Am I the only petty bride???

Hah. I read this as pretty bride.

I don't think you're alone, no, but I do think you should focus your energy elsewhere. Almost nothing wedding related is unique anymore, especially if you're on a site like this. You will see the same ideas used over and over, which will play itself out with the people you know IRL too. No one sits at a wedding and says "oh I have seen this before a year ago at her cousins wedding". People just don't pay attention that closely.

Yep! One of my BMs is also getting married and when I logged onto her wedding website I got a little miffed that her website theme was very similar to mine. LOL! It's such a little thing that in the end doesn't even matter, though. Best to try to get over it!

We have friends who are getting married 2 weeks before us. About 30 of the same people will be going to both of our weddings. The thought has definitely crossed my mind about similarities. I think FH may cry if they chose Thinking Out Loud for their first dance, haha, because he really wants that to be ours. I know everything will still be special even if it is similar

Your wedding will be unique because its YOU getting married! Even if you happen to have the same colors, flowers, and vibe as someone else, your guests won't even notice.

Totally read that as 'am I the only pRetty bride' and was like 'uh oh, here comes the drama'

It's totally normal to worry about that I think. But unless you are having a million dollar celebrity wedding, pretty much everything has been done before. Honestly, even if your centerpieces are similar to your cousins, I bet no one will notice or remember.

Just remember, you are choosing things you like and think are beautiful. If someone else's is similar to yours, it just means they have good taste too

This happened to me. An acquaintance of ours got married last week. Same venue, same ceremony, same DJ, same colors, same photo/video team, and we have a few guests in common. The only difference is that our receptions are in different rooms. I was upset. We had been engaged for a lot longer than them, so to see essentially my wedding take place all over social media, three weeks before my day, was hard. I'm over it now but I wasn't happy at all last weekend.

My fear with a wedding we are going to this summer because we will have some of the same guests.

A friend of mine is getting married soon and we have some similar elements - colors, activities, and we even unknowingly interviewed the same officiant (we ended up going with someone else). I was super irritated at first, especially since FH and I have been together longer, but I've since gotten over it. Like someone else said, our wedding will be unique because it's us. Besides, I should be flattered since it probably means she has good taste. lol

My cousin & I were actually engaged on the same day. Their wedding is the week before ours, so my whole family will be at both weddings. It has definitely crossed my mind...BUT they are in completely different venues, different areas, and I know she is having a vintage theme. I think as long as my cousin's FW and I talk along the way, it will be okay.

I think just about everyone having someone they know getting married close to them has the same fears.

I would only be worried about it if it was at the same venue as me!

This is a concern esp if you know a lot of ppl getting married right now (like my FH attended 4 weddings last year & has another 3 or 4 weddings this year). Luckily we are getting married in out of state w/ only 1 person (his cousin) getting married in the same city. I posted this earlier sometimes attending weddings makes me NOT want to do certain things. Lol

Absolutely not! I know that I will be attending a wedding that will have similar colors as mine, but I know that that presentation will be different, which settled my nerves. I think it's a natural feeling, but to be honest I am at the "who cares" stage...more than likely no one will notice nor will they care as long as they have a good time.

I totally understand feeling this way -- we have 4 family weddings spread over 15 months with all the same people attending -- and I've already been on the receiving end of "oh, copying my idea/ring/flowers/etc., are you?" and it's a really crap feeling.

It's your day and only you are going to remember every little detail, so do whatever you want that makes you happy that you'll look back on and love remembering!!!

We don't know anyone else getting married (my parents are marrying their new partners "at some point" - mum wants a garden tea, dad wants to go to vegas) - but if we did, I'd likely share the same feelings. Especially since we've been together so long and planning pretty long as well. However, given that the only person we've spoken to about it are my parents - hopefully we won't be encountering potential petty feelings should anyone we know get engaged.

I definitely don't care about our wedding having similar aspects to others and I definitely don't worry about the gown because the likelihood is so uncommon.

I have had a few friends recently get married but, due to distance, I was unable to attend. We have different styles, though. One friend from my city is getting married in June and we also have different styles so I don't worry at all. And frankly, who cares what others think...I just don't even think about it that way. You shouldn't either...

I'm a little reminded of the mom in the Incredibles telling her son that "Everyone is special, Dash" to which he responds "Which is just another way of saying that no one is".

You can be a special snowflake, or you can just be you. Even if that means you really like things that have already been done to death. Who cares? No one is waiting to judge you on it nearly as harshly as you imagine.

http://offbeatbride.com/2013/07/not-a-unique-snowflake

I honestly have no time to think about that with all this wedding planning! One of my bridesmaids is getting married in 2016 and we kind of have the same style but she would never have anything related to my wedding at hers so not really worried.

Fh cousin has a wedding one month after us. I am happy we are going first.