aita for being a pregnant Moh?

No you're not an asshole! I'd be upset if someone told me that I had to wait to get pregnant. Personally I'd go through with your plans on starting a family. Hopefully your sister can understand!

.....absolutely not. She gets a day. Your life doesn't stop just because you're in a bridal party. My MOH was 6 months pregnant during my wedding, and when she told me she was pregnant, I was nothing but excited for her and her growing family. If she's mad/upset and wants you to hold off on starting your family, she's the a**.

No, it makes her one. How incredibly selfish.

She's the a-hole, not you! I have NO idea how she can even look herself in the mirror or look you in the face after asking that!

No, not even a little bit. It makes her the a**, not you. She is incredibly selfish to even think it’s ok to ask you to wait a year to try to get pregnant.

She is way out of line, has no business whatsoever commenting on when you to plan or start trying to conceive . Selfish control of others is not something a bride can get away with for her wedding . It is her day to determined be her clothing and yours, her decor, setting, music and religious or non religious content of her ceremony. But brides/ grooms do not exercise any other control of attendants, or guests, even at the wedding ( no choosing what guests or family wear, no choosing your hair style or color.) As for something like having children, a life decision, she has no input. Disregard whatever she said.

The bride is being a complete a-hole. She has some gall!

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Wow! You have every right to have a baby and your child won’t take away from her wedding. She needs to chill!

Everything PP have said. Just WOW. That is unbelievable. Take your focus away? I'm straight up appalled. This is an unbelievably selfish request.


Also, good luck on your journey to conceive! May it be swift and easy!

I really, really hope you actually know that you're not the a-hole here and you're just posting to commiserate... your sister is 100% wrong.

I'm having a MOH and that's it. No bridesmaids. When I found out that my MOH was pregnant, I was so excited for her! And when I found out that she's due a week after my wedding, I was still thrilled for her! I didnt ask her to back out or ask someone else to be a bridesmaid. She is my best friend and whether she is pregnant or not, I want her standing by me when I get married. So no, you are totally right in your thinking. You shouldn't put your life on hold because she's getting married.

No, nope, and NOPE NOPE NOPE.

I'm your age, and we are also trying, so I get it.

Two of my BP (married) were trying to get pregnant during our planning process, and the only thing I could think of was: 1. YAY "NIBLING" and 2. Let's find a dress that flatters all shapes. (They got pregnant after the wedding.)

She gets one day, and this is your life, your health, and your future family. Any baby you have is *her* family!

Sit down with her and hold your ground.

You are very, very far from being the asshole. She’s being a bridezilla. I would bet that if you have a baby before her wedding, she’ll declare it’s a no kids wedding and tell you you can’t bring your newborn (even if you’re breastfeeding) and then kick up seventeen kinds of stink when you say you can’t leave your baby for that long.

She’s in the wrong for asking you to do that. Being in someone’s wedding absolutely does not mean putting all your life plans on hold for a year.

Not at all. Kinda makes her one for asking, imo. She's the bride, but she doesn't get to rule the lives of her attendants. Good luck to you on getting pregnant, and being 35 doesn't take away anything from the joy of having a child. 💜

She’s being selfish. It’s not going to “take any attention” off of her if you have a baby bump or your husband is sitting in the crowd with your newborn child. Do NOT let her convince you otherwise.

Nope, you're not the ass in this case! Sister or not, no bride should be asking other people to put their lives on hold to be a part of someone's wedding.

You definitely are not an asshole! I’d say that was majorly overstepping on her part to request you put your life on hold for her wedding!

If anyone is being an @$$hole its your sister. She has absolutely no right to tell you when to start a family, and the fact that you are 35 makes her request to push it off even more unreasonable. She's basically saying that you not being pregnant on her wedding day is more important than the health of you or your baby.

One of our friend's sisters was 36 weeks pregnant for our friends wedding and had to fly in for the wedding (ill advised, but she and her husband are both nurses and they took every precaution they could do so so safely). She was the MOH and wore a cream lace gown and had a giant belly. It took absolutely zero attention away from the bride even though she was pregnant and wearing a dress that many could have mistaken for a wedding dress.

You are absolutely right. Your sister can grow up a little and realize the world doesn't revolve around her and everyone's lives don't get put on hold for her wedding day.