Let me start by saying I love my ring. I think it's absolutely gorgeous and I wouldn't ever dream of trading it for another ring or upgrading it down the line. I'm definitely not ashamed of my ring, so hopefully I can get my next thoughts across effectively.
Only a few people have seen my ring in person: my parents and sister, FH's parents, brother, grandparents, and aunt, 2 of my bridesmaids, and 2 of his groomsmen. While they all think the ring is beautiful, they still have a reaction of "wow, that's a big rock," which makes me feel self conscious like I'm flaunting it. I always feel this need to justify it by explaining it's a moissanite, not a diamond, so they don't think we dropped an outrageous amount of money on one ring. It's the same feeling I get when I'm out in public, like people might see the ring on my finger and judge or perceive me as something I'm not. I know I shouldn't care about other people's opinions, but I just get weirdly shy about my ring in public because I'm worried about attracting attention (egocentric much? hah...)
I feel like a contributing factor to this is the women I've grown up around have never worn their engagement rings or bands. My mom, grandmothers, aunts, none of them. FH's mom doesn't wear hers either because it broke and they have yet to get it replaced. I think it's a cultural thing and generational thing, which has also trickled down to my married cousins, because none of them wear an engagement ring either, just a simple band if anything.
I went off on a little tangent, so I'll bring it back to the original train of thought. Has anyone else felt self conscious about their ring, whether it's "too big" or "too small", because of societal or cultural norms, pressures, and perceptions? How do you deal with not giving a f*** about it?
