fiancee's birthday. I would not put myself through this for anyone else. Not having a bridal shower or bachelorette night. I'm a netflix and chill with my kids kind of person. Not going on a honeymoon immediately after the wedding because kids and broke. Not to mention BS family drama is making me regret this whole event. oh well, the day will come and go quick enough. I actually think I will be more excited when we go to get matching tattoos lol. He has a few tattoos and I have none lol.

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