Okay so my FH's Best Man got married last Friday and they had a nice wedding. One of FH's groomsmen attended with his longtime girlfriend. I have met her a couple of times and always had friendly encounters. Well, this one went a little different and I have some serious qualms about her attending our wedding now.
Once the reception started, the girl, we'll call her Sally, mentioned that she was excited for the bouquet toss. I said, oh me too, I love doing the bouquet toss. She looked at me in shock and said, I was absolutely not allowed to participate because I was already engaged.
[Side note, I don't know if that's something that is a thing or not. In all the weddings I've ever attended engaged people go up too. Regardless of etiquette I just found her response to this completely unstable and inappropriate.]
I told her everyone still did that I'd seen I was going to go up. (I really don't like people telling me what I can and cannot do in a tone like she had.)
She started saying. That's not fair. That's not fair. Over and over again while literally stomping her feet and getting tears in her eyes.
I was super taken aback by this reaction. Finally she stopped and said. You are not allowed to go up. Absolutely not. There are girls who don't already have what you have and you are STEALING THAT FROM THEM. That's just wrong and EVIL. You're an EVIL person if you think you are going to do that.
I calmly told her I was sorry she felt that way but if they did the bouquet toss I still planned to go up and participate. She then let me know if I did, she would elbow me in the throat as hard as she could so she would really hurt me as badly as she could if I tried to catch the bouquet because I didn't deserve it.
I walked off from the table (we were seated at the same table) because she was getting threatening and seriously unstable. This was not a joking tone. She was being serious.
Then, on Monday I get an anonymous post on our e-guest book page on our wedding website saying "Ugh. So not deserving." I have no idea who would have posted that other than her. Which makes this feel even more disturbing.
Obviously her boyfriend is my FH's groomsman and she was invited when we sent out the invitations last week and we'll likely have to host her. But I feel off put at the idea of her attending and plan to avoid her at all costs at the wedding. Also I feel disgusted at the idea of her catching my bouquet after her behavior toward me. So troubled by this whole thing!
Again, it's not really about catching the bouquet at all and it's fine if y'all have the opinion that engaged people shouldn't do it. It's more about the absurd threatening behavior from a 34-year-old woman at a wedding.
