age limit wording on reception cards

We just put "Please join us for the adult only reception" on the reception card, along with the location (different than cereomny) and the time it started(2hours after the ceremony ends) But on the RSVP card, we listed everyone in the household who was invited. We are in the same boat, where we have cousins who are like 16 or 17..technically not an adult, but old enough to attend and be on good behavior.

Please respond on or before August 2, 2011

John & Sue Smith

Mike & Kim Smith

_____of 4 attending

We did ours with "adult reception to follow" on our invitations. We are having a handful of children at the wedding, so I just let their parents know that they are invited (I also addressed their invites with "and Family") and I also included on the RSVP card a children's entree selection that reads:

___ Children's Chicken Fingers Entree

(12 years of age and younger)

I only printed a handful of these RSVPs with this additional "children's entree" selection and the rest do not have it, since we are not inviting all of our guests' children.

Hope this helps... If all else fails just make sure that you address the invitations accordingly. Although, now I'm thinking that what if you have a family with a 16 year old and 12 year old siblings? How can you tell the 16 year old they can come and the 12 year old needs to stay home? Technically, the term "adult" applies to 18 years of age and older... if you don't have this situation, then I wouldn't worry...

Thanks,

i think i'll put adult only reception and for those with the handful of kids, either tell them personally or just not print it on their invite

for the response maybe each name and

____ of 2 attending

i also have to put the meal entry on the response card

I have seen where the wording says:

Adult Only Reception

We reserved two seats for Amy and John White.

______ Chicken Dinner

_______ Steak Dinner

This is what I was thinking about doing. IDK YET

I put, adult reception...and those immediate family who are allowed to bring kids already know it . They were told privately

Ok, so if i word it like this, what else do i need to say on the reception card?

PLEASE JOIN US FOR AN

ADULT ONLY RECEPTION

AT SIX-THIRTY IN THE EVENING

THE LAKEWOOD COUNTRY CLUB

145 COUNTRY CLUB DRIVE

LAKEWOOD, NJ 08701

I was just in a friend's wedding who did the same thing. She actually added an extra card in with the invitation that said something like "Due to limited space at our venue, we ask that our guests be at least 15 years of age". I don't think that was the exact wording, but it was something along those lines.

I like the wording, "While children are a joy and a blessing, the bride and groom request that all guests be of age (blank) and over." It's polite but firm.

I like the wording, "While children are a joy and a blessing, the bride and groom request that all guests be of age (blank) and over." It's polite but firm.

I keep reading in all these bridal mags and online, it's not "appropriate" to write these things on your actual invitation (like not including registries with the invite). They all suggest simply naming the indiviual parents on the envelope(aka NOT saying The___ Family), and if they don't get the hint, on the RSVP card say 2 seats or something. I plan on putting "Mr. and Mrs. Boucher" and hoping they get it. Or email, or ask my FMIL!

I thought the invitations were addressed to only the people invited?? lol

Right Michelle, that's the point. If you don't see your child's name on an invitation, you shouldn't assume to bring them. Or need to add "adults only" on a formal invitation.

Due to space limitations, we request that reception guests are age 15 and older.

Naming all invitees is usually best, but you still might need some sort of explanation as to why someone's 15 y.o. is invited but their 13 y.o. is not.

Or....."Due to space limitations, the reception must be by invitation only (ages 15 and older)"

The wording is for the reception card, not the invitation.

the invitation envelope is addressed to only those invited, but i'm afraid they won't get that.

Mr. & Mrs. Jane Smith is how the invite is addressed, none of the invites will say "and family."

those that i know will bring a date will be addressed as Mr. John Smith and Guest (singular, not plural)

but I know people will add if they have the oppurtunity. especially MY family.

To avoid that, we are not doing RSVP cards, but are referring people to our website (here on WW). You can set up an RSVP function. You enter your whole guest list, and then each household (i.e., each invitation) can only rsvp for the people named on the invitation. (You can fill in a few as "Guest of" (first name) "John Doe" (last name) if you want.) Nixes that problem - there is no opportunity to RSVP for anyone else.

Then Adult Recption is best, i dont think you need to say why like limited space......its ur day u want adults why shoud it matter y!!!lol =)

I Wrote Adult reception immediately following. But when I mail the invitations. I enclosed a separate reply card for the kids that I wanted to invite.

Rsvp on line is a good idea, but I want the traditional rsvp and the excitment of getting them in the mail and besides, there are a number of people who are still not computer savy...lol...

glad it solved your problem.

I'm just going with adult reception only and then the few, probably only 3 i will tell them personally that that comment didn't pertain to "john", "sally" or "danny"..

on their response card i will have to put 4 seats have been reserved, even though one of them is under 18, then they should get it too.

oh well.

thanks for all the input