Am i crazy for this?

View Quoted Comment I still wouldn't. If your dad owns a catering business, I would just hire his staff to do all the heavy lifting. If you're interested, you and your dad can pop in and do some stuff for a little bit, but you do not want all that pressure the day before making sure you get everything done. I thought I would have nothing to do on the day before the wedding except relax and hang out until the rehearsal. I had even planned to meet up with my cousin who was flying into town! That was a lie. I ended up having to take care of several last minute things and barely had time to shower before the rehearsal!

View Quoted Comment No worries, hun, you've got this ❤

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I would let your dad's employees handle caterer the wedding. Trust me when I say you will have a lot of thinks come up that you won't be expecting the day before your wedding no matter how organized you. I thought I would be fine not to take the Thursday before my wedding off. My husband along with most of his family took Thursday and Friday off. They kept texting me all morning on Thursday. I ended up leaving work early because there was just so much to still get done and I couldn't focus at work.

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I mean professional isn't the problem. My dad professionally caters. We've cooked for more people than we're actually inviting to the wedding and then after RSVP's are in it should be even less. Thank you for the insight though!

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I can see that now! Thank you for being encouraging!

Although cooking is my passion and FH and I want a food truck. I’m not sure I would cook for my wedding. Rehearsal dinner yes more laid back fewer people no pressure. Get some good rest before wedding without thinking/stressing If a. There’s enough foods. It taste good c. Will everything work out.
I know that you said you enjoy cooking with your dad and I do think it’s sweet but I really hope you can find some funds to budget for caterer. Or maybe you can do half/half caterer takes care of main course you take care of appetizer or passed hors’doerves.

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THIS!!!
We ended up postponing our big wedding due to covid, but we were planning (and still do) to do all of the food ourselves. My mom has catered weddings before. I have a ton of food allergies and don't really trust caterers to take it seriously. Our FAVORITE pass time activity. It can most certainly be done, and what a special memory!

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Of course! It's your day and it's totally up to you. The only piece of advice that I think is true for everyone in this case, is that you need to be super organized. There are bound to be last minute things in any wedding, but if you plan ahead for the details, then you won't have all the other last-minute issues other people are mentioning here and you'll have time to cook! Best wishes to you!

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I love this! This was a huge encouragement! I'm excited for you and your mom to have that experience! Please let me now how it turns out!

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Thank you! Thank you especially for the sound advice! I'm a terrible micromanager, so seeing someone say that it can be done if I'm organized is a huge encouragement!

I really understand your reasoning for wanting to do this with your dad.


In order to figure out the feasibility, I would encourage you to think about these things. What all will you need to complete on the day before the wedding? Nails, decorating, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner. What’s your time commitment to these things going to look like? Also, can you feasibly schedule them earlier or do any of the cooking earlier? Also, who’s going to set up, maintain, and serve the food. I would expect you to have your dad with you for sometime before the ceremony and also during, and likely right after for pictures.
But you said he’s catered for larger events, so he would know the things entailed for your wedding and I’m assuming he’d be able to delegate some setting up and serving tasks to others.
You do you, dear. And I’ll thank you for asking this question. I’m now going to start thinking about a way to spend some 1:1 time with my dad and then also my mom between now and Oct 24. Obviously I’ll still see them and have a close relationship after the wedding, but I know the dynamics will forever be different after the wedding.

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I like the idea of cooking for the rehearsal dinner! I personally wouldn't cook for my wedding reception. I already get stressed out cooking for my own family! LOL.