So, my dad was absent from my life until I reached adulthood... he is partly to blame, but my mom is to blame for it too. (She refused contact.) I wound up missing out on all the father/daughter milestones that occur as one grows up. The result is that I love my dad... and I know he loves me... but our relationship lacks that daddy's girl aspect that most fathers & daughters have.
I also hate, hate, hate the idea of being "given" away. I'm my own person, I've been my own person for years. I belong to me and nobody else... I feel this so strongly that just thinking about being "given" makes my skin crawl.
I've been going back and forth about whether or not I want my dad to walk me down the aisle. And if I do... how do I avoid the "giving away" bit?
I know my dad would feel dead proud to walk with me. I'm on the fence about it. Will I regret it if he doesn't? Or if he does? Thoughts are very much appreciated.