After the sparkler exit...

Can you hire someone to do it?

My DOC is helping with cleanup. Caterer will take away food and plates, rental company will take away chairs and linens, and my DOC will remove decor and put away the tables that belong to the venue.

Jenny, that's why I was asking...

It confuses me that you have a grand exit... and then walk back in..

Yes I clean up my own parties but after my guest leave.. in the case of a wedding ..I Am the one who leaves.. that why I am confused...

So grand exit and then go back inside ???

Venue won't help

I don't know what doc is?

Is this a trick question?

You also don't HAVE to have a grand exit. ETA: DOC = Day of Coordinator. Pretty much a wedding planner that you only pay for the day of the wedding

@Morgan DOC is a day-of coordinator.

ETA: I'd look into hiring one if I were you. I personally would not want to be cleaning up crap on my wedding night.

Hire people to do it so that your friends and family aren't working on your wedding day. Then change your double ring avatar.

How much will you have to clean up? Are you having tons of DIY stuff that you want to keep?

I am also contemplating a send-off because our venue requires people to be out by a certain time and that would be a big clue that the party was nearing the end! The venue needs us out by 10pm (but will give us until 10:30 to clean up). I was thinking of having the send-off around 9:30, then circle back around to help clean up! It won't be weird if you don't want it to be

Look into hiring someone. Don't have your families and friends clean up.

Pay a couple of local college students $100 each if you don't need a DOC. Let someone else deal with the cleanup if at all possible.

Not sure if it's tacky or not, but a friend of mine at her wedding handled it this way: She had her big send off and went with her new husband to go change. Because it took them a bit to change, then they came back and most of the guests had left and the bridal party had just started the cleanup when my friend came back to help.

Do you have a DOC? Typically the venue staff cleans up but you will still be responsible for taking any decorations with you that night.

Our wedding was at our aunts house. We stayed to clean up and did have some help but never asked for it. All we did was clean up trash and food. Then the next morning we went back to get all the decorations, get the rentals ready for pickup, and clean the indie of their home since we had taken over for the week.

Yes we had some help from my best friend and parents but we didn't expect it. (It's like the people who insist on helping you clean up after a holiday dinner).

I'm going against standard WW procedure here, but asking close family to help you throw stuff in the car at the end of the reception is not the worst thing in the world. We're having a very small wedding, and a DOC is $1,200 for the day-of here. If my parents couldn't/wouldn't help me clean up, I'd probably have to end up hiring someone due to the short timeframe we have to clear out the ceremony location and get to the reception, but my parents are very willing. After the reception (no grand send off, because we don't like those) we're just going to grab the decor, stuff it into tubs, and pack up the car with the decor, gifts, etc.

It's not cool to ask your family to do major physical labor like moving chairs or taking down tents, and it's not cool to ask people to stick around and pick up dirty dishes or do dishes---all that stuff should be part of your vendor packages (make sure that it is). But asking family just to help you carry a couple boxes and the gifts back to your car at the end of the night? I think that's okay--as long as you are there and helping.

If you truly plan to do a grand send-off and leave, never to return, then you absolutely need to hire a coordinator that will handle the clean up for you (or hire people for you).

I have seen this on Pinterest and always wondered if the bride and groom just left the people behind. To me it just seems rude to be like "okay bye, thanks. Oh by the way, clean up after me". I'm also a control freak and maybe that's why that went through my head haha.

Ok, thank you everyone . DOC for 1200 totally out of question..

I really like the idea of leaving to change and going back to clean.

An I know text can come off in a rude tone when it's not intended to.. but everyone please realize this is my first and hopefully last wedding.. when I ask the forum a question ..YES I am serious..NO, I really don't know the etiquette. That WHY I am asking the question.

I've only been to 1 wedding in my adult life, and I didn't stay to the end because we drove 17 hours went to the wedding and we're exhausted and we left early to sleep at hotel.

Thanks again to everyone for their helpful advice <3

Easy, don't have a grand exit. Or just hire someone.