Age 13 and Up Wedding?

I wouldn't split a family....it will result in the whole family not coming../ you can always make an exception. I'm not having any children in my wedding, except for the kids that are in the wedding party

I'd do adults only or kid friendly. There isn't an in between really. It's rude to only invite certain children then say but no one else is allowed to bring their kids in my opinion but I know that a lot of couples do this. I just wouldn't myself.

For kids.. I'm inviting my bridesmaids/groomsmen's kids. And kids that I see at least twice a year or so. I'm not inviting my distant cousin's kids. (There's like 30 of them!) I hope they don't find it offensive. But it is mine and my FH's day and we don't want 30 kids there that we don't even know. If they don't like it then it's their loss.

We are having a 21+ wedding!

Either you have kids or you dont. I think you are making it more complicated with trying to have a teenager/adult wedding.

I've seen an invitation with no kids and it does come across as rude. I was there when a mom read this and her feelings were hurt.

Me personally I don't want children either. Not because I don't like kids, love them. I choose an adult only resort for our wedding to fix that.

What about instead of drawing the line at age, you do it based on relationship? Kids from our family were invited but our friends' kids (and parents' friends' kids) weren't. It was a size issue. And our family's kids can all sit together and entertain each other.

Ours is 18 and older.

Thanks everyone for your advice! We are definetly not going to split families - can't believe I considered that... just trying not to disappoint/offend my family (they 100% expect all kids at wedding and will be very disappointed otherwise) but FH and I are in agreement that we don't feel it's appropriate for toddlers/kids to be at our wedding. I have many older 17-20 yr old cousins I genuinely want to invite, but they all have younger siblings around 9-13. So it's hard to decide what to do!

FH is saying it's our wedding and we can choose adults only if we want, bc I guess we can't please everyone! But I would rather have my guests happy than me. Sorry for venting! - thanks again!

You shouldn't rather have your guests happy than you. Your FH is right, it's your wedding and you can choose adults only if you want. You can say 13+ and up if you want. 20 years from now... people aren't going to remember that they were pissed cuz kids weren't invited; but you're going to remember how much fun you had when you had it the way that you intended it.