Am i wrong?

Will he drop his kids off at his mom’s before meeting up with y’all? If his kids aren’t around I’m not sure what the issue is.

View Quoted Comment No staying at the hotel with them

It's pretty weird that the guy wants to bring his mom and kids, but if he wants to pay that extra expense I guess it's up to him. Is he requesting that you guys make any charges to the plans because of the kids?

View Quoted Comment No but he is the best man and I feel like it would distract him , plus our group is full of heavy drinkers.

As long as he's not exposing the children to anything I inappropriate, I don't necessarily see the big deal. Also, if he's a father, a certain part of him is going to be distracted in wanting to check in on his kids whether they are staying with his mom back home or in the Vegas hotel. He may feel more comfortable with having them nearby (the kids may feel more comfortable with having their parent nearby). Being a parent isn't something that just shuts off because you have a role in a wedding, regardless of the physical distance between you and your kids.

View Quoted Comment I get that I'm a mom too, but his wife is also going why not leave her home with the kids?

I don't see a single problem. The mom is watching his kids, the kids won't be around the party, you don't have to change your plans at all. There didn't be an issue.

As long as his mom is staying in the hotel with the kids, I mean it is a bit strange but it is not work refusing to go to your own party,

That's interesting to say the least.
If his mom is watching the kids, I dont see the harm. It is odd, but if he wants to allow his children around highly intoxicated people, uh... I guess that's his prerogative.

View Quoted Comment I'd be really upset if I was his wife and was being excluded because we have kids. They have someone willing to help out and watch the kids for them so why not let her? If they're not comfortable leaving the kids at home they probably don't get out much the two of them. Give them a break and let them have fun, the kids won't disturb you if they're back at the hotel.

I think its great that he went through that much thought and effort to make arrangements to make it- he could just not go at all if he can't make his arrangements work. Same opinion as the above: If I was his wife and I was excluded and told to stay home with the kids, my husband wouldn't be going either. FH knows that I'd be pissed to be excluded like that, and won't commit to things where its unfair for me. His mom may not be able to handle the kids for a full weekend, but was willing to compromise and tag along to watch them for the night. It's at their expense, he will still be there, and probably much more relaxed to have his family nearby, and happy wife- happy life. This shouldn't affect the actual party at all- the kids will be tucked away safe with family away from the party. Really, it's a win-win.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. My FH has gone on trips without me before but if we’re both invited to go on a trip we’re either finding childcare to make it work or neither of us is going. The best man found a solution so he and his wife can both attend and it sounds like the kids won’t be near anyone who’s intoxicated. I also want to point out that if I were either of them and found out you were throwing a temper tantrum about this plan, I’d rethink my friendship with you. Your reaction is over the top and immature.

I don’t see how his personal parenting decision is affecting you in any way & how it is your business to tell him what to do with his kids & his wife. As long as he is not bringing his children to your parties & adult-only activities, which sounds like he is not & kids will stay at the hotel, this does not concern you at all. I would stay out of other people’s parenting (unless there is any child endangerment happening).

I agree with PPs. Let this one go and be grateful he can even make the trip.

As long as the kids won't be around the actual "partying" I don't see how this is much different than if he were to get a babysitter for an evening for a local outing. He will leave the kids at the hotel with his mom and you guys all go out and then he goes back to the hotel to sleep at the end of the night. I don't see why this would be an issue at all.

I agree with PPs, if his mom is watching the kids I don't see the issue or how it affects you.

If the kids and mother are not attending the bachelorette/bachelor activities then I would say fine, but I personally would not want to spend the extra money to have them there. Maybe he will be staying a few extra days and exploring the area with them as a vacation?

I don't see the issue and it's pretty childish for you to say you're not gonna go because of your BMs parenting decision.

Sorry that you’re going through That.. I know how your feeling.. it really sucks. when I went on my bachelorette my maid of honor’s couldn’t make it so in her place she send her daughter .daughter does not like to party 🎉 daughter does not like to drink so I felt like she sent her and I had to babysit her bc she didn’t want to do anything I wanted to do.. so I didn’t enjoy my bachelorette at all and we went to Miami.

How does the children being in the same city with a sitter have any impact on you or the party? You’re being petty.