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Just Said Yes May 2018

Afternoon wedding - dry reception

Jessica, on January 19, 2018 at 11:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 29

I've seen so many opinions going back and forth on this. We are having an afternoon wedding, 1:00 ceremony and reception ending at 5:00. For multiple reasons, including the fact it's an afternoon wedding we are having a dry reception. Would alcohol still be expected at an afternoon affair? The reception is more-or-less going to be like a picnic. It's family only, maybe 60 people. The reception is going to be inside and outside (weather permitting) and I honestly just want a relaxed, fun, everyone mingling kind of afternoon. I'm already expecting there won't be much dancing and I know on my side it'll be a lot of catching up and "clucking in the hen house". Should I have immediate family members spread the word it will be dry?

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Latest activity by Dawn, on January 24, 2018 at 10:57 PM
  • ACD
    Expert October 2018
    ACD ·
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    Yes it would still be expected.. beer, wine and champagne would suffice though ! I personally would want wine and champagne even at a picnic Smiley smile

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  • Maria
    Master June 2018
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    People would still expect alcohol, even for a morning brunch wedding. Serving beer and wine sounds perfectly reasonable for an afternoon wedding.
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  • LaraLouM
    Super May 2019
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    I believe beer and wine should suffice, dry is a big faux pas though.
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  • Btbride
    Super August 2019
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    I'm in the extreme minority about this on this website, but I don't think that having a dry wedding is necessarily wrong, terrible, or rude. I will say, though, that people who are otherwise drinkers probably would expect alcohol even at an afternoon wedding, but they'd probably just be expecting beer and wine in the afternoon as opposed to a full bar with liquor. You know your crowd best- if they're drinkers then maybe spring for beer and wine if you're comfortable with that, but if you've got a crowd of mainly non-drinkers or have a religious opposition to alcohol, then go without.

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  • redhead
    Devoted August 2018
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    I drink beer at picnics. Or
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  • Heather
    VIP January 2019
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    Spread the word, just in case. But I can't say I would mind going to a dry wedding, and definitely not a dry picnic. Have fun.
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  • Allison Nicole
    Dedicated April 2018
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    I am having a morning/afternoon brunch wedding and the only alcohol we are having is champagne for toasts. I was concerned but have brought it up with many of the people invited and no one said they would miss having alcohol. We aren't planning on dancing or anything though. More of just a luncheon reception. But I think most guests are aware of my mother's history of abuse with alcohol and how that abuse reflected back to her kids so honestly I don't think people were expecting me to have alcohol anyways. My fiance supports that decision and every time I ask if maybe we should, he says no because he knows it would make me uncomfprtable. It is your day and people do not need alcohol to survive or have a good time at your wedding.
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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    No-one's going to tell you to your face that they would miss alcohol.

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  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
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    I had never even heard of a dry wedding until I came on WW. All our parties- baby/bridal showers, kids birthdays, holidays, weddings- have all had alcohol, no matter what time of day it was. Our ceremony began at 11, and we had a full bar. The groomsmen were toasting with beers at 9:30 when we started pictures.
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  • July18Bride
    Super September 2022
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    Beer and wine at the minimum....
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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    I’ve attended dry weddings and had plenty of fun. I’ve been to weddings with full bars and were zero fun.

    If you don’t want to serve it, don’t!
    They can take shots in the car beforehand if they need it that badly!
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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
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    In all likelihood, there will be alcohol at your reception - your guests will bring it. They'll have flasks or coolers in their vehicles.


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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    Beer and wine. Where is this being held? I get the impression that you would be able to bring in your own booze which will save a lot incomparison to getting it from a venue. People do like booze to celebrate, it is what it is.
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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
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    We are having a dry wedding, and our reception is in the evening! No one will miss the alcohol.
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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
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    Because not all families need alcohol to celebrate. So...they won't miss it.
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  • J
    Just Said Yes May 2018
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    No, we would not be able to bring our own. The venue is catering, no outside food or drink.
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  • J
    Just Said Yes May 2018
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    It's not a question of whether or not the reception would be dry. For personal reasons among other reasons, it is going to be dry. I more-or-less was wondering if or how we should let people know, I was thinking word of mouth would suffice. I don't know of 1 person in either of our families that will be offended. And if they are, I honestly don't care. Everyone on my side knows where I stand when it comes to alcohol.
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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
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    I say yes .. at bbq alcohol is served . It's also not a bbq it's a wedding .. beer sangria , margaritas lol
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  • FutureMrsHill
    Expert April 2018
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    I would let my guests know. So there's, no confusion when they arrive.
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  • FutureMrsHill
    Expert April 2018
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    Also, if you want a dry wedding due to your personal choice, that's fine.... Do not blame it on having the reception in the afternoon, because happy hour/brunch occur at that time.
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