After wedding day sadness

Hey everyone,


I apologize for this long thread. So this past weekend I got to marry my best friend, which was a long time coming; after postponing our first wedding date due to covid. Two years, I took time into planning a perfect day (twice) I know there’s no such thing as perfect, but I did everything I possibly could to make it as seamless as possible. I put thought into every detail, and accommodated family as best as I could with Covid.
planning my wedding, the wedding day, and after has not been great. If someone asks me how my wedding day went, all I say is how it was okay. We got married on a cabin resort in Tennessee. Some of the cabins that my family booked for the wedding weekend were sold, we had to find other cabins for my family to stay. Our day of coordinator told us two months before the wedding that she double booked our date and couldn’t attend. Now having to hire someone else and get all the decorations myself. We had a groomsman drop out a month prior to the wedding (we got all custom made suits). I went on a wild goose hunt to find a suit similar for another friend to fill in. I guess I was just dealing with a lot up to the wedding day.
The day of the wedding it rained (I thought how fitting) our ceremony was supposed to be outside in a gazebo. It was moved inside the lodge where the reception was held. We hired a well known and rated shuttle service so that our guests would not have to travel on steep mountain roads to get to and from the ceremony/reception. Everyone was staying in cabins on the resort where the wedding was held. The shuttle service supplied us with a beat up van, with dents, and no logo of their business. My guests didn’t know that it was a shuttle person coming to get them. The shuttle also couldn’t get to anyone’s cabin due to the tires being bald. My ceremony was 45 minutes late because I had to wait for all my guests to get to the ceremony and pick us up. Ceremony went fine. Afterwards, I was told my bartending service would not allow my guests to drink the beer and wine I brought while waiting 45 minutes for the ceremony to start. They did not supply a second bartender/ server like I had paid for. They also ended 30 minutes early. When I went up to the bartender, he told me while my guests were standing there, that he was leaving at 9:30p regardless of what my contract said. The food my catering company supplied was nothing like what we had at our food tasting and they forgot to give us cookies, which we paid for. The bartending service did give us a reimbursement for the second bartender. I reached out to the catering company and she said because I didn’t go up to the catering manager myself the night of the wedding, there was nothing they could do. Although, I did tell my day of coordinator, I did not have time to tell anyone else about how upset I was. Things were already very delayed, my husband and I were being pulled in every direction. I’m just frustrated with the service our vendors provided. Although, I may have gotten some reimbursement back it doesn’t take away the hurt memories of the wedding day. I heard whispers about the food that was being served. I just wanted everyone to have a good time, and for my husband and I to enjoy our day. To make matters worse, many of my husbands family did not even give us a card. Which is weird because they support our marriage. In my head all I can think, is it’s because the wedding details that I explained above didn’t go as planned. Im trying not to focus on the negative but i can’t seem to get past it. Once we got home, it seems like it’s all I can think about. If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you reading all of this. I just pray other brides don’t have to feel the way I do.