Alcohol issues

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your input i really appreciate that you can see where i am coming from as well as my fiancés side of the family. It really is a difficult situation for me because i don’t want to disappoint my dad at all he means the world to me but at the same time i need to compromise to make everyone happy. My worst fear is not having my dad to walk me down that aisle and share this huge moment for us. It’s hard having very religious parents and trying to compromise with them or have them try to see where my fiancé and i are coming from regarding his culture and how they do things because it’s not just me getting married it’s also my fiancé!

Yes, I feel you because we both have some very religious folks, we know they never want to compromise on anything, wedding-related or not. This is the one thing we hate about them, even though we are "a little religious". We are paying 100% so we can say "no" whenever we want, we are planning to honor our parents and acknowledge their roles in our lives... but ... on our own terms.
Hopefully you will find the words that will make him think about the bigger picture: Your happiness since you will marry the man you love and the fact that you want to walk down the aisle on his arm.
You can remind him that having him next to you when during the "walking down" is a proof you love him and that you want him to have a major role on the wedding day whereas not having a bar isn't a proof. Your compromise is great, too bad he doesn't accept it; however: he needs to learn what the word "compromise" means since you, your man and your future in-laws still want to respect his beliefs. And... he needs to know that even though he is the 1st man who loved you and he's the 1st man you loved, your future husband,in-laws and their culture matter since the wedding means 2 families merging into one.Good luck!

He is paying and it is your dad so it makes this so hard but I believe we all need boundaries. Even if he is paying this is one of the most special days of your life. You need to just sit down and talk to him and let him know how strongly you feel about making you and everyone else comfortable. He is important but so are your other guests especially your new family. I think if you bring up your idea about splitting the time or just telling him you are having an after-party he might understand. He is your dad and if you really show your feelings he just might understand and if he doesn't the after-party idea isn't a bad idea. I understand having parents trying to make your wedding choices for you but they had their big day and this is yours and they just need to understand that.