Am i being Petty?

Yes you are being petty. You get one day, not 5. Be happy for your brother. It will not take away from your wedding day.

Yes you’re being petty. Your brother can propose to his girlfriend whenever he wants to in relation to your wedding, except for AT the wedding.

Yes.
This does not affect your wedding.

Yes, petty. You get your wedding day. If he feels like it's the right time to propose and he wants to be around family and friends to do it then you should be happy and support them. Your wedding day will still be about you.

The proposal will take place before your wedding, not during it. You will still have the entire wedding day that is all about you and FH.

He probably chose Thanksgiving because you guys will be surrounded by family, not to upset you. Let your brother have his special moment and try to be happy for him. It definitely takes nothing away from your wedding day.

I'm going to agree with the others, you are being petty. At most they'll get some congratulatory hugs and maybe a joyous squeal at your wedding. Most likely you won't even notice.

I genuinely don’t think people will make your wedding about their engagement. As long as he doesn’t propose during your wedding or something it shouldn’t be a big deal. I’d just ask him not to plan a big engagement party in the days leading up to or immediately after the wedding because it might be overwhelming for mutual family and friends to have to celebrate so much in one week lol.

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I totally agree with this.

I wouldn't worry about it. Your wedding day will still be your day!

Yes. Let him have his life too. It's not as if he's going to wear a sign at your wedding that says "I just got engaged" in neon lights at your wedding. Thanksgiving is a holiday for family. Let your family be family.

Yes, you're being petty, in my opinion. I think it would be fun to have a newly engaged brother / future SIL at my wedding. You all can celebrate together. My fiance proposed to me shortly before a holiday so that we would soon see my parents and other family members ... to see the ring, share in the excitement, etc. I am sure with the Thanksgiving holiday, your brother just wants to do the same thing.

I would be pretty unhappy if he was planning to propose the day of your wedding or even the day before, but how does 5 days before affect you?

Yes, you are. It's not like he's proposing at your wedding.

I proposed to my fiancée three weeks before my brother's wedding. When I told him in person a couple weeks later, his first reaction was a flippant and bored "yeah, we worked it out already". He eventually gave me a proper congratulations a few days afterwards, but it really hurt me that he couldn't just be happy for me. We delayed announcing anything on Facebook for two weeks for that?

Be happy for your brother and share in his joy. Show him the respect to not detract from his big moment, and he will grant you the same respect in return. I understand that this is your big day, but this is a big moment in his life as well. And yes, due to the timing, it will be a topic of conversation among extended family at your wedding, but that necessarily doesn't mean he will be taking the focus away from you and your partner.

Petty! It’s not like he’s asking her AT your wedding. I was feeling a bit down when we found out that SIL was pregnant a few weeks before our wedding, and I was worried she would make a scene out of announcing it at a family party the weekend before the wedding or at our rehearsal dinner because that’s the kind of person she is and she hates when her brother (my H) gets any attention. But her announcement didn’t detract from our wedding (or wedding week!) at all. People can be happy for you both at the same time, but trust me, your wedding will be on everyone’s minds for the most part!

I don't think there's anything wrong with it per se, but I understand being annoyed about it. Is there any particular reason he's doing it that day? Is it something special or are they in an LDR and that's when he'll see her? Otherwise it seems to me like they want the attention from family at your wedding.

Hi Heather,

I don't like the term petty. You are not petty you are just concerned. I will say this let your brother do his thing, 5 days before your wedding is okay. Enjoy it all as a family as long as he is not doing it at your wedding or the day before you are okay. I understand what you mean as my best friend got engaged in April than our other best friend got engaged a week after and I felt that it took away from someones shine. My fiance prposed a month after my cousin got married just so he did not take away the shine from her and I get it how you feel but in this case since it is around Thanksgiving let him. Let the week of activities continue and let them have their moment of 1 day. As long as it is 5 days before it makes no difference to your day so do not worry let him have his moment.

While I definitely DON'T think you're being petty. I don't think people will will make your wedding day all about them.

I totally understand the worry, though. My coworker just got engaged right before my wedding and its kinda like the "bride hype" went away for a little bit. Selfish or not, I understand the feeling.

It's a different story if he proposes during or on the day of your wedding. That's disrespectful as hell.

I would be disappointed if I was you also because it is so close when he could pick any other time. I don’t think I would say or do anything about it but I get where you’re coming from. My fsil asked me if she could do her baby’s gender reveal the day before my wedding and I was totally flabbergasted so I understand. Just remember your day will be the best day ever!