Am i in the wrong?

He's being immature! he's acting 13, not 30. You get one birthday, not ownership of a whole weekend! Keep your date and have a great party, you are 100% in the right!

You don't do anything. You have already apologized. The date is chosen and it is unfortunate that he, as an adult, cannot see that. He will have to get over it and you should try not to let his reaction get to you.

Not at all. I feel like he’s being selfish for no reason. You only get one engagement party, and considering your already difficult scheduling conflicts you made the best decision for you, your fiancé, and your immediate families. This best friend isn’t being such an awesome friend by not understanding and forcing you to change your engagement. It’s not on his actual birthday. He gets one every year, you only get engaged once.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Kelly. I couldn't tell you how many times we changed our Date and Venue and Month. We cant please everyone. It's your Day make it special.

View Quoted Comment Most people, in adulthood, don't assume people will come from out of state for a birthday. Being adult means putting things in perspective, realizing that once young childhood is passed, and even then if need be, people do not attend every birthday party even if they do remember, and often if they do take note of it, it is on a nearby date when it does not conflict with other things, work or social obligations. And 16th and 18th, 19th 20th, 21st, 25th, 30th ,40th, ... All seem especially important to the person whose birthday it is, to your mom or dad, and your SO. To others, they are worth remembering, but don't necessarily mean people will attend a party as first priority. She is not in a snit that he won't come to her engagement party, she understands. Why does he assume everyone he wants to invite, even from the next state, will put him over every other person in her life? No matter what the occasion? That thinking, that the world revolves around him and what he wants, is what is childish. He is out of step with most other people at age 30.

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I agree. Your not going to be able to satisfy everyone. Your family, specifically your dad, being at sea is a priority.

I don't understand why people get so bent out of shape about birthdays. 18th, 21, and maybe 50th i can see as being big. -shrugs-

Um, your mutual friends can make a decision about which party they want to go to. They are adults after all (except for maybe your 29 going on 30 year old friend who is acting like a child).

I understand that 30 can seem like a big birthday year, but most people live to 30 and not much changes then. As a 34 year old marrying a 37 year old I can safely say turning 30 is way less of a big deal then getting married.