Am i wrong?

View Quoted Comment First off his wife is not attending she is just going with him and his mother so that means he will bail out early from everything it's not fair to my fiance rather cancel my half so he can have a good time. Wife is only going because other women will be there she is not taking part in any activity it's not a family vacation it's a bachelor party

View Quoted Comment But your fiance doesnt have an issue. You're the only one creating drama...

View Quoted Comment You said it’s a coed bachelor party and that his wife would be there so obviously I’m not a mind reader and I assumed you invited her because by all your posts before that, that was the logical conclusion. If your FH doesn’t agree with you, what is the issue? It’s his party so it’s his call.

I'm also not clear how you canceling the bachelorette side of the party would then lead your fiance to have a better time if your concern is centered on the best man.

Personally, I think if your fiance has no problem with his best man doing this, and the children are not exposed to anything inappropriate, then it's fine.

View Quoted Comment She was invited but doesn't want to attend just stay with the kids and his mom. And it bothers because it's not an excuse for a family vacation.

My husband went to a bachelor party in Atlantic City. My mom and I also went and gambled and ate and had a lot of fun together. We were back to the room after him we were so busy. He wasn’t distracted and he had someone to travel with.

I think you are being petty.

View Quoted Comment But what they do with their money is their business. If he’s told your FH and still plans on participating in the bachelor party without the kids, there’s nothing you can do about that. You’re going to look petty if you choose not to go because of this and that will have the potential to cause issues between your FH and his best man.

Who are you to say its not an excuse for a family vacation? People are allowed to go and travel as they see fit. Maybe because they are spending the money to go in the first place they figure they might as well do something else with it too. And as PP have said, how does you cancelling your half change anything if she isn't even planning on attending it? You're being a little ridiculous. The kids and wife/mom being there literally have zero impact on you. It's your FH's best man and if he doesn't have an issue that MAYBE his BM might head back to the hotel a little early because his kids and wife are there then leave it at that.

Who says they can't use it as a family vacation? It's literally none of your business if they want to all come out together and doesn't seem to actually be affecting the plans for the party in any way. Did the best man say he was going to leave early, or are you just assuming that he will? And even if he does, anyone can leave a party early for any reason that they want, and it still isn't your business. You're the one making this a problem for some reason.

It's their choice as a family to all come out together. You have no say in what they do as a family ever, so the best thing for you to do is to stop worrying about this. If your FH is ok with these plans, then leave it alone.

View Quoted Comment He said plans will not change the wife and groom will stay with the kids. Your fiancé does not care you said that. Maybe the mom and grandma plan to take the kids out during the day. Maybe this is the only vacation time he has ?

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You could put your foot down, and he could just decide not to go at all. Do you think your FH would have a good time without him there at all? If FH doesn't mind, I'm not sure why it's even an issue.

If your FH does not seem to think that his best man (that he chose for whatever reason) taking his mother & kids and wife to your coed bachelor party then you should not car anymore about it. That would be his right hand man and if he's ok with it then you just have to let it go. I think that best man did what he thought was best for his family, all he while keeping your fh in mind and wanting to be there for him. Whatever is going on in his hotel room is not your concern and if I was okay with something and my husband threw a fit and decided to not be with me for something that we're celebrating together then Id be very hurt.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. As long as the grandmother stays at the hotel with the children during prime party time, there is no problem. The kids are not exposed to any heavy drinkers. There is no need for everyone to spend 24 hours a day every day with the group. And as it is extremely unhealthy to drink from brunch to midnight, and there is no point in going to Vegas if you only drink and do nothing else, there should be numerous hours each day when people in the group do their own thing. You are making a mountain out of a molehill.

View Quoted Comment Even if you cancel the mom and grandma most likely will still go. So basically you will be canceling plans everyone made time for. And everyone May not be able to make that time again.

Why doesn't he just give his kids to her at her house and go to Vegas?

View Quoted Comment His wife won't let him

View Quoted Comment What do you expect, that those who attend will all be chained together 24 hours a day for multiple day. So he does things with other people in the party, 4-6 hours in a day, and wants the rest of the time doing something else. Traditional bachelor and bachelorette parties are 1 evening locally. You want a trip, and multiple days. Now you want every hour in the day party party with a bunch of people you say are heavy drinkers?. . . Parties are a voluntary thing. People participate as many hours as they want, then have your own time. . . . If as hosts, you hold a party in your home, or pay someone's way, room and food and entertainment for days, then you can expect just the person invited. But you are not hosting anything. This is a pay your own way thing. And people can spend some time with the group, and some time doing whatever they want.

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Honestly, Vegas is extremely kid friendly. They actually have babysitters that will come to your hotel room that are licensed and vetted. So why not? If it's not interfering with your plans it's a silly thing to put your foot down on.