Alternative Role for Sister

How old is she? Maybe a reading..?

Her age is definitely a factor. But I am in the same situation. My sister is 14...she will be almost 15 by the wedding. I don't care what tradition says...she's my MOH!

She could do a reading, be an usher, hand out programs, be your attendant...

Yes- how old is she? I was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding, and I was 15 when she got engaged and 16 when she got married.

Just have her be a bridesmaid... i had an 8 year old bridesmaid.

My little sister will be 16 by the time we get married and we are 10 years apart. She's been a very moody teen for the past few years but when I moved in with FH we started to get along. She's a bridesmaid in my wedding and will be giving a special toast at our rehearsal dinner. My MOH is my cousin who my parents raised. We're only 6 months apart and it was a no brainer picking her.

I ended up making my little cousin (basically a sister) be my jr. BM - she is too young for all the BM stuff but I wanted her to know how special she was to me. Any reason you aren't too thrilled about the Jr. BM idea? It seems like a good problem solver. but I like the suggestions of the other WW of usher, handing out programs, etc...

I think it's fine to just have her as a bridesmaid then. She's not too young, and if she gives you attitude, tell her to shut up.

@gamecox -- i think you are seeing the red shirts and thinking that OP and Koch Bride are the same person. I almost did the same thing!! no word from the OP about how old her sister is :-)

Oh crap! You're totally right!! Sorry OP and Koch bride!

@GameCox its quite alright! I've told my sister to shut up quite a few times in the process. She's the queen of sass and has no filter. She'd put some of the brides on here to shame!

She is 14 and we are more than 10 years apart. I have discussed her being a bridesmaid in a round about way, because up until now I had not given serious thought to the bridal party, and she doesn't really seem interested. Of course, I don't know that for sure. Koch's post made me feel a little better. My sister is extremely moody and emotionally immature (I mean that in the best way possible). Don't get me wrong - I love my sister, I'm just worried about her feeling left out in a bridal party much older than she is.

Just straight up ask her! She's not a little girl she's a maturing teen who can tell you how she feels so I'm sure that if you just sit with her and talk one on one you can figure something out that you'd both like!

I was a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding at 16 and she was 23, and I was also a bridesmaid at 7 in my brothers wedding when he was 24. There's a huge gap between my brothers and sister & I, but it was fine. I did a reading at both and stood up, but obviously couldn't do any pre wedding planning or activities. I think you should just have her be a bridesmaid, despite her age.

Thanks for your input everyone. I will ask her to be a bridesmaid. I just wanted some advice and assurance from those of you who may have been in this position. My best friend since kindergarten is my maid of honor.

@mrsgrady9450 I know how you feel. As far as the bridesmaid stuff for my bachelorette party, we are definitely going to have a day component that my sister can partake in and then at night go wild at the bars. My sister is also very artsy so I asked her to help me with my invitations because she does beautiful calligraphy. Also, my MOH and another one of my bridesmaids have kind of paired up with her to make sure she has a role in the shower. I think my sister is helping them plan and make favors. I've told my sister that when she gets married, I'll be the old granny of a bridesmaid!

@koch bride Thank you! I feel much better after hearing your post, especially regarding pre-wedding activites. I really didn't want her to feel left out.