Angry guests

Are you saying you want to invite someone but not their significant other? Yes I would be upset as a guest.

I wouldn’t attend a wedding that my significant other was excluded from. I will not come celebrate your relationship if you can’t even respect mine.

I agree with PP. I would be a very angry guest if my significant other wasn't invited - no matter how well you knew them. My significant other is a part of the 'social unit' when going to events - weddings included. There are some exceptions to this (such as the couple getting together 2 weeks before the invite was sent out), but in general, couples should be considered just that on your guest list count. A couple.

I think it depends. If you haven't met the person yet it's probably because of a newer relationship. Personally I wouldn't bother inviting spmeones significant other if they've been dating a year or less, if you haven't met them I think it's okay not to invite a stranger to your wedding.
Be prepared for some No RSVPs but I think it's fine.

My fiance got a save the date in the mail last week with just his name on it. I was a little annoyed by that.
But we will probably RSVP as a couple anyway. 🤷‍♀️
Is it rude? Sure.
But so is inviting one half of an engaged couple.

I would not be okay with it.

This almost happened when FH and I were together a year. He almost did not get a plus one and was not going to attend the wedding.

Maybe only allow guests to bring a plus one if they are in a serious relationship.

I think it depends on the couple. I am inviting people who are in relationships and their SO is all invited as well. I would've been sad to get an invite without FH's name on it, even before we were engaged. In my opinion, if your guest is in a relationship, you should typically invite the SO.

This is hard. I don't think there is a fast, hard rule and really depends on the type of wedding and your group of friends. If you are keeping it small and can't include the "extras", I wouldn't be upset OR if I knew my SO didn't remotely know the bride or groom, I would understand. Especially if the person you are inviting will know a group of people there. However, if they really don't know many people, I would throw them a bone and let them bring a plus 1. I remember when we first made our guest list, we gave everyone a plus 1. It got out of control fast. Then we scaled it back down to only people in known relationships got them. The only exception was an old friend who I have known since childhood. I gave her a plus-1 since I knew she wouldn't really know anyone.

Typically I would say that's rude. But we're not inviting one of my friend's husbands because he's a lying, cheating, manipulator. Even she doesn't want it there.

As a previous poster said, if people are in a relationship, they are a social unit. If you are inviting the individual, it is customary to invite both halves. A plus one is for single guests and is not as expected. Think of it this way. If your fiance got invited to a wedding without you, how would you feel?

I think I understand where you’re coming from- that inviting SOs means you can’t invite some close friends. I totally get not wanting to have people you don’t know at your wedding, especially in place of close friends. You don’t have to give single friends a plus one, that’s a courtesy, but I would not want to attend a wedding without my SO and I wouldn’t expect my friends to come to mine alone either. I would find it extremely rude if we received an invitation to a wedding that only one of us was invited to.

My DH got a save the date with just his name on it. After talking to DH he confirmed that I was not invited to the wedding she said she had to make cuts so only coworkers were not aloud to bring their SOs. I was pretty offended by this. I think it is rude and hurtful. No one would want their SO invited to something and them not be. It is your wedding and you can do what you want. But just put yourself in their shoes and be prepared to have declines.

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It is not against the person, I do not know them, it is for lack of money, I hope it is understood that it is not that I do not respect them, I do not have enough money.

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It's just that, leave out close friends. I did not send the invitation without first clarifying that it was an economic issue and that I did not have a place for your partner, I respected who decided not to go, even so, the majority understood

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Yes, I do not have money to cover the cost of inviting all the couples of my friends, the spouses are invited, relationships that have just begun, no.

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It's just that, they are relationships that take 1 or 3 months, my friends who are already married or live together will take their partner, but I decided not to leave my close friends.

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Exactly, that's how it was at the beginning, we added all the couples to the list, but 250 people were made, we can not cover that cost, the options that were left were to get our friends out until there were 100 or not to invite newly-formed couples or unknown to us, so we preferred to explain and tell them that they were invited, but we expected them to understand.

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Ya sucedió cuando iniciamos la relación, ambos fuimos invitados a las bodas sin el nombre y lo que entendimos, hasta los dos años a la mano de los dos, a los inventos. fuera de nuestros amigos.

I'm the odd commentor out, but I will NOT have someone I've never met at my wedding (especially if that could be the only time I ever see them in my life). If I know both people, they are a unit and will both be invited by name

I also would feel a little weird going to a wedding of someone I've never met. If I wasn't invited to a wedding, but my fiancé was, I'd be a little sad to not go, but would 100% be okay with it if I don't know the person.

I know it may seem strange to strict etiquette-followers, but I know guest lists are hard and I can respect people trying to have only those closest to them present.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand, we had to leave people off our guest list we would’ve liked to invite in order to accommodate significant others. If that person is important to you then the person they are in a relationship with should be as well.