Am I invited to your wedding???

We have been having that problem as well lately...we just say its a very small wedding (60 people) with just very close friends and family.

Either tell them that it is a very small wedding, or, tell them that you are still working on finalizing the guest list.

How did she know about the wedding? did she hear about it on facebook?

if you are posting things about the wedding on facebook then I imagine you may be in for more misunderstandings about invites. right or wrong, it's been my experience from people I've known that if they get info about a event that they assume they are or will be invited.

such as they believe they are on a special list of people to get the information, so they must be invited.

Of course I posted my engagement.. and that I said yes to the dress, other than that... I try not to post to much on facebook... it kills me that people I have seen or spoken too in years, want to be invited...thank you all for the feedback

You know what annoys me, they ask if they can come to yours, then they say if I was to get married, it would be small...only a handful of people, sorry folks does not work that way.

I stated it was a small venue for and family and close friends but that we would contact them shud spots become avail after our primary family declines.

I am getting the same question from coworkers but I simply cannot invite them all (we have 200 people in our office) and it would be unfair to invite some and not others. I am just telling them it's just going to be our very large families attending and we can't do more than that.

I have found that must people think weddings are an invite yourself type of event. I agree with, if you have to ask then that should be your answer. I am just telling people that even though we would live to invite everyone, due to budget we just can't.

Yeah I think if people really knew how much that "number" played a part...not only for the food, but the extra tables, linen, center pieces, you have to account for everything...

I dodge people. Seriously. We're having a large wedding (160), but there are still so many we can't invite.

That's one of the problems of being an older bride - almost everyone on our guest list is married. So in essence, we each only got to invite 40 people - 40x2=80, 80x2 (plus ones) = 160. That made it hard so I'm telling people we could only invite around 40 a piece, and with family and family friends, that doesn't leave a lot for coworkers, new friends, etc.

I would dare say that has only been the stressful part! I'm inviting 170 max- our original budget was 150.

You told her you were having a B list? ouchie....

Yeah.... It was that or simply say no

"We truly wish we could invite everyone, but we have constraints due to venue space and budget" It's rude for people to ask but they don't understand why.

I will say that the next time- thanks

UUUGGGGHHHH!!! I HATE THAT QUESTION!!! A few of our close FRIENDS received their invitations. At our organization social Thursday, people came up to both of us saying "I didn't get my invitation" - I feel that same way you do Future Mrs. Simmons - if you have to ask if you are invited, chances are you know you aren't.

Iv e been getting that too. " I hope you include me" and " I better be invited!"

I just say the guest list is still a work in progress our venue is limited.

This is always so tricky. I'm still finalizing the guest list is a great answer.

Sometimes I just smile and give a non-commital statement. "We are really looking forward to it" "It is going to be a very fun day" etc.

Love all the suggestions!!!thanks ww family

I wish it was appropriate (and I had the balls) to say "Nah, bitch" and walk away.