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Just Said Yes August 2022

Am i being petty?

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Annie, on July 8, 2021 at 1:54 PM

My FH’s two very close friends got engaged in May 2020. Over the summer, my FH received a STD addressed just to him. Since they got engaged, we have moved in together and gotten engaged ourselves. My FH just received an invite to their wedding this August - just him. Their wedding is at the grooms place of work and so they are getting the venue for free and only have to pay for food, which I know can definitely add up. They are also inviting 225 people. We have hung out with them several times before COVID and twice after. I am hurt that I wasn’t invited to their wedding, but I can’t change their minds. Would it be completely petty of me to not invite them to our wedding? I think when I am at my own wedding and see them sitting there, I might get a little upset.

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VIP October 2022
Samantha · on July 9, 2021 at 3:11 PM
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Yeah, it’s not really petty on your part since they are saying they don’t want to socialize with you as a couple. I hope he isn’t goin to the wedding.
And of course never host them again - it’s not punishment, it’s picking up the message they put down.
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Savvy May 2022
Gc · on July 9, 2021 at 9:01 PM
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Yes, it is petty and I don’t think them being rude should give you a pass to be rude. That being said, this is SO rude of them and I totally get why you’re offended.
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Cool · on July 10, 2021 at 8:52 AM
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“Never assume malice when ignorance will suffice” writing that one down! Samantha, can you be my therapist? Always coming through with the words of wisdom 😂
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Samantha · on July 10, 2021 at 9:49 AM
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I just repeat what MY therapist tells me!
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Theresa · on July 10, 2021 at 10:37 AM
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I don't think it's rude or petty to not invite them to your wedding. Now, if you were to invite one of them without the other, that would be rude and petty. But, I see no issue with choosing to not invite them as a couple. Just because you socialized with them on several occasions in the past does not obligate you to invite them anywhere, especially to your wedding.
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Devoted August 2021
Jade · on July 11, 2021 at 11:37 AM
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I don’t think you’re being petty at all! It makes sense to me, if you’re not invited to their weddings then why should they be invited to yours? Weddings are way too expensive & special to have anyone there that isn’t bringing you good vibes! However, if it were me I’d probably first have my FH ask those friends why you weren’t included or maybe even have him ask if it’s okay for him to bring you, since usually your always his wedding date & it’d feel weird for him not to have you there (or say something along those lines). Then at that point if his friends still don’t want to include you, then that’s definitely not petty to not include them!

Sending you so much love & peace, beautiful! 💗
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