Am I wrong? MOB vs MOG

Tell your mom that they don't allow horses in the hotel so she'll have to get off hers before getting ready.

Your mom sounds petty.

Thank you all! Yes I was planning mother daughter time prior to the wedding. My mom was never close with my dad's family and they got divorced when I was 10 so since then family events were just her side invited. She doesn't really understand the "blending of families" concept because she never really did that with my dad, it was just acquaintances to her. and she also hates when people come into her "family time" like literally she would get annoyed if I asked if FH could come to a family birthday dinner and we had been dating for over 4 years. just because he isn't "her family" she deems it not "family time" and it took a while for her to be OK with us being a package deal for family events. I definitely think it stems from that. I will stand my ground on this.

Tell her FMIL is invited and that's the end of discussion.

And yes, my mother is a teenager is a 50+ year old's body lol its a constant battle. I just couldn't tell if this was legitimate or her being immature.

If you actually want her there- then you should invite her.

I get that your mom is feeling emotional- she's "losing her daughter" (which I hate that notion- but whatever) it's an emotional reaction.

But- if you WANT FMIL there- then ask her. You'll make time for your mom. Trying to shove someone down doesn't make you shine brighter.

You are not wrong at all. We were discussing this last night with a bride that wants to exclude her FMIL. Include her there is no reason not to.

Hey, Brielz-- I'm a therapist, and I would say to focus on the emotions she is trying (poorly) to express and not her actual words/complaints. It sounds to me like she is worried FH's family is going to take you away from her. If you can reassure her about that, the pettiness will likely fall away. She may not even be aware of it herself, but if you could say, "Mom, what I'm hearing is that you'd like more special time for just the two of us, and I will try and make that happen. I also want you to know, you will always be my mom, even as I move closer to DH."

Your mom is being petty.

I agree with PPs. YOU ARE RIGHT. even if your mom doesn't like your FMIL, her saying the brides family should get more consideration is a crock of shit in my opinion. Last time i checked it took two people to get married therefore two families are involved.

Eek. I'm sorry that you're mom is acting so immature. You are definitely not in the wrong.

It's also very immature that she did not include your FH in "family time". She needs to know that he is going to be your family as is FMIL, but that it doesn't mean they are taking you away. You'll still have your special time with your mom. Invite your FMIL!

Absolutely invite her I too think your mom is just being jealous. This is your day and at the end of it she is your FMIL not your moms. Your mom after the wedding won't be dealing with her as often as you will. You definitely want to keep a good relationship with her if you already have that. Your FMIL will be so happy I am sure. Also this is a perfect time for bonding.

I'm sorry your mom is acting this way. I would definitely invite FMIL as PP have said. It is an important day for her too, and it would be a little silly for her to hangout with her son and the groomsmen to get ready all morning...

Its situations like this that make me feel so blessed that FH parents and mine all get along so well. Good Luck OP!

@Zoe thank you! I just texted a version of that that fit into the conversation and she seems alright now. She just confirmed that she wouldn't be sleeping over the night before and seems OK.

Thank you all!

I agree with @JaKLyn, if you appease her on this then holidays will just be a nightmare. Just like she had to learn that you & FH are a package deal, she will need to learn that his family will be your family.

The idea of a little extra time with her beforehand seems like a good compromise.

I will be extending the offer to get ready to my FMIL. I thought it was a normal concept.

Good luck!

That is so weird that your mom is so petty about FMIL being there. She is going to be your Mother in Law after all! She should definitely be included if you want her to be! That is very nice and thoughtful of you! Your mom is probably jealous and worried about someone "taking her daughter away". Just try and reassure her that you love her and she will always be your mom and nothing can change that.

You are definitely right. if my FMIL wanted to come over and get ready with all of us I would be totally happy about it and I'm sure my mom would too. However she wants to be with her son that day so that's fine by me.

Yea the brides family does not take precedence. Both sides are just as important. Your mom needs to stop being petty.

It matters how you feel and how you want your day to go! Other people just have to deal. I'm sure your fiancé would be really happy if you involved her!(:

DONT GIVE IN. I love that you invited her and I think your mom is being selfish and rude.