Am i being petty?

It’s important to feel comfortable in what you wear. Yes, it’s your wedding, but it’s her body and she should feel confident too. Talk to her about expressing her opinions more respectfully, but I’d honor her decision not to wear the dress.

You’re not being petty if it comes in different cuts they could choose from - are you only asking that it be in a certain color and material is all?

View Quoted Comment Yes exactly. I personally thought that was kind of standard... I’ve had several friends do the same

What is the material? Are there more flattering cuts available such as sleeves or a-line?

Your not being petty. It's your day and honestly this can be looked at in many different levels. If she has options to choose from I don't see it as petty nor selfish

I think the 2nd time this happened would push me to not asking opinions anymore lol. I mean if you like something just go for it. You are the queen for the day and they will survive!

View Quoted Comment I agree but it will say if you want them to wear that dress will you pay for it? Maybe talk them that you want a certain style and for her to find some ideas similar to what you want. If they're paying they should have more of a day but of you're buying them I feel you have more right to say this is the dress you want.

Hi Stacy, I completely agree with you, it's YOUR day, she needs to respect your decision, I'm having the same problem in that I picked a mermaid style which one of my bridesmaids was refusing to wear, but when I offered to pay for all the bridesmaids dresses she agreed, good luck!
My bridesmaids dress

I found dresses that would be flattering to multiple body sizes/shapes. Since only 1 of my attendants lives close, like 5 minutes away, I had to text them links to what I liked and thought would look best for a beach wedding. I let them decide on the best one. The only difference is my MOH and bridesmaids will have the same dress with the exception of my daughter's being white with red flowers at the bottom. The picture is my daughter's dress. The other 2 attendants are wearing the same dress but solid red. These are also dresses they can wear again and not just a wedding.

I picked the color and type of fabric (chiffon) and let my girls pick their style. Ultimately I wanted everyone to feel good about what they were wearing. No it’s not their day, but if everyone feels good about how they look it’s going to project in the over all mood and atmosphere of the day. My future SIL isn’t crazy about the color I’ve asked her to wear (my bridesmaids are in blush and my MOH is in navy) but she’s never once said she wouldn’t wear it. It was more of a joke about “are you sure I can’t wear navy?” when they were trying dresses on. (Honestly I wouldn’t mind, but choosing colors was very difficult for me and because of my indecisiveness this is something I can’t budge on!) But she respects my choice and she had (pretty much) free reign of the style. I’m not super crazy about every dress picked, but I’m not the one wearing it so I don’t really care. That being said I think she should have more respect for you and your choices especially if she’s your MOH. I did take my MOH shopping first and let her pick her dress, then we went with the other girls a few weeks later. Maybe consider doing that? What is the fabric of the dresses you like?

Does the dress work within everyone’s budget? If so, and you’re even giving all your BMs the option to choose the cut that works for their body, I’m not sure what the issue is. I would also have a chat with your MOH asking her to be supportive (or it’ll be a long frustrating road to the altar).

I personally worked with my MOH to figure out what she and the bridesmaids will wear. I wanted her input and for her to feel comfortable. We also considered the other ladies and their body types in our decision of course.

I selected my bridesmaids dresses and the MOH And Matron can select there own long as the color is what I picked.

To honest it's your wedding and you asked her to be in it!! She can suck it up and wear what you pick out!! If she doesn't like it she can step down as one. That might put you in a pickle of finding someone else but at least you will be happy with what you pick out!!

It seems like you took into consideration the girl’s bodies as they come in different cuts. It’s your wedding and your vision. I think she should be more understanding

I think if you are paying for them, then you pick what you want. If she is paying for her own dress, she needs to have a say. I paid quite a bit for my MOH dress at the last wedding I was in. Luckily, I was just given a color & was able to get whatever style I wanted. If I was forced to buy an expensive dress that I didn’t like, I don’t think I’d be very happy. Just sayin. However, this kind of sounds like what you suggested. She needs to budge a little, too. This is why we chose to not have a wedding party 😂 don’t have to worry about anyone’s opinions but my own 😜

I’m having this issue with one of my matrons. I’ve paid for everything, and I’m paying my part for nails and hotel for bachelorette. This is about you not them! I didn’t stand my ground being nice trying to make everyone happy! So I would say stand your ground because you’re gonna be unhappy and this time is about you not them!!!!!

Personally, I think that bridesmaids should wear what they feel most beautiful and confident in. It’s their body and they will be in many pictures so I want them to feel beautiful. I let my bridesmaids and MOH pick out their dresses, I just gave them a color pallet.

It's your wedding, if they don't like what you do, don't worry about it find new people.

I dont think your bridesmaids should complain especially if there are options for them. You have to do whatever you want and don't feel bad about it because it's your wedding. That was the advice someone gave me.