Am i being Petty?

I understand where you are coming from, but it’s their lives and he clearly wanted to pick a. Holiday so it’d be special. Also they’ll have such a fun time at your wedding bc they’ll be on cloud 9.

Yep! It’s your brother, be happy for him! He’s just in love and wants to ask her, not steal your show!! I totally understand! Though. I’ve had sooooo many people get engaged around the same time as us, and three other couples that we are friends with are getting married within the same month as us! (We literally are going to/being in/planning a wedding every single Saturday for a month!! It happens. Everyone is allowed a day! And he’s being considerate by not proposing on yours!

Yep, definitely petty. As long as he isn't proposing at your wedding, what's the issue?

Yes very petty.

I don't think you are being petty. I think it's tacky on his part. Why on Earth couldn't he wait just a few more weeks to let you enjoy your moment and let your family focus on you. What is so important it has to be done 5 days before your wedding. Tacky.

Gotta agree with everyone else here, that's very petty and rude. You get a day, not a whole week.

Believe it or not, people will talk about topics other than you at your wedding, so what if it's about your brother getting engaged? You are not the center of the universe, I'm sorry.

My brother in law is doing the exact same thing and call it petty but I'm mad. 🤷‍♀️

Old post but wow, I'm surprised at the amount of people saying this is petty. If that is a special date for them, I could see it being fine, but I wouldn't propose 5 days before any family members wedding. The truth is, at a normal wedding, it's hard to get to spend time with the bride and groom, they're very busy, so yeah, proposing right before means a lot of family is going to focus on this new proposal a little bit at the wedding. 5 days isn't a lot of time, I'm sure some people at the wedding will be hearing about it for the first time there and be excited and want to see the ring. Also, wedding family small talk is awkward, people will gravitate towards those they have something to talk about with, aka a newly engaged couple. My fiance proposed MONTHS before his brothers wedding. I knew he wanted to soon when he did, I was very clear I wanted him to check with his brother to make sure they were ok with it since there is no reason we couldn't hold off for a little so that people wouldn't be trying to track us down at their wedding to talk about our wedding. While his brother said it was fine, EVERY conversation I had with family members at that wedding was about my wedding. It had been enough time passed that it was not a ton of people, but I can't imagine the hype if it had been 5 days before. I guess what I am saying is I definitely see what you are saying. Now, if you are being super upset about it and huffing and puffing, that's an overreaction. But to be a little annoyed I think is certainly fair. I would not voice anything though. It won't take anything away from your day.

I understand, but it does seem a *little* petty, but honestly I’d feel the same way. Be glad he isn’t doing it AT the wedding! I think the wedding day will still be all about you - but I could see how there still might be a bit of a spotlight on them.
Maybe have a heart to heart with your brother and tell him how you feel.

To be honest, I wouldn’t like the idea of this either. You’ve been planning for a very long time, and the week leading up to the wedding is stressful, fun, exciting. There’s no reason he can’t wait til the next day after the wedding even. Maybe he can even do it earlier, that’ll help take away the “newness”. Unless that’s a special day to them, I don’t see why he couldn’t have planned that a little better. Most people like to show off that they’re engaged, which the next time they’ll see those people is most likely the wedding.